I've lost 1 and half stone but no one has noticed

[achot]

and I cant even tell. I am still wearing the came clothes. I have gone from 11.5 stone to 10stone.

Why can no one see it and why cant I see/feel it in my clothes ?

I’ve lost 2.5 stone over 6 months going from obese to a healthy BMI and only had one person comment. Maybe it’s because it’s been over a longer period of time so it’s not a noticeable loss each time to the people who see me often. Maybe people just don’t want to make comments about weight. Either way we are losing weight for ourselves, not others, so you just have to be pleased with your own efforts and not take any notice of what others say :)

No-one ever comments on weight loss anymore! I think it's considered rude, whereas 10-20 years ago people would say 'you've lost weight, well done', I think now it is considered bad form, as it implies that you didn't look great before...

That weight at that height you were already pretty slim anyway I imagine so maybe people are scared to say something in case the loss is health related.

Well done on your weight loss. Your measurements will have changed for sure.

I am tall as well - people outside my immediate family didn't notice my weight loss until I lost 2+ stone.

It does to some extent depend on your shape and where your weight loss mainly comes from but honestly I don’t think that’s a huge amount on someone so tall.

I’m 5ft 2 and it took me losing over two stone back in my 20s for people to notice.

I probably wouldn’t notice 1.5 stone lost by one of my taller friends.

I’ve more recently lost 3 stone but I’ve did it gradually over 3 years . At 5ft 2 that’s taken me from medically obese BMI of 32 to a BMI of 24.

No-one except for one friend that I talk freely about weight loss with has commented. No idea if others noticed but maybe don’t want to mention it in case I take offence. I don’t mind either way.

I still wore the same clothes until I’d lost 2 stone and even then I didn’t need to do a complete overhaul of my wardrobe. I eventually had to chuck out some jeans that were falling down my butt and found shoes and some dresses, felt less tight on me at the same size I’d always been wearing.

Yeah this is a good point, if you look skinny people might be worried you’ve lost weight due to stress or illness or are just not thinking it looks that great so don’t want to comment.

I had a friend who was 5ft 11 and due to poor eating habits (never eating and existing on just toast) her weight would go from 11stone to around 9 stone and she looked very thin at that weight so it’s not something I would comment on.

I think most people don't remember exactly what size people around them are, so it takes a bigger change than you might expect for people to be able to definitively recognise weight loss (or gain). If they already have you in a "tall and slim" box in their head, getting a bit slimmer won't necessarily change that.

Many people don't like to comment on others' weight. It's intrusive. I think men particularly are very unlikely to comment on a woman's weight. The only men who've said anything to me are one very good friend, and one much older colleague who said "have you been losing weight deliberately? You're not ill are you?" (We are both doctors, so this is probably less inappropriate than in other contexts!)

I have lost over 5 stone with MJ this year and only started getting comments when I was about 3 stone down.

I love a strength target because it’s about wellbeing not appearance!
@achotI have to lose 2 stone before I change dress size - it’s at that point people notice because smaller clothes accentuate the change. Loser clothes just look the same size as when they are tight.

Ah. Now I see your height as well - it’s as people have said. Slim to a bit slimmer won’t be noticeable.

Even if you're short, it takes a couple of stone before anyone notices. Even then it's patchy.

I've also lost 2 stone since September - thought I had written this comment for a moment!

I have only had two people notice and say anything, both of which I hadn't seen for some time. It's hard to see a difference for people who see you all the time as it's so gradual. (My husband does see it though and has been super supportive.)

I have dropped clothes sizes, but am wearing more fitted clothing as I feel more comfortable with my body, which I think makes a huge difference - not "hiding" in loose fitting / upsizing.

Well done OP on your weight loss.

I've lost over a stone and the only person to notice is my OH. At least he has!

My clothes are looser but I've not needed to buy more yet. I read somewhere that you go down a size for every 10lb you use. I'm wondering if that means I was squeezing myself into a size 14 before lol... But I suppose a lot of my clothes are stretchy.

So I'm with you OP. I've got another 2 stone to lose though so I'm hoping people might notice once at least the next stone has gone.

10lbs? I wish! It’s 2 stone for me!

I agree with other comments about your height and being healthy weight already but I also wonder how consistent your weight has been previously or if it’s fluctuated? If it’s fluctuated, would you have expected people to mention that you look like you’ve put weight on at heavier times?
I’ve lost 4.5 stone in 18 months, people who I have known a few years and met me when I was heavy have commented. However I was talking to a friend who I met when I was 18 and told her about my weight loss, to paraphrase she said she hadn’t particularly noticed because she’s known me at different weights. Maybe in her mind I am still 18!
At 5ft 2 my clothes became too big when they started to get longer, the sleeves were hanging off, tops turned into dresses, I was standing on the bottoms of my jeans. I guess you don’t get this so much when you’re tall.

The average weight range for a woman your height is 9st 6 to 12st 5. You were always within a healthy BMI so no one will notice.

Did you lose weight for your health or so other people will comment how slim you are?

If you were 5' 1 it would be obvious but at 5'10 it won't be obvious in everyday clothes - it will be if you are in swimwear etc.

Try measuring yourself as well as weighing - your measurements must have gone down but depending where it might not affect clothes fit - e.g. if it has come off your thighs more than your waist or hips,

So if Op is half a stone away from being underweight it makes even more sense that maybe some have noticed but are choosing not to say anything.

A healthy BMI for my height is around 8-10 stone but at 8.5 stone I started looking so thin that certain people were a bit worried and did. I hadn’t increased my exercise or reduced my calories so a few people close to me did reach out to check if I was ok, and I did in fact get a blood test and check with a GP.

I had a friend of the same height who was just under 8 stone and she looked fine. I think I am a lot more naturally muscly than her so her 7stone 12 looked a lot different than what I’d look at that weight.

I've lost two stone recently and no one has commented. I think it's not seen as acceptable any more. It was only 4ibs or so off 2 stone that I began to drop a dress size. I was really surprised how little difference it made to that

Yes!! Exactly this.

after a few beers at the Christmas party there were quite a few mentions but people are quite reserved. Except for my parents, weight loss is the ultimate achievement

Someone at the gym pointed out to me that by exercising, you build muscle, which looks better but still weighs heavy.

I think people just don't comment even if they notice. I'm losing weight at the moment. I've only lost 3 kg but it's making a difference. Seems to take ages to drop a dress size!

I don't ever comment on anyone's weight loss unless they mention it first. When they do mention it as something they've been consciously trying, I do obviously react positively but I just find this more polite.

I've lost a similar amount of weight at a similar height before, and I think people mainly noticed and commented positively when I bought smaller clothes!

I get people not commenting on weight but wouldn't people say something like "you look great!" I would? Is that rude?

Agree that nobody with class should comment on your weight. It is a bit tricky though, a friend of mine has lost a lot, looks amazing, but I don’t want even to suggest that it might be something she’s happy about as, what if she’s ill?? And I don’t want to imply she looked bad before. I’ve never forgotten a ‘compliment’ about my weight loss I got from someone who barely knew me but the way she framed it was utterly bitchy and undermining. Most people will feel it’s best to steer clear of personal remarks.

No one noticed until I’d lost 2st and wore different clothes op.