DIET FAILED AGAIN - it’s thread 8 (the one where we all lose weight) - all welcome

[thenewaveragebear1983]

New thread for the new year 2026! Everyone welcome to join us for motivation and encouragement, without judgement.

@thenewaveragebear1983 enjoy your dads birthday and the lunch. I’m sure you’ll catch up soon it’s only February and we have a long time yet in 2026 to do this.

ive spent this morning counting McDs calories and luckily I only had an orange and kiwi fruit for lunch as I didn’t feel well so although I was right at the top of my calories I didn’t go over so a sts will be ok if the scales show that on Sunday.

im so determined atm that I don’t want to sabotage my efforts but DP wants to go to our cafe on Saturday as we’ve missed two weeks and DD wants us to have Sunday lunch at the holiday home restaurant just up the road from me. The Sunday lunches are really good and I love to go there but their sticky toffee pudding with custard is to die for and about a million calories so I’ll have to skip that.

its still nasty outside and it will be a busy day today. I want to walk DDs dog with mine, she has to work until 4.30 and then we’ve got to pack everything for them to leave at around 8. Tomorrow we’ll be moving beds back into the store until next year and then I’ll have a massive pile of washing to do.

im hoping to eat a bit less today but I still don’t feel too well so if I need to eat more I’ll try to make healthy choices.

Love to all.

No improvement on diet. Have some stock of frozen fish and a little veg so will be cooking this later, maybe some soup also. Due to staff shortages, I'm about to embark on a couple of 10min walks and do some rain dancing.

My family have left the building 😀. It feels eerily quiet now, I could hear a pin drop. I’ve had dinner and I’ve decided to start the big clean up tomorrow and just relax tonight. There is a tremendous amount of washing, I don’t really know where to start but tonight I’m leaving everything and hopefully after a good much needed nights sleep I’ll be raring to get on with it tomorrow.

i managed to walk the dogs and it started to rain just as we got home. Torrential rain forecast for tomorrow 🙁.

i hope everyone is doing ok, it’s gone very quiet again.

It’s just constant rain here too @poorpaws, heavy as well. The ground is saturated. We live on top of a hill and our park is at the bottom and the lowest point of the park is just a swamp now (full of very muddy spaniels and Labradors living their great lives 🤣)

I had a good day at work today. I decided to teach myself a new skill on excel and ended up doing such a cool piece of work, making an automated template that checks multiple spreadsheets for errors and populates a template I can import into the system. I felt very proud of myself, I love learning.

i feel tired tonight, I could not face the bootcamp this afternoon or tomorrow. It’s just too wet and cold, my eye and sinus are still really tender and swollen and to be honest I think I’m run down and the last few weeks have taken their toll. The body keeps the score, I really believe that, and i decided a workout in the cold with a tender shoulder and a blocked eye would probably not help.

my food has been ok, I made a really hearty stew and we had it with mash, very tasty and wholesome. I bought pudding and ice cream and a little gluten free individual pudding for me, but when I checked it was 450 calories!! It’s measly in size, honestly, 2 little bites- so I’m inclined to not have it, it seems like such a waste!

Can I join? Iv just found out why I am struggling to lose weight and why I keep gaining weight. Iv been told i am a good candidate for HRT and WLI. I cant start these until I am finished with fertility treatement. I have started on weight loss shakes to try help with weight management. Was hoping to try and lose a couple of kg before starting ivf again but that hasnt seemed to happen for me.

@Miraclemuma03 of course you can join us. Fertility treatment must be so difficult, I hope you are successful.
If you want my honest opinion I would ditch those weight loss shakes and eat real food. Are you using a calorie tracker app of any sort?

my pinchy shoulder kept me awake last night and my eye and face are swollen again this morning. I feel fine in myself but these two things are making me sleep badly and very grumpy.

I need to take my own advice and get my head back on track after today. It’s my dad’s birthday so we are going for lunch and cake, but tomorrow onwards i need to knuckle down. I have been doing well drinking more water after buying my brita jug, but i haven’t done particularly well on the food, I reckon I am breaking even for maintenance rather than being in a deficit.

however I bought some jeans on vinted, they are a 12- fit really nicely but after having worn them a few hours they have softened and look really big and shapeless across my stomach, so maybe I’m smaller than a 12 after all? I think I need some new clothes! I have a full wardrobe on every size in the loft so maybe I should go up there for a rummage to see what I find.

