I don't agree that it's not worth saying Eleanor - surely we are always saying it, for a start, because there is popular view that feminists are going around telling people they have got to wear dungarees and are excluded from feminism if they wear high heels, and that view is very damaging.
I think my problem was more with the implication that other feminists are going around berating women for what they wear (blaming Miss Venezuela, if you like.)
BTW I had an interesting conversation with one of the older women at my feminist group on Sunday as a result of this - I wanted to know if she thought feminists in the 70s really had been 'blaming Miss Venezuela' (because I couldn't work out if Mary really meant that - see Mary, it is not all as clear what you were saying as you might think it is) and she said that she remembered lots of earnest discussions about whether it was ok to do stuff like Miss World protests in case they came across as blaming the women involved, but also (and this was the interesting bit she said there was a strain of intolerance among some feminists about dress, heterosexuality etc, and that (for example) the person in the group who was there in a pretty flowery shirt with long hair and her newborn baby and her husband waiting just out of sight, would not have been welcome at some of the meetings she had been to then.
I think this is an important point - one of the things the new wave of feminist activists are very clear about (and it came up in that thing last year where a women's magazine (incredibly) interviewed a bunch of people like Kat Banyard and Finn Mackay about stuff like 'Is Jordan a feminist?') is that you CAN make whatever choices you want over stuff like dress and religion and careers and still be a feminist (although this must of course always be distinguished from 'I am a woman ergo all my choices are feminist ones'). It is, in fact, our party line
. But we have to admit there have been feminists in the past who have taken a less tolerant view of what constitutes a feminist, even if we don't know any of them now.
And I think MB's article makes more sense when you put it in that context. In our context - where everyone is going around saying 'hey we all do what we have to do to survive in the patriarchy, course you can be a feminist even though you are a SAHM with a Cath Kidston obsession and a lovely vintage 50s wardrobe!' and we take that for granted, MB saying 'actually I don't blame Miss Venezuela' comes across to us as 'I don't blame Miss Venezuela unlike those angry women over there'.
Does this make sense?