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[GloriaVanderbilt]

Hello,

I just reported a thread started by 'Dittony' which had a title attacking another poster and provided a link to a blog post.

It looked like a few others had reported it too as they had posted on it.

However in A/C there is another thread with the same title, which when you click on it takes you to a page saying 'error: thread deleted at OP's request'.

The OP however would appear to be someone who posted on the first thread, but not the same person who started it.

So can anyone please clarify what happened here...assuming the second thread was not posted by the same person as the first, (which has now gone) under a namechange?

(really hope not!)

And no antimacassars.

Beachcomber talks sense

Men with genuine interest in feminism and who have a clue, take remarks like the one by LRD on the chin as a leetle joking way of saying - you are doing one of the above from beachcomber's post.

They then STFU and ponder why they might be pissing the feminists off. Then they participate in raising their own consciousness.

They don't start moaning to everybody that they don't get a fucking cookie every time they post mainstream obvious shite.

Good point Beachcomber.

Dittany has been a hero of mine for a while now and to lose her voice on this forum would be a real blow for this section.

Personally I couldn't give a flying f@k whether LRD* intended that as a joke or not, seriously we do not need several pages devoted to apologies, accusations and self-importance when we're about to lose one of the most knowledgeable and vocal feminists on this board.

What I find funny is that feminists on these boards preach equality, yet want to suppress mens freedom of speech. How is this equal?

beach, thank you acknowledging that my remark was just a joke.

I have been trying very hard to be understanding because debate and discussion is what this site is for, and obviously it's important to welcome all points of view. I admit I do not always understand bob and edd's sense of humour but you would think they would give me credit for trying to understand and listen and offering a little joke because I know the enjoy making jokes. It was meant as a friendly gesture but clearly they are both not able to take a little support and lose some of this extreme emotional defensiveness. I am quite shocked actually. I thought they wanted debate but they just want to tell me to shut up.

erm, where's anyone said aabout you making rape jokes?

#The runaway train came off the tracks...

I think you'll find it's trolls and derailers who we would wish to suppress, edd.

bob, I am not 'pissed off' as you put it ... just upset and hurt that you did not choose to take my post in the sense it was meant. It makes me feel like not bothering another time, to be honest! No one will listen to you if every remark gets the same over-the-top angry response. It's not rational or sensible.

edd, I am really upset you say that, when I have made a joke to try to be inclusive and you and bob have rounded on me and attacked me, trying to make me shut up. This is a forum for discussion and my view is entitled to be heard.

Bob, how is she escalating the lies? LRD is just repeating the same things she said before?

bob, your aggressive attitude and your swearing at me is very unnecessary and not appropriate to calm reasonable debate.

You objected strongly to my post. But it was made with the best intentions, and I will not shut up, although I will not feel like trying to be friendly and understanding towards you again if this is the thanks I get.

Bob, if you are trying to apologize and say you accept my joke was just that, that is appreciated. I think it's much better when we can all be calmer about this. I can see there is some kind of emotional issue I'm not fully aware of with you here, but I can only say how sorry I am that my well-meant post triggered it. If you are happy for me to carry on posting, that is good.

As is ours LRD. Yet when we object to anything we are labelled trolls and abused, then you try to justify your behaviour by saying "we hate the trolls"

I still do not understand why a lighthearted joke was not appreciated.

[GRIN] Herebe, you are creasing me up today!

edd, do you see that I am very upset by all of this? What am I supposed to do to show you and Bob that I am making an effort to understand you? I have tried and tried and all I get is abuse.