sexual advances - the big question

[BramshawHill]

BBC the big question is currently discussing whether sexual advances should be accepted as a part of life.

The first speaker has said it weakens men and women if women complain about it every time, and that it IS a part of life.

Anyone else watching? Thoughts?

First time posting, hello btw!

I agree Bertie - I've been complimented like that before when I was all shiny eyed and happy with new lust love and the guy was very respectful... "I hope you don't mind me saying.." and then once he'd said it he walked off so I didn't feel crowded.

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YY promchick. It's our evolutionary destiny to eat as much fat as possible then burn it off acquiring more food, be eaten by predators, die of a number of currently curable diseases, dress in furs, live in caves etc etc. But social, as opposed to biological, evolution has reduced or removed these factors for much of humankind.

Yet somehow social evolution, which shapes our day to day lives since birth and before,, can be set aside in favour of our common DNA with monkeys when it comes to certain areas...

I have always had problems with 'can i buy a drink/take you for dinner' - the financial transaction part of courtship..with the implicit obligation to pay the person back with one's company.

Replies like 'No let's go dutch, but I would love to chat with you' or 'only if you let me buy the second round' would be charming, but I think are seldom used.

Promqueen,

Were you missing me? Two kids, retraining for a new career, end of tax year investments, planning skiing holiday, voluntary finance work for a charity....you know, real life, kind of intervened.

I am always reflecting, though.

This social/genetic argument is always argued aggressively in the direction of people's views but no one really knows how much of each determine our behaviour. Yes, human beings are unique. Yes, we certainly behave very differently from other species in many areas. However, I think it is wrong to assume that because our language is more sophisticated and the learning cortex of our brains so much larger that the primitive brain areas and drivers are completely redundant.