If you want matriarchy to be declared and women "shit on men for a few thousand years" I just hope you are not white because by your theory all white people should be put into slavery for a few hundred years to make up for our past.
I never said I wanted that I said it would make things "equal" as we are forever told to dare not want more than equal, by the very men who are currently enjoying the privilege of being more than equal. The fact that you are "all for equality" and see your wife and other women as equals doesn't matter. You are not every male on the planet. Your wife is not your equal in society.
The very fact that you feel totally within your right to come on to a female centric forum that discusses feminism and women's rights and assume you deserve to be the center of our discussion and spoon fed ideology while telling women what they are or not allowed to want "more than equal" while enjoying it yourself is the epitome of privilege. I don't want a matriarchy but if I did why would that be so wrong? Men currently enjoy living in a patriarchy wouldn't i be fair for a woman to want the same?
Am I white? yes I am, have I benefited from my whiteness in society? Absolutely I have, which is why I don't feel it is my place to go in to forums for minorities discussing race and improving their lot just to tell them I hope you don't want more than equality. I hope you don't want what I have while insisting they then explain it all to me while refusing to do any research myself first.
And if I did that I would certainly not expect to tell them off for the way they spoke to me.
I do go on forums for people of color but I don't post, I find it interesting and I want to be an ally, but I also realize that while I have much to learn that white voices are more than represented everywhere else. It isn't my place to tell people how it's done. or how it should be done especially while enjoying my privilege.
You never responded to my question, do you call out all types of sexism? So if your colleague in the next desk calls a woman a girl, or a bird, or makes an inappropriate comment good or bad about a woman's looks. Do you speak up? Do you write letters to advertising companies who insist that men are the only ones who drive cars and women are the only ones who clean houses?
Do you protest in favor of women's reproductive rights? Are you in the UK do you realize that women in NI don't have acceptable abortion rights?
If you aren't doing all of those things being an ally why are you here now?
it's obvious I am defensive
Well, don't be, why should we expect you to be defensive but all be forced and expected to be polite in response.
you are obviously very bitter
well yes, maybe I am. Making a 1/3rd less what a man makes for doing the same job and realizing that because you live in a family of women that statistically several of them have been raped (even more than you already know to have been raped) and that because you have decided to be a sahp you are basically a non entity in society will do that to you.
Why not start with a forum for men that teaches about being an ally about understanding feminism?
goodmenproject.com/