non working mothers

[lorcana]

are non working mothers betraying their sex ?

Would a mother working as a lap dancer be seen by the OP as contributing, or challenging men on their hallowed turf, or betraying their sex?

It is a shame that a woman cannot think for herself these days. She cannot make the right choice no matter what she does. If she stays at home then she is betraying her sex and being lazy, if she works then she is damaging her child and being uncaring. Women are over-analysed, their every decision is pulled apart, their very being is questioned and yet not one person would ever dream of asking this question about a man.

I feel for my dd growing up in this world where every aspect of her life, the moment she becomes a mother, is examined, criticised and judged. I feel that questions such as those posed on this thread is a betrayal of women. Because what business it is of yours or anyone's whether a woman chooses to go back to work or not? Would you have asked the same question of a man? Don't bother to answer because you have said that you are not interested in the man's choices, so you OP are a betrayal of your sex for presuming that you have the god given right to question a woman's decision.

I posed a question .... Does that make me a betrayer of my sex ?

Why you, now? It wasn't you, before.

TheRhubarb

you have the same thoughts on this as me only you communicated yourself alot better.

People who think children should be raised by nannies/nurseries/childminders so mothers can work to pay for that care are twats. Just sayin'.

Its harder for women to get back into roles if they have extended maternity leave, childcare is worth paying for it's mainly till they go to school and then you have the extra cash and you havent got to start from the beginning.

My plan was to be a sahm but my df was made redundant and it left us no choice and i now work a 3-4 day week but still 24/7 at home!! (apart from now as im on break )

going back to work has made me remeber who i am and i feel liberated by it.
so all in all it worked out well for us.

we have family help 2 days a week though so i know that has saved us loads.

Of course I'm happy to work ft and pay for childcare
That was always the plan
The childcare allows us both to work ft,retain careers.it's a sound investment
Pay childcare,work full time.maintain career and progression.no significant break off work.we Viewed nurseries at 8wk pg and Had nursery ft place booked at 12week pg