"I can't understand why you are so angry": a gentleman pens me a note

[Bidisha]

www.bidisha-online.blogspot.com/2011/12/i-cant-understand-why-you-are-so-angry.html

I think someone may not be in a very happy place in their life.

I shall find it for you

Oh dear, what a sad story :( :o

AF - Mike the banker has form. Another woman has come forward with the email he sent her a few years ago. The new email is an exact copy in places - he couldn't even make the effort to change the phrasing tsk

Here's a link to both the emails 923now.radio.com/2011/12/12/creepy-guy-sends-more-emails/

I don't know how she could resist his honeyed words and sweet blandishments.

I particularly enjoyed his explanation of a macro tragedy.

oh thanks, christine, I got distracted in my search by the need for food

That tone is astonishingly familiar. It strongly reminds me of an over-heard train conversation. The guy talking on his phone had obviously been on one date with the woman he was speaking to and was trying to arrange a second. He spent the best part of an hour explaining (sorry, mansplaining) how he would "treat her like a lady" but she had to "treat him like a gentleman" and that she "should ask about my day before you start asking for directions" and on and on and on in the same trying-to-train-a-recalcitrant-child vein until she dumped him just outside Winchester. I almost gave myself away by cheering when he said: "No, we can't just be friends. I've opened up to you. I've given of myself. I've treated you like a lady. I can't just be friends with someone who treats me like this. Hello? Hello? Are you there?" I wonder if his name was Mike...

You haven't spent the morning scoffing croissants like I have then? I bought them for friends on Sunday but they didn't want anything to eat and it would be terrible if they went to waste

here is the one I saw

I particularly like how he continued to mansplain to her that she had given him come-on signals (when it was patently obvious she must have been itching to get the fuck away from him...)

mike the wanker banker

every woman's dream !

While you are munching on Doritos, I shall share with you the email correspondence after my last blind date to amuse/horrify you which I found this morning in a folder when I was looking for something else:

Him: Just got home.
I'm really curious about how I managed to go from special to forget it in about an hour and a half.
You don't have to of course, but I'd be really grateful if you could fill me in.

Me: I'm sorry. I thought you were lovely but just not the chemistry there for me I'm afraid. You never can tell until you meet face to face but I really wanted it to be something special too.

Him: No, I didn't feel any chemistry either. Just thought it was a bit rude to leave so soon, after I'd come all the way into London (and it was your round!).
and you need to update your photos. [he had travelled a whopping 35 mins, I had travelled for a similar amount of time]

Me: I had a babysitter who costs me £7 a hour - I told you I had to be home before 10.30. As far as the rounds were concerned, I offered to buy the second round and you insisted on paying. And those photos were taken at Christmas - I've cut my hair a little bit since so I'm not sure what you're talking about. [date was in February] Bloody hell there's really no need to be so nasty is there?

Him: just completely fucked off that's all. joking about the round, didn't know you had to be back by 10.30. 2 hours of phone calls, great. clap eyes on me, not great. not having a great day, sorry. happy hunting.

Thankfully I never heard from him again.

twat

end of

Isn't he? But he was mr politically very correct, blah blah blah.

I kept the correspondence to remind me in case I'm ever tempted to give internet dating another go :o

was internet dating all bad? I met my dh on the internet and he is (in my opinion) lovely.

I am at your date's bitchy little line about your photos needing updating. Talk about lucky escape, what a nasty immature piece of work.

Re Mike the banker, am I the only person who feels sorry for him? He clearly has very limited social skills and is way out of his depth attempting to date like that, also several people I know with aspie friends/relatives have said they're certain he has AS. He strikes me as bewildered rather than entitled.

I did go out one with one man for about six months or so ES but then it fizzled out and then I had about 3 dates after DS was born and that was the last one. The one before email man cried when I told him I didn't think there was any point in meeting up again

I must be giving out the wrong signals, like Lauren :o

Of course there are nice men who do internet dating... and nice women! But it also exposes one to people with serious, er, issues.

I fondly remember the guy who sent me various ill-composed emails suggesting a meet-up. When I politely declined, he was outraged and played his trump card: he had a first from Cambridge! How on earth could I refuse his invitation to (I quote) 'ride his nine-inch pole'?

ROFL at some of these.

A nine inch pole and a first from Cambridge eh. Some men have just got it all, haven't they.

Yes Mike the Banker might just be socially awkward, but I think the fact that he sent out the same (ish) e-mail a couple of years later, is a bad sign

nine inches?

maybe I do have penis envy after all

do you think the 9 inches was an estimation, or had he actually measured?

I reckon it might just be an estimate.

You know how some men estimate that they do 50% of the housework and when you ask their female partner, she estimates that it's about 35-40% and when a neutral researcher goes in and actually measures properly and it turns out to be 25%?

I reckon it's that sort of estimate.

at Elfenor

Sinical - I may still have his email address somewhere if you're interested?

I too suspect it was something of an exaggeration. And if true it would have been damned uncomfortable!