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poorpaws · 09/08/2023 07:43

Good morning lovelies

It sounds as if most of us are struggling but winning through which is to be celebrated and our hard work will pay off one day.

Accordion back had me laughing out loud and nearly spitting my porridge out. I do get it though and I do have one (as seen in M&S changing room mirrors).

Last night I succumbed to a Crunchie, omg it was heaven. I don't think I've had any chocolate for a month and I'd forgotten just how wonderful it is. In my defence, I don't drink alcohol (well only at Christmas) so this was my evening glass of wine. It was divine but soooo small. I ate it slowly to savour the taste but it didn't last long.

Food shopping this morning and I'm starting my new budget plan. I've never got much spare cash as I spend too much on food and waste money all the time, so now it stops. From today I am a frugal spender and top dieter 😱. I feel like I should have a t-shirt.

Keep up the good work ladies, it's difficult I know, but one day when we are all slim supermodels it will be worth it.

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Theredjellybean · 09/08/2023 07:48

I've had a disaster zone here..
Family staying ..lots of them...dds, dads, partners, my brother plus his dp plus their teens....it's been a lot of alcohol and food....I'm now sat with assorted dogs and the detrus of last nights dinner... feeling like a beached whale.

I know I can and must rein it in...it's alarming how a few days (ok 5) can do so much damage.

They go home all of them tomorrow...and I have five days on my own...phew....so not going near scales until next Tuesday when hopefully I'll have un done the damage

Zebracat · 09/08/2023 09:22

That’s not a disaster @Theredjellybean ! That’s the kind of 5 days that makes life worth living!

Ledochas · 09/08/2023 14:03

Well I think I've found the answer we have all been looking for.
Had a good day yesterday until dinner time, went out for a meal and picked a reasonably healthy choice but paired it with two large glasses of white wine.

A bit tipsy, when I get home I had gin and tonic... I won't say how many.

This morning I woke up to find the scales had me 3.2lb lighter. The answer clearly is... gin.

(Obviously now I'm feeling delicate so have eaten icecream.)

Zebracat · 09/08/2023 14:13

Gin it 😂is then…

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poorpaws · 09/08/2023 14:43

Bugger, that's why I'm fat then, I don't like gin 🙈

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Ledochas · 09/08/2023 16:36

I suggest everyone tries this experiment to see if gin is the answer for you too. A decent tonic will help get you through it @poorpaws

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poorpaws · 09/08/2023 17:44

@Ledochas sadly I don't like tonic either so I'm obviously going to have a lifetime of being big.

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PinkArt · 09/08/2023 18:13

A G&T has less calories than a banana. It's basically a health food!

Ledochas · 09/08/2023 19:31

Condolences @poorpaws
I'm with you @PinkArt !
Although I will let you know how much of that magic 3+lbs has reappeared tomorrow...

thenewaveragebear1983 · 09/08/2023 20:23

Another good day for me today although I did snack a bit, only on fruit and nuts but I did have a mid morning graze. Oh, and almond butter 🤦‍♀️ so probably I didn’t come in under calories today but I am now 4 days sugar, bread, dairy and processed rubbish free so hopefully that got me through this tricky day. The graze was only technically my breakfast.

I am feeling a lot better. I’m still tired and I ache but my head is a lot clearer and my food choices, although today were a bit ‘generous’ , are still really good and everything is nutritious. I probably need to drink more water though.

tomorrow I think I will take a rest day from gym/workout, but I will walk in the morning before work. I’ll have eggs for breakfast, chicken salad, and some sort of chicken ‘thing’ for dinner.

Zebracat · 09/08/2023 20:50

I jus5 spoil5 my perfect da6 with ice cream.

midnightblue12 · 09/08/2023 21:44

Hi all, I hope you don't mind me joining the chat.
I am in my early 30s, single mum to 2 young boys, work part time, live alone with my boys.... so as you can only imagine, keeping on top of healthy diet and exercise is somewhat challenging.
I've always been really good with my weight. I do have PCOS so I do find it hard to keep a healthy weight, but normally motivation comes relatively easy and I think I've always been a healthy weight.
That was until I had my second child and became a single mom. Over the last few years I've really identified that I am emotional binge eater.

The quantity of sugar and rubbish food I eat the moment I become stressed really is disgusting.

It's completely out of control, if I'm honest.

I only have about a stone and a half to lose, but being a stone and a half overweight is a big deal for me. Like I said before I've always been really good.

I guess life just changes. And after going through a rubbish time, I need to get out of the habit of comparing my weight toward it was 10 years ago when my life was completely different.

I feel like I've tried just about every day it going. They all seem to work for about two weeks. Then I get stressed or upset about something and I fail. Repeat the pattern every couple months and here I am.

I promised myself that this summer I was going to have lost the weight and I was gonna be wearing clothes I feel comfortable and confident in. But here I am heavier than I was at the start of the year.

