DIET FAILED AGAIN thread 4 - Everyone is welcome to join our very supportive and friendly group without any judgement. Do come and join us

Ah poorpaws..you can come off the naughty step now... apologies for missing the pedantic looking not are huge bit
John lewis are also culpable of evil mirrors.

Happy Birthday @thenewaveragebear1983 🥳
Turning 40 pretty much coincided with the start of covid for me, so ended up feeling very different to my 30s! Now life is back to normal though, it's a great decade to be in, especially if you're enter it feeling 'woop, 40' rather than 'oh god, 40'.

@Zebracat I have no advice to offer but lots of unmumsnetty hugs. That sounds really tough but it sounds like you're already processing such a challenging situation quite healthily.

I've had a very mixed week food wise. Not as healthy a weekend as I should have. Then I went out for a lovely three course meal on Monday and decided not to worry about the calorie content and have a health reset the next day. I got home and horrific food poisoning kicked in and the whole lot came back up and I've been eating tiny bland meals since. So god only knows what this week's weigh in will look like!

I lost weight just before my 40th...about four half Stone.
It heralded the best decade..I was so much braver and adventurous..
Being 40 was fantastic...

I learht to sail, I learnt to surf, I changed career path and I learnt to shear sheep among other things ..

Wow @Theredjellybean that’s awesome- both the weight loss and the adventures!

I had a lovely day yesterday- dh and I went for a run, then we went to Worcester and mooched around the shops, had a Cornish pasty and a cake, then walked along the river for a mile or so and back. I had a little afternoon nap, and then we went for a family meal which was really lovely, and a few drinks. I’ve now got 2 days off work which I intend to use cleaning my house, going to the gym, and prepping for our party on Saturday. The house sounds like a chore but to be honest, I’m looking forward to it- getting some music on and blitzing it, I’m looking forward to that!

I weighed in yesterday (I know, I know- why do I do this to myself??) - but it was a good weigh in, still under 11st at 153.5lbs. I think I expected it to be higher and that’s even more weird that I chose my birthday to weigh in, but anyway- pleased with that. I will try to rein in my eating today and tomorrow, obvs Saturday will be off the scale with food/drink , and then next week my boys are away and dh and I are both feeling like we will have/need a healthy, alcohol free week- before we go away for our family holiday.

Morning all. Sorry I've been a bit awol this week it's end of term and so the kids school have got 1001 things happening

@Zebracat you've been through the wringer! How are you doing? I've been thinking about you.

@thenewaveragebear1983 happy birthday! Hope you had a great day and enjoy being 40! I turn 41 on Sunday. It's been a good year. No sexy gardeners for me though!

@Theredjellybean that's a great achievement. I'm not quite matching it but weighed in at 14.12 today which puts me at a 3st12 loss. I'll not get those last two pounds before Sunday but it's close enough.

@PinkArt hope you're feeling better now.

@Vebrithien well done on the running that's amazing.

Today didn’t really go as planned, I am soooo tired and this afternoon I just ate rubbish, there’s too much chocolate and cake around here today! I did use my day off work productively though, I built a balloon arch and cleaned my house. I’m realistic about tomorrow, hopefully I’ll sleep better tonight and not be so tired but we’ll probably drink and I’ll be prepping party food for Saturday so whilst I’d like to be on track, I am realistic about the possibility I won’t be.

Does anyone else have this really unhealthy issue that having a bad meal gives you anxiety?
When I'm in a 'focused-on-dieting' phase I mean.

Have been doing pretty well this last fortnight and today had a very carby and calorific lunch. (Warning to those in London, avoid Gail's at all costs.)
It's only one meal I know. But now I don't want to weigh tomorrow. Hate that food creates this silliness!

Hi all just checking in really. I can’t weigh myself, and cant eat , and cant poop either so I have no idea how it’s going for me and dont really care, but I know I’ll come back to myself at some point and need to be in touch with this thread. Think it might be the medication that makes everything taste awful, or the heartbreak. Im barely moving though so guess calories need to be really low, anyway.
For a thread full of failed dieters you lot are really conscientious. Im reading everything. Happy Birthday to those there or thereabouts. You are all amazing.

@effiesgoldwig you have my permission to call it . Massiv3 achievement 🥳4 stone

@Ledochas yep absolutely. You’ll notice from this thread I don’t think I ever eat anything without some kind of internal dialogue about it. I suppose it’s summed up as ‘food guilt’ really, except it’s not really a guilt, more an anxiety like you say. I’m getting better and trying hard not to do it all the time, like you say it’s one meal - or even if it was one day, or one week… it’s not a dealbreaker. it perpetuates my scales obsession as well, I notice that when I’ve had a day off plan, I am very likely to weigh myself, even though I know I will have gained weight, as if that somehow ends it. It’s a very destructive cycle that I would like to break.

Good morning all!!

It was weigh day for me today and I’ve lost 2lbs in 4 days!

