sexual advances - the big question

[BramshawHill]

BBC the big question is currently discussing whether sexual advances should be accepted as a part of life.

The first speaker has said it weakens men and women if women complain about it every time, and that it IS a part of life.

Anyone else watching? Thoughts?

First time posting, hello btw!

I wish it hadn't all happened. Coward that I am.

Well, yes Prom, that would be good to do. I've added to the thread.

pan, she was on the thread days before you. She's not following anything.

And I really doubt anyone else wants to read this. It is so bloody tedious.

2 sick kids, excuse me if I don't hang around to follow you.

But Hully, this thread isn't the first, is it? Can we agree to avoid each other?
Yes we are grown ups, and this stuff is massively not grown up.

LRD - FFS it isn't me bringing it up. And yes I have reported this shit. Repeatedly. Lordy.

Can we get back to the subject?

I was wondering - has anyone successfully managed to get someone to admit they did make a sexual advance in these situations? I'm realizing I have never actually reported anything sexual that's happened. I can think of some I wish I had - but I didn't, mostly because they weren't 'serious enough'. I have argued quite a lot with men in a non-work setting, but that's all.

Yes,LRD as in mediator capacity, though not immediatly with someone who has offended against me, as a man. fwiw

Yes, I think that's an issue, prom.

Yep, women know - or assume - that the men will be valued more highly than them.

They're usually right.

That's really depressing, prom. I certainly don't blame women, either (I hope I didn't imply that).

I think, psychologically, it's very difficult to put yourself in what you know will probably be a confrontational situation when you've just been in that position, too - because your natural instinct is to want to shrink away, and that includes shrinking away from the confrontation.

I have made a report of sexual harassment in the workplace,quite a few years ago. Without wishing to go into any detail,I had already left the workplace prior to making the report.
I am not sure I would have felt as able to make the report whilst remaining in the workplace.