....this is mens talk - fuming!!

[BibiBlocksberg]

Am at work and all the men on my floor were just watching the draw as to who gets to host the World Cup.

So, colleague sitting closest to me tells the room that the UK hasn't got it. I ask him does he know who did get it then - no answer just blanks me.

Then starts talking about Blatter so I in a throwaway sort of way I said 'who, good old Sep'? and the guy turns round and in a really patronizing voice and manner tells me ' It's alright, it's not for you, this is mens talk for a minute'

WTF????????? Didn't know what to reply to that, managed to loudly say 'what a sexist and patronising thing to say to me' but then couldn't think of anything else.

Am soooooooooo angry....wish I'd thought of the 'didn't know a penis was needed to talk about this'remark in time although that would have probably got me a black mark from my manager.

Anyone have any tips of how to deal with this sort of thing in the future? Still steaming with anger here

if he ever asks you a question, like you asked him about who the winner of the bid was, you can turn to him and say

'It's alright, it's not for you, this is adults' talk for a minute'

Well done OP!

For more inspiration see www.stopsexistremarks.org/.

I was featured on there after I posted a story here and linked to them.

They broke down how I challenged a remark into:

First, say you find the joke/comment inappropriate for our current time and especially coming from someone in an official capacity.

Second, appealto the better side of the person by telling them that you "know" that they support women in XYZ field/job.

Third, explain why sexist remarks matter -language shapes behavior.

What a wanker - that coffee thing is deliberate like everyone else has said.

I would take the overly cheerful but aware-of-your-inherent-superiority-over-sexist-toerag stance. Deliberate misunderstanding is a good alternative to the plain "sorry, why are you asking me?" approach. (Your real answer was great too [frgin])

E.g.

Sexist toerag: "Where do you want this coffee put?
Bibi: "Ooh, lovely, you're making coffee? Milk no sugar please"

if persistent
ST: "But where do you want me to put the coffee?"
B: "I'm going to talk to Angela in Sales but just pop it on my desk, thanks so much."

You could do similar if he starts playing silly buggers with paperfuckingclips or whatever else he comes up with.

Good on ya Bibi.

oh i can't write apparently. That was missing a

i did wonder what the mispellt swearing in brackets was for

(How does one spell mispellt?!)

misspelt? I think? though looks wrong.

Yep checked google it's misspelt. Google now gives you a red underliney wiggle for misspelt words, cheeky feckers.

....forgot I started this thread which is brilliant because normally I would have stewed and stewed over that silly moron but was able to let it go with all the posts.

I do love MN :)