I've lost 1 and half stone but no one has noticed

[achot]

and I cant even tell. I am still wearing the came clothes. I have gone from 11.5 stone to 10stone.

Why can no one see it and why cant I see/feel it in my clothes ?

I’d much prefer people didn’t comment. It’s so rude unless invited.

Am now worried! I once stopped to tell a Marshall she looked brilliant while mid parkrun. I didn't say "ooh you've lost weight" but I knew she had and had been trying to. I'm terrified now she'll have been offended.

You'd invite someone to tell you you look great? Now I'm really confused.

I lost about the same and had quite a few people comment. My face did go alot thinner so I agree it perhaps depends where you lost it from. Also, I’m only 5’2” and i think it’s more noticeable if you’re short

Well if you are still wearing the same clothes it’s unlikey people will notice.
Get something new, tighter fitting. You’ll feel better about it yourself and others will notice.

It’s because you’re wearing the same clothes.

I wouldn’t lose sleep over it.

I think most people wouldn’t be that fussed, some may be very pleased. Others may not be thrilled as I know some find it a bit backhanded if they haven’t received a compliment before they lost weight and someone is only giving praise AFTER they’ve lost the weight.

And then others like me don’t really care either way.

Thanks all.. I will keep going regardless. Need to lose another stone. Maybe then people will notice. Not that I am doing it for others I am doing it for ME.

It sounds like you are absolutely doing it for others!

Why do you think you need to lose another stone? I’m curious because that would take you to 9 stone which at your height is probably a few pounds away from being underweight.

ETA: I’ve just looked it up at and 9 stone at your weight is considered underweight. The very lowest you should be according to NHS is 9 stone 3.

Theres obviously exceptions and I take BMI with a pinch of salt but I think you need to think hard about why you want to go down to such a low weight.

9st at 5ft 10in is in the underweight range. I'm also wondering what the need is to move into the underweight range for your height?

Like some PPs I think this suggests that you have polite, considerate friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues. (Rather than that no one has noticed)

If you’d like comments from certain people, or to talk to them about this, bring up the topic.

Well done! To be honest my best friend is size 18-20. But losing weight gradually like a stone and a half. Has always yo yoed with weight loss and gain. When she had gone down 2 dress sizes and wore dresses about a year ago I couldn’t tell she’d lost weight, honestly! However, when she wore jeans which were tighter fitting I definitely noticed and told her.

Yes it’s underweight if I recall.

I think one stone is enough for people to start thinking ‘maybe she has lost a bit of weight - I’m not quite sure’ but not enough to comment on it, and slightly more than that might be more obvious, but people probably still wouldn’t think it was polite to comment unless you had openly been having a conversation about deliberately losing weight.

At your weight, you probably looked fairly slim (to others) anyway and now you probably look slim. You’re not skinny so that anyone would worry about your health unless you are very tall, and you didn’t look fat before. People are probably quite rightly just not being rude.

You are doing it for others. Making yourself deliberately underweight when you are already a healthy weight is either an eating disorder or attention seeking. 9st 6 is the low end of healthy weight for your height.

People still won't say anything to you but will talk about you being unwell behind your back.

If you lose weight slowly people you see often won't really notice. It takes a while to drop a size in clothes and you may have been wearing things that were quite tight when you were heavier so they are just a more comfortable fit. Keep going you're doing great.

I guess it depends proportionally how much 1.5st is to your start weight but I think if they were looking at the typical dieters comparison photos they may notice the differences more easily than just regularly seeing you. Do they know your dieting as I know I'm bit wary of commenting around weight/appearance.

I remember being pissed when everyone noticed & gushed about partners weight loss completely ignoring my 3st loss but I started bigger than them and hold weigh more on thighs and not so obvious as the beergut .

Agreed. Why some are ignoring this is beyond me.

“keep going you’re doing great.” No, she’s not, she’s really not. Ffs.

OP is showing strong potential for having or soon developing an ED.

But then I shouldn’t be surprised as I’ve heard people recovering from ED tell me how those around them cheered them on as they withered away.

Think it’s because people really do NOT look at other people that closely. We go through life thinking people are looking at us, judging, noticing that we have gained weight, but really they are in a bubble of their own. And well, 11.5 stone isn’t very overweight so most people will not have considered you overweight …and 1.5 stone is really just a dress size (less if you were squeezing into clothes that were really a bit tight, or loose in cut/design).

Having lost 6st, noone really noticed until I was in the 3-4stone lost zone, because at that stage it was glaringly obvious - but I had to be significantly overweight (ie noticeably, if not unpleasantly plump to the casual observer) for people to notice I was now slimmer. From 12st down to 10st, no-one has since commented as, unless they are a dressmaker or model scout, people just can’t ‘see’ that small degree of loss.

I’d advise not to look for external validation, but to consider the positive gains you personal experience - more energy, less bulge over your pants/less VPL, fewer aches and pains.etc

Okay, so you weren't overweight to start with and that's why nobody has noticed.

You were already slim and you're still slim.

It's not like you've changed from being a fat person to becoming a thin one.

Why did you want to lose weight, when your BMI was normal?

You don't need to lose any more weight.

Your BMI is normal. You're developing an ED. This is worrying, OP.

Exactly this! Nobody notices and then when they finally do notice they express horror at home much you’ve lost!

Ignore other people. Manage your own weight to keep yourself happy, and expect no judgement from others (either positive or negative!).

Missed one of your replies @achot

AM sorry, but you are now underweight at a BMI of 18.1. People are not replying because you likely look ill and they are concerned.

Please book an appointment with your GP to request counselling as you are in the early stages of an eating disorder. My mother died at 56 as a result of an ED. It was horrendous. Get help now. Please.

I never make comments on someone’s weight. I notice changes but would never say anything.

Honestly I don't want a relationship with other people's body size.

When a fat person loses a lot of weight, I may hold my breath hoping they don't gain it all back. If a person gets too thin, I feel sad for them.
I don't think anyone wants to hear my thoughts.