Feminist Pub 16: where the Bluestockings develop armoured stockings to deal with the thousand paper cuts

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Carry on.

I just got revolution for 99p off eBay - result! As for the way women communicate I totally agree. You can train yourself to make statements like men do. I think or I feel are ime perceived as passive.

I like your new name, DrBuffy

All hail Dr Buffy, the Officially Awesome!

That's great Buffy

Oh I don't doubt it's nuture. Will check out the book.

ha ha! love "they got the doctorate out"

Big huge bottles of champagne for dr buffy

Ooh. Dr Buffy. Well done

Yay for DrBuffy.

See - I use 'I think' if I don't know, and just state the fact if I DO know (or at least, believe that I know, which may or may not be the same thing.) I also teach students to write papers that sound confident and knowledgeable - state facts, don't prevaricate.

What really drives me mad is when I say something very clearly, like 'put that there' (with pointing to the place) and someone says 'are you sure? did you think about?"

I tend to just stare at them until they finish, then repeat the exact instruction again, to make sure that they got the message.

Last time we moved house, 3 of the unpacking team were great, but there was another younger guy who kept asking a second time, or saying 'what about'. I ended up giving one or two word commands to him, e.g. "upstairs, bedroom 2" with NO attempt at politeness at all, until he got the message that yes, I did know exactly where I wanted my furniture in my house.

I'm really good at speaking clearly and meaning what I say without 'fluffiness'. Men are not always nearly as good at listening.

Well done DrBuffy YAY!!!!

This is a rather fine pub, and you lot do talk a lot, there's a lot of interesting stuff to read.

Poor Buffy.

Sofa soft? Fire pretty?

Nap good...

Yay for Dr Buffy, the reasonable feminist.

Not a big one for Buzzfeed, but sometimes they come up with a corker. I give you If Hermione Were The Main Character In “Harry Potter”

Fab!

Well done Buffy!

I know someone who always disagrees with me when I say "I think", even though her alternatives are ridiculous. I use "I think" when I'm not sure. Or I use "I think" when I'm sure, in the context of IMHO, eg. "I think you are wrong and you are an idiot".

Ah, see, I use 'I think' when I mean 'this is my original slant on the evidence and don't you bastards plagiarise it'. It's not remotely hesitant; in fact it's a stronger claim that a mere statement, because it carries a hint that you know this is a new and/or controversial point.

I am far too tentative in my writing/speaking, though, and it annoys me.

I use "we think" and "we believe" in writing about other things. Never use it about myself. And I use "I think" when I talk to mean precisely that... And I say "What do you think?" when I feel defeatist, and I say "What do you think." when I mean "this is the best idea you are going to hear - if you have something better then say it otherwise shut it." I think mostly they go according to plan...

I like that.

I do like that Harry Potter Hermione Granger.

Sorry, I was tired. 17 hour days don't suit me. I'll consider myself told. :o

Actually I think that you made an interesting point about how ongoing conditioning in supposedly equal professional jobs affects people. You tend to think of it as an influence of wider society that your work isn't cancelling out. Or I do.

Off-topic but I have had an interesting day mordanting handspun yarn in preparation for dyeing tomorrow. I'm quite excited because I've got some natural dyes (both bought and collected) and you don't quite know how they'll turn out and it's the first time I've done this

My new job means I actually have time to do stuff like this which is nice