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Conservative party literature addressed only to husband

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Rollermum · 29/04/2015 09:48

Little leaflet arrived today, husband's name only. Presumably this is because he is Head of the Household of A Hardworking Family. Just us? And WTAF?

Never mind my three degrees in Politics, eh? I don't want a separate leaflet addressed to me or anything, but why not both names, 'to the household' or just not addressed like the other parties? It was in a clump of mail shot stuff anyway.

This slightly reminds me of the time the Tory and Ukip councillors both turned away from me as I arrived at the polling station (pushing DD in a pram). Had been greeting everyone else as I walked up.

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kitchin · 29/04/2015 09:52

LTB.

slicedfinger · 29/04/2015 09:52

I think it sounds like they just know better tbh. Any political stuff to our house either only comes to me, or to both of us. I really wound DH up about a Tory mail out coming to him few weeks ago, only to get one myself a few days later. ?? I'd hate it if a UKIP supporter looked at me and thought I might be fair game for a bit of support.

kitchin · 29/04/2015 09:54

Sorry, couldn't resist it. That is painfully patriachal.

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Rollermum · 29/04/2015 09:56

Sliced finger - oh no, I was looking forward to getting on my soapbox about it! Grin will keep eye out.

Fair point on the Ukipper. But Cons too. Maybe I had my rabid left wing face on.

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Twirlwirlywoo · 29/04/2015 09:56

I have just received some bumph through the door adressed to the the previous 4 tennants - A and B Smith and A and B Jones.

Same envelope - 2 totally different families.

They are addressed to both people in each couple although I did think this was taking paper saving to the limit - do they think another family moved in with the previous tennants! Confused

Are you definately down to vote on the electoral roll?

I had to register as we moved here in January. I have had some bumph through the door from some parties as my name has only just filtered through but DH hasnt as he didnt get around to registering in time.

YesILikeItToo · 29/04/2015 09:57

I doubt it's been generated by a 'man of the house' algorithm. Some targeted mailing policy will have been involved, but more likely based on polling, old canvas returns, marketing info or indeed simple maleness. I wouldn't hold it against them, really.

FuckingLiability · 29/04/2015 09:57

There was another thread about this yesterday.

I honestly don't think it's deliberate. We've had leaflets addressed to both of us and each of us. TBH, I'm more irritated at the use of the electoral register to send junk mail when we've opted out.

queensansastark · 29/04/2015 09:58

I sometimes get mail addressed to Mr. Queensansastark which I think is quite funny.

newbieman1978 · 29/04/2015 10:01

We've had tons of stuff through from all parties which come though in duplicate for my wife and I. In our area they get your info from the electoral register which we are both on.

Too late now but I hope you have registered to vote? You have to register individually now.

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Rollermum · 29/04/2015 10:04

Hm. Seems to overreacted. But no, def registered to vote. I've got my card and everything.

And yes on the bloody junk mail. I will never never ever use Virgin Media on this basis! So much paper. Thinking about it that is also directed to DH. He wouldn't know his arse from a broadband provider.

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kitchin · 29/04/2015 10:05

If it is unsolicited, how else is the OP supposed to interpret it? There are only two options here:

i) Another leaflet will arrive with the OP's name on it, in which case the Conservatives are guilty of wasting money.

ii) They are only sending one piece of advertising and they are still living in the nineteenth century.

I'm going for the second one.

glenthebattleostrich · 29/04/2015 10:06

Labour did this to us! Conservatives sent one each. And door knocked! He was a nice bloke

kitchin · 29/04/2015 10:08

Oh glen. Grin

AngelsWithSilverWings · 29/04/2015 10:12

We had the opposite. The Tory leaflet was addressed only me. DH got one addressed only to him from the Lib Dem candidate.

They both went in the bin anyway.

We've had nothing from the Labour Party even though we are both life long Labour voters. They don't bother canvassing around here unfortunately.

chrisrobin · 29/04/2015 10:16

All the leaflets (including the Tories) that have come through in my area are addressed to either me or my husband, none have been to both of us. My husband's all came through last week, this week is my turn and they are all addressed to me. I assumed it was so they essentially get to mail shot the house twice, doubling their visibility to the household, and also because we are two separate voters who may vote for different parties.

WalkingThePlank · 29/04/2015 10:21

I think they want to maximise how many people read the post. First mailings go to the first person on the electoral register, a second mailing goes to the second person on the electoral register etc. Also targeted mailings go to different people, depending on what you've told them at the door previously etc.

It's nothing patriarchal or sinister.

Count your blessings, I keep getting UKIP stuff sent to me and I have the Farage staring at me with no warning.

MiaFarrowsWheelbarrow · 29/04/2015 10:22

We have had two lots of identical Tory bumpf addressed to my DH and my DS1 who is voting for the first time. I was more than a little bit miffed to have been missed, the underlying message I have received there is that the woman's vote/influence/opinion isn't important to Mr Cameron. Far better to have addressed one to each household surely?

WalkingThePlank · 29/04/2015 10:24

One to each household means that the first person to open it decides if the rest of the household gets to read it (or not).

grimbletart · 29/04/2015 10:32

All our Conservative election addresses have been addressed to me. None to my husband. None of the other parties have sent personally addressed messages to either of us.

AndWhenYouGetThere · 29/04/2015 11:50

I'm on the electoral role, as is DP, and neither of us have got any bumpf from anyone! I feel a bit dejected, to be honest!

Doodlekitty · 29/04/2015 12:09

We had this in the last election but from labour. I was foaming. Not only am I the one who pretty much forces dh to vote but at the time he was not dp and had only just moved in to the house that I had owned for years. But he got a letter not me.
This time labour have written to me and not him. Go figure.

Im also annoyed that every party has written to us except the lib dems, who I usually vote for. I think we are the 2nd safest labour seat in the country but it would be nice to not feel written off

balletgirlmum · 29/04/2015 12:27

Dh gets everything addressed only to him because he is registered as a postal voter.

pinkgirlythoughts · 29/04/2015 12:43

We've had one each from the Conservatives, and one from Labour that was just addressed to me, plus lots of unaddressed stuff from all parties.

thehumanjam · 29/04/2015 12:45

It is random I have received literature from all of the parties and dh hasn't received any.

NotCitrus · 29/04/2015 12:57

I think they buy mailing lists, or else send only to people who haven't told them to get stuffed. We got a Tory leaflet addressed to next door, Her Name, His Name, Child 2, Child 4. Grown-up children 1,3 and 5 were left out.
Asked Mr Neighbour who told me to chuck it in the bin!

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