Anyway, enough with the doom and gloom. Last week I joined slimming world and I'm ready to go again. I'm not following the slimming world diet because to be honest I can't afford the fresh food and I just don't have the time to meal prep and commit to it fully. So I'm going to the clubs as a way of keeping myself motivated and accountable for my weight, and I'm following calorie counting with the my fitness pal app. I have a calorie goal set at 1500 cal. I do go to the gym twice a week.

I know those calories may seem quite high compared to others say they eat, but any less I just end up crashing and having a big binge so I'm happy to take the slower place. I've been at it now for about five days and I really do feel so much better and more in control. It's funny how stressed eating too much makes me and ultimately how miserable that makes me. It's such a vicious cycle isn't it.

Anyway I just wanted to drop by and say hi, and if anybody has any tips or low-calorie meals or snacks to share with me then that would be great.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 10/08/2023 07:24

Hi 👋 @midnightblue12 , welcome to the chat. I did slimming world years ago, and it’s basic principles are still relevant I think- it’s too carb heavy for me because I don’t tolerate them well, but eat more veg, meat, and weigh all the other stuff and account for it still “works”. I get you on the fresh food though, but you could still use tinned tuna, frozen meat/veg, and eggs to get your ‘free food’ in. Their recipes are always nice, and so are the 2chubby cubs books which are all slimming world compatible. Do you listen to the Secret world of slimming clubs podcast? If not, I recommend a listen, it’s really funny- the three presenters on there all do SW but 2 of them only go to get weighed and do Cal counting instead.

I’ve slept so well last night, out like a light and slept really soundly. Another benefit of no sugar I think. I’m feeling good today. I weighed in this morning for a mid week check in- after holiday I was back up to 161 lbs (11.7?) , this morning I am 157.8, so 3 off - pleased with that, even though it’s probably just water. I do feel quite bloated this week, I think from increasing my veg and also I’m ovulating which always bloats me these days.

the weekend is looming away in the background, but I’m going into it feeling quite calm as I think I’m over the worst of the detoxing now and I am looking forward to not drinking!

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 10/08/2023 07:58

Hi everyone

Well we were supposed to go on holiday campervanning around the lakes and Northumberland but the weather being what it is....we thought sod that and opted for an all inclusive week away in Spain ☀️

We get back on Saturday but I think I will avoid the scales for a few days if I can!

Will read back on the thread to see what you've all been up to over the last couple of weeks once I'm settled on my sunlounger

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poorpaws · 10/08/2023 08:33

Good morning everyone.

@midnightblue12 welcome, I feel from your post you really need a good supportive group and you've definitely found that here.

I get your post, I really do. I am an emotional eater (under a little control now) and I can certainly consume anything sweet faster than anyone I know, embarrassingly my friends are 😱 at my chocolate gluttony.

I've been to just about every slimming club and slimming world just didn't work for me at all. In fact the first week I put 3 pounds on which the leader said was quite difficult (I found it very easy). Weight Watchers did work for me many years ago and I lost 2 1/2 stones with them I think. Rosemary Conley (although that folded years ago) also worked really well for me and I still follow her exercise routines.

If I were you, and I say this very kindly and without judgement, I would give up slimming world membership and put that money towards fresh food. I feel you have found all the support you need here. We are all very different weights, sizes, shapes, ages with different goals and we all appear very honest about our weight and weigh-ins, weight gains etc and we really help each other. I have to admit I still struggle with my weight but being here is my salvation and you couldn't find a better group of supportive, friendly, non-judgmental people in my opinion.

I'm just giving you a choice if money is tight, I just feel that fresh fruit, salad, vegetables etc will do you more good than a membership to a group when you're not even following their plan and doing your own thing. On the other hand if you find the meetings fun and it gives you some "me time", then that's a different matter.

This week I've done the opposite of everything we are taught when trying to lose weight, I've bought a much bigger plate! Actually it looks more like a tray with a lip around and is huge. I eat so much salad with my jacket potatoes that it was falling off the edge of my old plate. It certainly won't now and so long as I fill the plate with salad, which I do, I can't see a problem and I really like it. My daughter says I will break it in no time because it's too big, I'll either drop it or more likely smash it on the tap when washing up.

How is everyone doing this week? I've got nothing else planned and I like those kind of weeks. Weigh loss here is very slow but I don't mind, so long as the scales go down a little I'm ok with it.

Have a lovely day everyone.

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poorpaws · 10/08/2023 08:35

@MrJollyLivesNextDoor How exciting! Have a lovely holiday.☀️😁

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effiesgoldwig · 10/08/2023 09:40

Morning all and welcome @midnightblue12 I would echo what @poorpaws said if you're not following the sw diet. We weigh in together and share our progress (or lack of) weekly if that helps us, some of us weigh daily, some monthly. We have ups and downs and give each other support and advice without judgment.

I've been in a bit of slump recently but I'm back on track this week and was back down to 14st12 today (that might sound a lot but in November I was 17st10)

The sun is shining today. It's going to be a beautiful day but I'm stuck at home with a poorly toddler with a sickness bug so I'm making the most of it - there's washing hung out, the vomit soaked clothes are in the machine, we've had a lovely bath together this morning and it's all going to be ok.