I saw a lovely fact today that said today the sun will set after 5pm for the first time, and won’t be before 5pm now until October. Spring is creeping in ladies, the rain won’t last forever

@Miraclemuma03 hi and welcome. I agree with @thenewaveragebear1983 that you might do better on real food but if shakes are working, who am I to say.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I’d hope to hear your shoulder felt better today, there’s no wonder you’re grumpy. I hope you enjoyed your dad’s birthday and tomorrow is another day. 😀

I’ve done so much work today that I haven’t the energy to cook anything tonight. I was up cleaning my fridge at 7 am and I went from one job to the next all day. I think I’ve done five loads of washing (could be four, I can’t remember), cleaned the bathroom, mended dgs joggers, moved beds, moved a coffee table to the store … the list is endless and then at 4 pm when we thought the rain had eased we had to take the dogs out. I think beans on toast is all I can make tonight because I want to just sit down.

tomorrow I’m having a really quiet lazy day. I might do a few little jobs but I don’t want to do a great deal and want to prepare some nice food to make up for today.

have a great Saturday, I’m putting my feet up tonight.

I love days like that @poorpaws, I never seem to have the momentum these days but occasionally I do and it’s such a productive day. Enjoy your beans on toast!
my shoulder doesn’t really hurt during the day, it’s a little ‘dead arm’ ish at times. But at night it’s like it is trapping something inside and it seems to restrict my breathing. During the course of the day a whopping great stye has come up on my eyelid so clearly my swollen eye was brewing that. So painful! A sign that I can run down and doing too much- so tomorrow I am going to read, nap and do something leisurely and restful not run miles in the cold or do other strenuous activities!

Iv tried absolutely everything in the last 2yrs and nothing has worked. Im literally at the point of starving myself and there still hasnt been any weight loss. Been eating 1200 calories a day for 2 yrs and iv still gained weight. Did 12 months of weight watches and didnt lose anything, did 6 months of noom and only lost 2kg. I count every single calorie, I weigh my food and all im doing is maintaining my weight. Its so frustrating, iv been told that I can fix it with HRT and WLI but cant start any of that while doing fertility treatments. The struggle is real. But im going to keep prodding along on a lower calorie deficit and see how I go.

@Miraclemuma03 I get it, I feel
similar, however I think HRT has caused it for me, so be mindful that it’s not a magic wand that will instantly resolve it. Do you have, or possibly could you have, polycystic ovary syndrome? It causes insulin resistance which makes weight loss so tricky. Unfortunately we are totally at the mercy of our hormones aren’t we? My advice, and please feel free to tell me to bore off, would be - honestly- to ditch the shakes and starving yourself. If you are eating 1200 calories and not losing weight, unless you’re a tiny dot of a thing, then the problem is not calories. Have you watched the programme about UPF food that’s been on recently? It’s with a guy called Tim Spector. There’s also an excellent bbc sounds podcast with those delightful van tulleken twins on a similar theme. There is so much mounting evidence now that all the chemicals in our foods are so bad for us, the gut biome, our hormones - everything is linked and we don’t really understand it. But in my own opinion and experience, when I cut out UPF (really strictly at first) I felt energetic, less anxious, and significantly less hormonal and I was never hungry and never counted calories and lost weight. I eat way too much chocolate and gluten free rubbish which is full of chemicals, and look at my long list of aches and pains and weird symptoms 🤷‍♀️ and periods from hell every 3 weeks.

so yes, I am a massive hypocrite because I don’t actually do what I am suggesting you do, but I know when I did I felt much much better and i definitely want to go back to that type of diet. And @poorpaws although she berates herself, she’s had amazing results this year just by having no sugar!

I had some gluten free vegan birthday cake yesterday, it was vile. I could literally taste the chemicals, the icing was like margarine, the texture was horrible and it had a really strong artificial taste to it, and I dread to think what was in a cake with no eggs, butter or flour 🤷‍♀️ still ate it though 🤷‍♀️

I’ve lost 6kg since November.

fast until 11 ish
omelette
homemade soup is my snack
normal dinner
no food after dinner
exercise daily and weights

Gone from 76kg to 70kg

Cut back on snacks and sugar. Do have alcohol but weekend only should give up but enjoy social side.

@Miraclemuma03 that sounds so very hard and I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.

ive lost 1.5 lbs this week and im very nearly dancing on the ceiling with delight, I didn’t expect that. That’s 10.5 lbs off this year so far. I’ve never given up sugar for so long and it seems to be really working. The loss this week is despite the McD the kids persuaded me to have, so I truly am amazed and so happy.

