I've lost 1 and half stone but no one has noticed

[achot]

and I cant even tell. I am still wearing the came clothes. I have gone from 11.5 stone to 10stone.

Why can no one see it and why cant I see/feel it in my clothes ?

Well if you can't see it in your clothes that definitely explains why nobody has noticed! You must look relatively similar?

But it is a large percentage of body weight to lose without being able to see it. Have you lost it from places which doesn't affect the fit of your clothes maybe? Like your back, thighs, arms?

If you started on a particularly high weight day (eg on your period, or after a very carb heavy day) that could explain an invisible loss of a few pounds, but definitely nowhere near 1.5 stone.

How accurate are your scales? Try standing on them, then pick up one litre of water and see if the scales increase by exactly one kilo?

I think we all loose weight from different places… if your face looks thinner, then people notice. I’m assuming that bits of you look thinner so maybe accentuating that part that’s smaller will help?
Perhaps a belt or something that draws attention to it ?

Meanwhile BRAVO 👏🏻!

Well done! Tbh though, no one will notice until you’ve lost at least 3 stone (that’s if you need to, which I doubt at your weight). At that point they’ll tell you you’ve lost far too much, far too quickly🙄
Have you tracked your measurements?

Firstly, congratulations!

When you're overweight, it's common to wear clothes that are either stretchy or on the small side, so the first stone or so will be getting you back to where those clothes are fitting you properly or not stretching.

You don't say how tall you are, but if you look at an image of 1.5 stone of fat (google images) it's quite a lot in one lump, but then imagine this spread out all over a human body - even a relatively short person's - and the visible impact lessens.

It might be that people have already noticed and don't like to say anything - not all weight loss is intentional or desired and it's a bit of a social minefield commenting on it.

You will undoubtedly be slimmer and healthier, if you aren't yet at your target don't let this deter you - keep on and you will drop dress sizes and people will start to notice.

I completely understand OP

I had what felt like a real battle to lose weight - okay it was a few months of extremely boring food but it felt like hard work to me

Now down a stone and half

I cannot believe I made all that effort and I look exactly the fucking same!

Yeah, my clothes are looser, that's it

Not sure where to go from here

Stopped with the boring diet a couple of months ago and seem to be holding steady at this weight now

I did a weight training program as well
Boring
I don't know how people keep up

I have other forms of exercise that I like, but the minute it turns into something based on your appearance or strength targets or whatever it stops being fun

I think the only time people really notice is when you go from massive to reasonable or you’re getting under 25 bmi. Once you’re normal the extra pounds really show. I suspect you’re short? Also does depend on where weight is carried.

That is substantial weight loss OP - well done.

Just after my third dc I lost a comparable amount - went from 11st 11 to 10st 5 - and I could really see it. I went down a dress size, so it's strange that you can't see it.

Have you been to try on clothes in the next size down? You may be surprised to find that they fit, and that you look really different. Your old clothes will of course still fit you, but may be masking your weight loss, if that makes sense?

How tall are you?

for context, I'm 5'10 in height

I think now days people tend not to mention people's sizes so could be people have noticed but not said. Im sure if you said oh I've been doing xyz and lost weight someone would say oh yes I did notice but didn't want to say.

My sister had liposuction and not one person commented. She was actually very disappointed. I was the only one who knew she had it - this was a few years ago- and we spent hours analysing why no one commented. She looked much better though.

Oh, that will make it less noticeable, won't it? Sorry. My tall friends can actually get away with gaining weight because it makes so little difference to clothes

I have tried the next size down and it's actually still a bit too tight, well I wouldn't be comfortable with what it looks like

At that height and weight loss I would expect you to be able to feel it. Am I correct that you are now at the lower end bmi? I don’t think others would necessarily notice as you were already slim and presumably you are wearing the same clothes?

Isn't that for one area? Not really surprised that people wouldn't notice.

Interesting to hear that it works though

I didn't expect others to comment. I thought I would notice more difference.

It's possible that it's not as noticeable at 5' 10" OP - you've gone from a BMI of 23 to 21 - you were very slim to start with!

It’s obviously hard to comment without knowing you, but I think other people are just not very observant. If people see you day to day, they probably won’t notice the gradual reduction, and people you see less often might not remember.
I have one relative who I see a couple of times a year and every single time she says I look like I’ve lost weight. I haven’t! I’ve been the same weight for years, probably increasing slightly of anything.

I think the norms around commenting on other people's bodies are shifting. I've been loosing weight and have gone down a dress size but have had less people comment on it than previous attempts. Also all my weight is carried around my middle but it's probably less noticeable is you have a more even distribution to start with.

I bet they have, but they think you’re on weight loss injections and don’t want to mention it unless you do.

Everyone thinks anyone who loses weight nowadays is on the injections, so no one comments.

The simple answer is that people are not very observant, and they tend to categorise and then not re-check unless there is a significant change - you were already tall and a healthy weight, you are still tall and a healthy weight. Not much has changed so other people skim over and don't need to re-categorise you in their heads. Plus the weight lost is probably evenly distributed so no dramatic change anywhere.

I’ve dropped 2 stone since September, so very slowly, and hardly anyone has said anything. One friend, however, has said along the lines of ‘I hope it’s not too personal to mention, but you’re looking really well, have you lost some weight?’

So maybe people have noticed, and feel weight/appearance is one of those personal things - we don’t mention when we think someone has gained a few pounds, so why would we say when we think someone has lost?

This. I definitely would never comment on someone’s weight because it’s actually quite rude . Weightoss can be for various reasons. Obviously if I have a friend who is consciously trying to lose weight then I will definitely encourage and comment.

U must look skinny at that weight and height maybe wear some more form fitting clothes and see what happens x

@achot it’s tall girl problems! We’ve got more surface area to spread fat and muscle out on, so we can lose a lot of weight without looking much different. I’ve lost 4 stone and can still wear my size 16/18 shirts without them looking ridiculous, although I am now in smaller waist sizes

I don't think its usual to comment on someone's weight anymore is it? I think because some people get offended by 'talk of weight loss' and people are too scared to say anything now because of that.

One of our neighbours lost a lot of weight over the course of the year, last year. It was very noticeable. Nobody said a word to her about it. Because weight loss is a sensitive subject and we were all too scared to mention it just incase the weight loss had been because of illness or some kind of eating disorder.

Turns out it wasn't. She ended up mentioning it herself in passing and said she had been deliberately trying to lose weight for health reasons. She seemed a bit miffed that no-one had mentioned it to her but we all told her why and she got it.

I don't know if it's just my circle, but people just aren't going on as much about women's size anymore. I've been on WLI for a year and dropped several dress sizes, but the only ones who go on about it are my boomer relatives.