Lapdancing and telling off dh's mate.

[Manchesterhistorygirl]

I blame you lot. Thanks.

Last night dh's friend was telling him all about his recent visit to a lap dancing bar. I told him he and his mates were a bunch of twats and I was disgusted at them all, especially since they all have partners.

I also told dh if I ever found out he'd done the same it'd be the absolute last thing he ever did.

So my nest of vipers, thank you for giving me the confidence to handle a situation I've always found disgusting, but wouldn't have ever spoken out about until I joined here.

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I'm honestly trying to envisage a situation where my wife has a mate over & they're chatting & I wade in calling them a bunch of twats etc. and I can't, honestly, think of a time it'd be acceptable.

No matter how strongly I felt on the subject, I don't think that dealing with it like a kid in the playground would imply that I was in any way competent to talk about it like an adult.

And I don't care if you're male or female, it doesn't matter in this case - no need to be an ignorant fucker.

As to those complaining about the "DV" threat the OP made - Grow Up for fucks sake.

Lol. I did the feeding though, if that's what you want to call me.

You bothered to search for that? Or is it a diet aid?

You know what gets my goat about goady stupid crap claiming a woman threatened to kill her husband when she quite obviously did nothing of the sort?

It is that it makes a mockery of actual real domestic violence.

Slow Hand Clap for Yougotbale.

I know women must be made to STFU at all costs but do you not see how offensive it is for you to come on this thread and accuse Manchesterhistorygirl, who is a real live person of threatening her partner with murder? I'm now off to report your posts as IMO they are offensive personal attacks.

Manchesterhistorygirl - good on you for speaking out. Ignore all the crap, and keep up the good work.

But if you were black and they were joking about the attending the Black and White Minstrel Club, right there in front of you? Someone used that analogy above and I think it's apt.

You wouldn't say Oh you have no right to be angry, you should just suck it up, and be nice and quiet. Nobody would expect that, would they? Everyone would understand the anger was justified, and when people are angry they may be, er, less than diplomatic.

Beach, it's my opinion but I suppose if you don't like it, report it.

The OP didn't deal with it like a kid in a playground comingalongnicely. It is offensive and dismissive to suggest that standing up for yourself is akin to behaving like a child.

Threads like this really do show how much men dislike women stating opinions, setting boundaries and disagreeing with them.

Woman Expresses Opinion to Menz and Uses Figure of Speech Shocker!!

It is just so Daily Fail. And stupid.

No, I don't like your accusations that the OP threatened her partner with murder. I don't like them at all.

Mainly because they are offensive but also because they are deliberately stupid.

Scallop - totally agree. As I have said many times, standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is fantastic.

Leaving abuse out of these processes is a must, agree?

I only differ because have seen what was said as abusive. That is all.

Oh just drop it.
You made your point

Everyone disagrees.
Enough said.

Sorry reviewsie

So every time someone says "I could have killed him/her" or "I wanted to strangle him/her" you call the police, do you? And how does that go for you?

X-posts Buffy!

Way to go Manchester ! Coming on MN and FWR in particular has helped me to become much more confident in expressing my beliefs as well. Calling your DH and his twatty fiends out was exactly the right thing to do.

Don't listen to the rent-a-goady-fucker mob. Any thread like this gets crayoned all over, because, how very bloody dare women have opinions, state those opinions or make it clear that whatever we're calling twats out on is misogynistic/woman-hating behaviour.

I have enjoyed the kittens though.

Buffy - figure of speeches beginning with 'I.....' are different in my mind.
Maybe abusive is wrong because it could be a one off and not a long running thing.
I'm not comparing it to rape. But on that subject I don't like sayings like my Facebook got raped, my email got raped, or if it was a more expensive taxi, I've heard people say the taxi driver raped me. I don't like and won't use these.

The reason behind my opinion is the use of the language. Deeper than that, the meanings of the words. That is my reasoning

There is no abuse yougotbale. Stop trying to insinuate the OP is abusive. It is really offensive.

I would have to say your posts on here seem abusive yougotbale. Gaslighting, turning the argument round on to the OP rather than discussing the bad behaviour of the man exploiting women. Goading and provoking, continually even after several posters have complained about it. Those are pretty abusive traits.

OK. I just reported your posts personally attacking the OP and accusing her of abusing her partner and threatening murder. There were quite a lot of them, about a dozen.

This sort of crap is soooo typical. Woman opens mouth and speaks out against misogyny. Woman seeks a little sisterhood and exchange about speaking out against misogyny.

Woman is personally attacked and has wildly fanciful and offensive slurs thrown at her. Repeatedly.

It is so transparent.

Woman shuts the fuck up as is her place is hopefully spurred on to continue speaking out against misogyny.

Manchesterhistorygirl - you go girl. See how they really don't like it when we speak up. The vitriol is quite something. Hope you are OK after all this personal and offensive attack.

Buffy - I think it's the way in this threads OP to control someone's actions. It sounds like a threat rather than a reasonable setting of boundaries. It doesn't really describe how the OP feels as such. Apart from it would make her angry enough to kill. It describes what will happen to him.

I don't know her and it sound manipulative to me and possibly abusive.

Totally agree with you scallops.

Yougotbale's posts attempt to gaslight the OP and the rest of us really obviously and badly.

Hence why I reported.