@MrJollyLivesNextDoor have a great holiday! You've earned it. I'm rather jealous (never actually been on an AI holiday, camping and holiday cottages here)

We are off to wales for a week next Friday so hopefully the weather will stay good for a little now.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 10/08/2023 10:45

Thanks @effiesgoldwig and @poorpaws

If the weather had been better I would have been happy with our annual campervan trip, but ugh I just didn't fancy it in the rain and wind we had almost 2 weeks ago

Feel a bit greedy because we already have a holiday booked to Mexico at Oct half term but oh well ☀️

I'm currently sat catching up while melting on Lloret beach while DP and DS are out on jet skis.

I was 13.13 when we came away - I'd plateaud at that for weeks but it's 12 weeks until Mexico holiday and I would really love to lose at least 1.5 stone by then...

I was reading online about someone who lost 3 stone in 3 months, she was about my dap I think and she stuck to 1200 cals a day and did 1800 cals worth of exercise every day! I don't have the time for that but exercise bike burns a lot so I'm going to try for 1400-1500 cals a day and morning treadmill evening bike I think.

Zebracat · 10/08/2023 13:26

Welcome @midnightblue12 . I agree with everyone else that we are better than Slimming World, although I’ve never been, so clearly not an expert! . I’m not sure therefore what they recommend, my understanding is that frozen fruit and veg are as healthy as fresh, but we should all try to avoid. ultra processed food. I’m very good at eating the rainbow, it’s stopping that I find hard. I just had a huge salad for lunch, followed by fruit salad. Dont know what we will do for dinner. But I am having McDonalds tomorrow and I’m so excited because it’s a very rare thing. It’s a sick relatives birthday and that’s what they want. I am back under 95, and I will not allow fast food to spoil that. Might get a Happy Meal!

thenewaveragebear1983 · 10/08/2023 17:29

I used to like the slimming world church hall groups. I’d pass ds round and all the ladies would hold him and I’d get to drink a cup of horrible instant coffee while it was actually hot. One very glamourous lady used to refer to cous cous as “coo coo” like it was some french delicacy 😂 I never lost any weight though! I ate far too much free pasta, rice (and coo coo) and fruit and did zero exercise.

I do think the basic principles are good advice though. The free foods (well the protein/veg/fruit) are all nutritious and actually if you base your meals around veg, and protein, a little potato or rice, weigh your cheese, don’t eat loads of bread or cereal, cook mostly from scratch then…. You probably will come in under calories, or meet the requirements of low carb, or be able to tick the box on a lot of dieting methods really. And it can be motivating, and a good starting point. It’s easy to forget when you’ve been in tune with diet wisdom for a long time that some people genuinely do not have any idea how to eat healthily, they don’t intrinsically recognise that foods are processed or high carb or fatty or whatever. My dh is a very intelligent man and yet he didn’t know (genuinely) that clear liquids (like wine/beer) had any calories 🤷‍♀️ I think the problem with SW is that historically they have encouraged eating lots of cheap, artificial sweeteners and lots of people have a mentality of ‘quantity over quality’ and also eat far more than they need of things like potatoes, rice and pasta etc. and making things like “cake” out of muller lights and weetabix 🤮

Ledochas · 10/08/2023 19:14

I am sad to share that the gin tricked me

lifestooshorttodickaboutwithaubergines · 10/08/2023 22:06

Coo coo! 😂 I’m calling it that from now on!
Feeling quite buoyed up really, I have aimed for making small changes so to drink more water, avoid snacking between meals and cutting down my fifty odd biscuits with my evening cuppa to just one.
I have noticed that if I eat something I feel should really be a treat, I mentally beat myself up about it and feel like I’m always going to be fat so what’s the point in trying. Like I’m really quick to jump to the defeatist attitude. I really want to avoid falling into the trap of feeling like I can’t have stuff…I love food and don’t want to kill my enjoyment of it.
Finding everyone else’s comments and tips so helpful…thank you all!

midnightblue12 · 11/08/2023 07:39

Hi all!
Thank you for the support 😍
So for me, the SW groups just help to keep me motivated. I don't know why, but physicall t going to the group keeps me on track. If I hadn't of signed up I wouldn't have t stuck to it this week at all.
Had a really good week, not over ate, put lots of healthy food in my body. Stuck to 1500 calories a day.
Stood on the scales and I've put half a pound on.
Feel so frustrated. How have I put weight on when my intake has dropped so significantly.
I just want to be nice and healthy and slim.
I'm hungry, pissed off, no energy. Not looking forward to my weigh in tomorrow. But if I wasn't going I would definitely be sacking the healthy eating off today as I'm so frustrated and upset :(

Ledochas · 11/08/2023 08:22

@midnightblue12 small fluctuations, as annoying as they are, are part of the course. Someone better informed than me will have the science, but of course there's TOTM and hormonal fluctuations. So I wouldn't stress too much about 1/2lb, it may well be gone by tomorrow.