Hysterectomy help

[Momstheword91]

Hi,

just looking for advice as such.

I am booked in for a hysterectomy on the 18th of November. Been waiting nearly 2 years. Had my pre op last week, was given a leaflet and also told my the person I spoke to prior that I’d be in hospital 3-5days as it’s abdominal (either horizontal or vertical).
I had a letter come today confirming the date (unless it’s cancelled beforehand). The letter states it will be in day case unit. On the letter it says no one is allowed to wait and they will be contacted when I’m allowed to go home usually within a few hours. Am I right in thinking this doesn’t apply to me? I’m thinking they messed up because surely they know I won’t be going home the same day or even the next day? Anyone have any advice etc?
I am going to ring up on Monday and ask because it’s not open of a weekend. Just seeing if anyone has anything similar.

thanks :)

Ah, I understand. That definitely makes things a bit harder then. Being a woman is such a stress, men claim they have it hard but my gosh if they were in our shoes they’d crack!

My family are hit and miss as far as helping goes. I don’t really see my mom, but she has booked time off to help OH whilst I’m in hospital. Although he’s now moaning he doesn’t want her too - I can’t win!

I seen on another thread about someone saying if you don’t have support at home you can ask to stay in a few extra days. You could possibly try that? I’m guessing the kids will be fine and looked after whilst you’re in hospital, so for as long as you are in there, that aspect of it is sorted.

The cancer side of it brings a whole new level of worry and stress, so in theory the operation it’s self is a minor worry. For me it would be anyway.

As for the tube, no, I just didn’t think about that. My main worry is not waking up 😳 I didn’t think I had anxiety til all this started becoming real. Because I’ve been waiting so long it’s been neither here or there and then within a few weeks it’s all been like go go go. So now I’m just wishing it would hurry up! I just hope it solves my problems tbh. Because at the minute it’s making life hell. And tbh, the issues I have personally health wise from it are minor in comparison to how my OH is handling it. Men can be VERY selfish I have come to realise.

I had a ridiculously straight forward vaginal hysterectomy. Womb and cervix removed and I was still in hospital over night. I had packing in and a catheter and wasn't allowed out of bed until the following morning so couldn't have gone home even if I tried. It's got to be a mistake OP.

Yeah, I’m thinking so but it was stressing me out! And then when I couldn’t ring it made me stress even more thinking how is it possible. But now speaking to all of you lovely ladies I’m certain it’s a mistake. The only thing I am gutted about is the fact I may not have anyone visit me when I’m there. I done get along well with being in hospital. Granted hormones have played a part in my other hospital stays because of having baby but the thought isn’t great. When my youngest was 9 days old I had to go back into hospital for a week on my own because of retained placenta and my god it was hell! Hopefully this time I’ll be a bit more calm because I’m prepared x

Re the instructions to go to the day case unit - that’s not unusual at all. Often patients start off in the day unit and move to the appropriate post-op ward after the surgery. Takes the pressure off the wards a little and gives time for patients to be discharged in the morning to make space for any overnight stayers. HTH.

Ah lovely. Thank you. I may not have to ride solo the whole stay after all then. Tbh, I’d probably be better off without visitors in the grand scheme of things but it’s more for if I need something I don’t have then I know someone can pop up to me. I’m going to a hospital I’ve never been too and that freaks me out a bit x

I’m also likely at a hospital I don’t know Momstheword91 and I know what you mean that it sort of adds to the anxiety! I think my eldest would be too freaked out to see me in hospital so suspect I will just FaceTime and not have any visitors

If anyone visits me it will just be my dad or partner I’m guessing. I wouldn’t want the kids to come up if I’m honest. Not really the place for kids and like yours, it would probably freak them out. I will probably resort to a tearful FaceTime too. Not sure what it is, but hospitals make me so emotional 😂. I’m waiting on a start date for a new job…. In a hospital. Didn’t think that through did I lol. X

I had a hysterectomy Mar21. I went in through day case but spent night in HDU (I have other issues). Then ward the following day. I had full abdominal surgery as uterus was too big for keyhole. I was given the chance to go home after 2 nights but we agreed on 3. Was up walking(and swearing) after 24 hours

I meant to add that we had no visitors (covid) but I liked it. Whilst I missed my visitors, I didn't have to put up with everyone else's

I’m hoping to stay in for the 5 nights not gonna lie 😳 if they ask me if I wanna go home I’ll say no 😂. Glad to hear you were up (and swearing) so soon. That gives me hope 👌 x

That’s always a bonus! When I was in hospital after I had my children there was always someone every-time on the phone at all hours. Impossible to sleep at the best of times never mind when you have someone nattering on loudspeaker all night.

Hi @Momstheword91 - hope you are doing well! My MdT decided my fibroid wasn’t suspicious and there was a cancellation so now im
booked in in 2 weeks. Feeling very nervous!

Ah that is wonderful news! What a relief.

I am doing okay, thank you.

What date do you have your op?

Really pleased for you!

Yes won’t 100% know until biopsy but I feel much more relaxed.

Im on the 18th!

Well if they feel now that is isn’t, just stay positive in the mean time because surely they’d have aired you on the side of caution otherwise?

Im also on the 18th. Have to be there for 8am.

Yes you are right.

Good luck for the 18th! Here’s hoping we both have a quick recover

You too!

Pop by and let me know how you get on! 😊

I'm sure its a mistake which will get sorted out.

Afterwards, it's really important to follow the instructions given about not lifting, driving etc. You will feel very tired and need plenty of rest but you also need to take gentle walks every day to keep circulation going; so don't lock yourself in the bedroom. Walk around the house/garden and get someone else to restrain the youngets while you do it..
When you mend you'll feel like a new woman.

Thank you for your advice. My partner has told me it’s best to stay out of the way of my youngest as when he’s around it’s impossible to not get involved etc. I live in a 3 story house so I can escape him one way or another and still try and keep active. It’s going to be tough trying to recover but I’ll get there some how.

Good look for today! Hope everything goes smoothly.

Im last on the list because I’m being admitted and the rest are just in n out today. Gutted lol I’m absolutely starving and dying for a drink.

Good luck*

@Momstheword91 @Ridingladybugs good luck to you both today!

@Momstheword91 - good luck today. My op got cancelled and rescheduled for next week! I’m also late on the list so going to be very hungry. Hope all goes well.

@Lula74 - thanks for the good wishes!

@Ridingladybugs You’re kidding! Sorry to hear that. Hopefully it goes ahead next week. I didn’t know I was last until I got here. He said as it’s a day case unit and I’ll be admitted afterwards there’s no point doing me first. I don’t usually eat til late but I am so hungry.

@Lula74 thank you.

will come back once I’m done.

@Ridingladybugs that sucks, to be all psyched up then have to do it all again next week. Hope they do it this time!

@Momstheword91 gosh are you still waiting? Hope it goes smoothly. Your new life begins after today!