The problem I had is that I was an absolute snack addict prior to starting my diet and I knew that initially the weight would probably fall off me quite easily just by cutting out all the rubbish.

Before I would think nothing of having two hot chocolates a day, two packets of crisps a day, ten biscuits a day etc etc and I would go to the Chip Shop once a week and have a pizza once a week. I would also have absolutely huge portions (on reflection) but actually thinking they were ‘normal’ size portions.

Everone used to make jokey comments about how they couldn’t believe how much I could eat per meal and although I laughed, inside I was thinking, “But it’s not even that big?!” And I genuinely thought it.

So now I’ve cut out all crap and snacks and had smaller meals the excessive weight is coming off quite quickly. I’m losing it quicker than I thought so once I’ve reached my desired weight I will then look at increasing my allowed calorie intake and just maintain my weight as opposed to losing any more.

@poorpaws @thenewaveragebear1983 thanks for confirming it's not just me!! I agree it destructive though. Weighed +1lb today after yesterdays blip. Also got period. Hopefully it's the latter

Hi Guys

Could I possibly join you all? For some reason I’ve missed these threads previously.
I have had some very difficult life circumstances this last year and have put on a huge amount of weight quickly, been hiding from the scales but I think it’s around 4 stone. I have a history of overeating but 12 years ago I lost 10 stone and kept it off till 2020. I’m in a viscous cycle every day of wanting to stop and then gorging myself then hating how pathetic I am. But!! I want to keep trying! I’ve lost my sense of taste/smell since 2020 you’d think that would help but I think it’s made it worse lol.

So - plan is to finally put some batteries in scales for accountability and if you wouldn’t mind, putting here what I eat /exercise each day?

Hi @Atalanta1 , welcome. What did you do to lose 10stone? That’s amazing! Are you going to do the same diet again?

Weighed in at 17'5 this morning, so at least a little bit of good came from all the throwing up!
Feeling in a good place for the week ahead. I'm following 'Friday calories don't count' but then making sure I revert to healthy eating again from Saturday. I didn't last weekend which is why the loss wasn't quite as good as it could have been this week.
Welcome @Atalanta1. Rip that plaster off and find out what you weigh now, knowing that number is only going to get smaller from here on.

@thenewaveragebear1983 it was low carb, which seemed great as I could still overeat as long as it was low carb…and I did lose and was in control…but it caused me to suffer gallstones and I never want to have pancreatitis again the pain was horrendous, worse than childbirth!
I’m planning to try and control portion size but not limit myself to any particular foods. Increase veg a lot though. I’ve just bought Allen Care’s Emotional Eating book which a friend recommended.

Hi all. Went for a third swim in a row this morning (had misread previously and thought it wasn't open on a Friday morning☺️). Have bought a bit too much fruit and veg, so using it all up over the next couple of days so it doesn't get wasted! 🤭

@Atalanta1 i find low carb best for weight loss too but a bit like you, I don’t feel it’s especially good for my body generally. My biggest issue is emotional eating, and eating when I’m not hungry. My meals are usually excellent and if I just ate those I’d be fine skinny . I’d be interested to know about the Alan carr book as I used his stop smoking book very successfully.

I got a new notebook today ladies, so we know what that means right? Big diet plans, big promises, big results … 🤔 😂 but yes, I do love a new jotter and I’m determined to continue with my weight loss goals after my party tomorrow. I’ll inevitably have gained a few, I have actually decided I am just not going to weigh myself- instead, my dc are away all week so I am going to use that opportunity to get to the gym more, eat more diet friendly meals, and get more sleep- then will weigh next Friday. I went to a circuits class at lunchtime today and I’d forgotten how much tougher the daytime classes are then the 6am ones, it was a really tough workout- I’ll try and fit a few of those in next week as well.

@thenewaveragebear1983 that sounds like a really emotionally healthy plan for you for this next week, I hope you have a great party.

I’m not sure about the Carr Eating Book, I already knew I’m addicted to junk food so it’s not bringing me an epiphany?
I don’t drink, or smoke, have never taken drugs but my familial addiction genes are definitely in me (my mother smoked heavily, father smoked and was alcoholic after WWII) and you can’t avoid food completely sadly.

I just weighed myself, even worse than I feared. I have 5 stone to lose. So frustrated with myself but trying to be kind as well, it really has been an awful year.
I will never see that number on the scales again.

@Atalanta1 i use hypnosis sessions to help curb my emotional eating and bingeing, and I find they really work. The biggest issue is finding/making time to actually listen to them. I can feel when the effects have ‘worn off’ and need to re listen but I don’t always do it. When I listen daily/ every other day, I really notice a positive impact.
well done for braving the scales- you know where you are now, and what your plan is. Like you say, you’ll not see that again. I’m looking forward to seeing your results!

Today’s food plan:
B - porridge
L - chicken salad
D - fish, sweet potato & stir fried veg
Lots of water!
Three meals, no snacks, one day at a time.
Hope everyone has a nice Saturday.