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"as a man.." "I am a male and..." "speaking as a bloke..."

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AnyFucker · 20/08/2013 23:47

Oh do fuck off.

That is all

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YoniTime · 21/08/2013 10:19

Speaking as a woman, I really like the cut of your Jib AnyFucker. Cake

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Winnicas · 21/08/2013 10:23

My grandad was called Fred. He was ace!

And marzipan is only ok in stollen.

And yes, the "I am Man" thing is Hmm it reeks of "now listen up, lil ladies - this is what you are doing wrong"
Christ knows how this forum has muddled along as a female-dominated site for so long!

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AnyFucker · 21/08/2013 10:25

why thankyou, YT Smile

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GrimmaTheNome · 21/08/2013 10:33

Christ knows how this forum has muddled along as a female-dominated site for so long!

tch tch, deferring to the superior knowledge of the patriarchs. SadGrin

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Suelford · 21/08/2013 11:26

"As a man" is 9 times out of 10 followed by some ridiculous generalising bullshit, just like "As a mother".

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MardyBra · 21/08/2013 11:33

I like it when you don't discover for a long time that certain posters are male -like ComposHat. To me, it means they're just joining in as fellow human beings rather than doing the mansplaining. I thought Tiggy was a lesbian before I discovered he was a bloke.

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AnyFucker · 21/08/2013 11:38

Indeed, MB. there are quite a few male posters who don't shove that fact in your face, as if it makes all the feckin' difference

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/08/2013 11:40

Now listen here. I have been prepared to tolerate this Feminists section and let you all get on with sharing your feminist views and opinions - but when some of you start dissing marzipan, you have Stepped Over A Line!! Marzipan is delicious - especially the marzipan I make (to the recipe of the blessed Saint Delia, of course).

You should go back to the trivial matters of sorting out society, and leave marzipan alone - ok??!

GrinCake

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MardyBra · 21/08/2013 11:41

Marzipan is lush.
Christmas cake stinks.

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grimbletart · 21/08/2013 11:48

AF - it's when they start "as a mere male.." you really need to have the bullshit detector set on high mode. Grin

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KellyHopter · 21/08/2013 11:52

Oh yes, 'mere male' or similar. Get knotted.

That really lights my tampon strings. Hmm

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AMumInScotland · 21/08/2013 12:14

"As a male" at the start of the sentence is up there with "I'm not a sexist but..." and "I don't mean to be nasty but..." - it is a useful clue that they are about to say something objectionable and think they have "defused" it with their preface.

I do like male posters to make some comment that makes it clear they are male if it is relevant to the discussion though, just to make it clearer what their starting point might be and save confusion. But not necessary in more general threads.

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YoniTime · 21/08/2013 14:23

My least favourite intro is something like Hi ladies I'm a man lol implying that his female audience are full of wild irrational savages who will attack him simply because he is male. Guaranteed to not make me read the rest.

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YoniTime · 21/08/2013 14:27

The other thing that sort of intro implies is that we better be nice to OP since he is a man and all.

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Bunnylion · 21/08/2013 15:40

As a male I am OUTRAGED at the opinions on this website.

I have just shown it to my wife and she is nodding furiously in agreement.

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TeiTetua · 21/08/2013 15:45

I can recall hearing a man say on a feminist board (no, he didn't start off with "Speaking as a man...") that he felt embarrassed about pointing out that he's male, as if it were a kind of exhibitionism, but then if he didn't say anything he felt deceptive, and there wasn't any right way to deal with it, but most of the time, not saying anything was definitely easier. He did sort of wonder if anything he'd be likely to say would ever make people think he was male and point it out, and if that happened maybe it would be thing for feminists to note ("You can always tell if there's a man around...") Or maybe people absolutely should sound like the person they are, so he'd be entitled.

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RightsaidFreud · 21/08/2013 15:49

It's of the same ilk as 'Speaking as a mother'. Bore off.

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GrimmaTheNome · 21/08/2013 15:51

Yes... I think that may be why quite a lot of the men who post regularly have a gendered NN, then they don't have to mention it at all.

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BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 21/08/2013 15:57

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YoniTime · 21/08/2013 15:58

I think OP and others, at least me, have a problem with a certain kind of attitude not that men point out that they're men if it's relevant.

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SunshineBossaNova · 21/08/2013 16:03

^^What Yoni said.

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Dackyduddles · 21/08/2013 16:05

It's the same as

I'm just being honest/ don't mean to offend

Or the classic

I ain't racist but

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AnyFucker · 21/08/2013 16:11

I don't mind gendered or ungendered nicknames.

It's just the entitled "speaking as a man..." trope that sets my teef on edge

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