But I don't see how engaging in lively discourse with someone like that blogger and saying "sorry, sister, you go too far for me" would make you a) a man-hater and b)not a feminist.
I don't think that it is ok to threaten violence to men more than it is ok to threaten it to any and I think it's a good point about the guy with the shirt.
But....but... Women are subjected to this kind of violent threat and scrutiny about their clothes daily particularly if they put their head above the parapet (musician, News journalist, academic) and it is extremely tempting to think "what if the boot was on the other foot?" How can we make men understand that sexual violence and insecurity about our appearance stalk us daily? Maybe the only way for them to "see" it is to feel it.
I'd like to think that most men could have the scales fall from their eyes by reading Everyday Sexism - who now sees the patriarchy everywhere like I do - but they would have to click on the link first. I'm not sure I can wait that long.
For years women have exercised their power in ways that were "acceptable" to men - in my circle growing up and family, the men were agreed to be a bit stupid in spite of being President of the Law Society, business leaders etc and the women wielded enormous power behind the scenes using "feminine wiles": subtlety, social networking/climbing, downright sneakiness etc.
Some were suffragists (granny etc) but not radical.
But after a hundred years of feminist activism there is so much still to do. It is tempting to want to smash the patriarchy with a hammer instead of carefully unstitch it with a qwik unpik and restitch it.
We need that divergence of approach, because no battle was ever won on one front.
All political movements proceed in a zig zag fashion with pulls from the moderate to the radical. Why are moderates labelling themselves as anti-feminist?
That said, DH just told me that staff at Oldham Athletic have had death threats over Ched Evans. Unhelpful and stupid.