Going back to an earlier bit of the discussion, I totally agree that we should try to avoid the keyboard warrior over-reaction tropes (embarrassing since it's quite a few years since I did any RL feminist activism, in the form of Trade Union campaigning for a childcare voucher scheme at work... I plead small child). And I think on occasion we have as a group got drawn into getting over-concerned about extremists on the internet (talking about the ones who simply post shit, rather than the sort who go in for "doxxing" feminists they disagree with, i.e. posting all their RL details together with incitement to violence) - sometimes we need to step back and say "hang on a minute, these people aren't representative of group X (whatever X is), they are in fact the Westboro Baptists to group X's mainstream Christianity."
The trouble is that while there are large groups on the internet engaging in the systematic silencing of women's voices and incitement to RL violence, it can be difficult for feminists to tell the difference between the Westboro baptist fringe types and the genuinely dangerous.
The other thing is that we can't win. Get upset about internet rape threats, and we're not engaging with the real world. But then when some of us focus on real life issues, we're told they don't matter either. (E.g. the poster upthread who said he/she thinks equal pay is unimportant... well, excuse me, it is massively impotant on two grounds. First off, in my real life, I'm the sole wage earner in my household - I keep the roof over our heads and put the food on the table. I'm damned if I see why getting the same fair rate of pay for the job is unimportant because I'm a woman. And second, like it or not, we live in a capitalist society, where, acquisitive or not, the amount you're paid reflects the value that society places on you. So to say across the board - because it is across all education levels and all social classes that there is a pay gap - that the pay gap doesn't matter is to say women are unimportant).