A friend (well not a close friend more of an acquaintance really) turned up unexpectedly and she always brings oaty biscuits because she knows I like them. When I told her I was no sugar for three months I saw the side of her lip curl up in a really nasty way and she gave me a look which said oh yeah, you won’t do it. I wasn’t imagining this because DP saw it as well and we both said it was quite nasty. I like to encourage people when they’re trying to do anything and it’s made me even more determined to prove to everyone that I can do it. Even DP, who I’ve told you before is the kindest man ever, when I told him I’d had a McDonald’s with the kids said well that’s the diet gone then. No, it’s not! At the end of next week I am halfway through this project and I know there’ll be times when I gain weight but I’m not giving up because I think no one believes I can do it so I have to prove I can for myself not anyone else.

Thank you for all your support on here, this is my happy place to tell people if I’ve lost weight.

@poorpaws that’s amazing! Well done you again, you are smashing it
@TheaBrandt1well done. I’d like to follow that kind of plan but it feels out of reach for me to be honest, I could have the greatest intentions but I do think you need to be very disciplined which is something I am really struggling with now.

my problem is that the food I eat when I’m hungry is all really good. It’s the food I eat when I’m not hungry that causes me the problems. I was thinking about my message to @Miraclemuma03after typing it and remembering just how good I felt when I really looked after myself with the food I ate. I am going to dig out some of my old books and try to get myself back into that headspace. Melissa Urban’s Food freedom and it starts with food are good places to start for me I think 🤔

@thenewaveragebear1983 I agree the right headspace is key. I always knew I ate healthy meals, lots of salads which I love, some fruit etc with no alcohol (which is easy for me) but the snacking 🤦🏼‍♀️ I could consume so much sweet sugary stuff, more than anyone I know and certainly a lot more than I’d like to admit to. I’m a secret eater too (remember that programme), as soon as DP left and dinner was eaten, I’d start. I knew what was causing me to gain weight and every week I got onto those scales I knew there would be a gain and I knew why, but my headspace was not aligned and I didn’t do anything about it.

ive said many times I’m a visual person which is why I bought a cheap Temu journal and I write everything down. Lots of my meals are repeat but I still write them down as i know once it’s not in writing it doesn’t count and I can cheat. If it’s written for me to see it’s the law in my head . I know it sounds crazy but that’s how my mind works so it works for me.

ive also said before im all or nothing. I know if I eat one piece of chocolate, even a small piece it will be the end. I’m whispering this because I don’t believe it myself but I’m finding no sugar easy day to day and it surprises me. It’s most likely because at last I’m in the right headspace and because people don’t think I can do it, so I’ll show them (and me) that I can.

OMG this rain is getting me down. It’s permanently torrential rain here and far too wet to even step out of the door. I’ve decided as soon as a lovely spring morning comes I’m going to stop whatever it is I’m doing and go out to enjoy the sunshine and dry weather.

ive been busy again today with a food shop, making soup for the week, cleaning (dd left the top of my cooker looking gross). Again very little exercise but my food intake has been good.

i know from a lot of previous diets/healthy eating that im due for a sts or small gain, even if im a food Angel. I remember many years ago when i went to WW, id had a really good run at losing and then for three weeks i sts even though id been tracking everything and knew I hadn’t cheated and was sure i should have lost. So this week im nervously waiting for Sunday to see if I can at least maintain. Whatever happens I'm determined to continue on until the end of March.

i thought having lost 10 1/2 lbs it would start to show but not a single soul including DP, DD, neighbours and friends have noticed yet. I’m trying not to be a dieting bore (except on here) so I haven’t told anyone about any of my losses just that I’m going no sugar for a while. I wonder when someone will notice and then I’ll be excitedly straight on here telling you. 😀

It’s a tricky one though isn’t it, I think people are a lot more sensitive to commenting about people’s size, even if they are looking smaller, these days. People will be noticing though I am sure. I am still in my full winter gear, layers, hoodies and usually a hot water bottle stuffed up my jumper or down the back of my leggings - when I finally derobe in May people will hopefully think ‘wow, what great weight loss!’

I am tired today. I had a very productive day at work and then I went to bootcamp, and it was light at 5pm whereas the session last week it was dark! Spring is coming! Food has been good as well actually, I had leftover stew and mashed potatoes for lunch, and dinner I had a beautiful piece of salmon and some oven chips. Lots of veg with both, and not a lot of snacks as there is nothing in! I did t weigh this morning as I am trying to avoid the scales for the month.

Yes it’s true I have a lot of layers on and a big padded coat when I’m out so it would be hard to see any weight loss. I will hopefully emerge from the winter woollies and people might then start to notice. Tbh I can’t see much of a loss myself yet so I can’t judge others.

i had a tough day today. Works really hard, I’m struggling and working late every day. I cracked today and ate 2 chocolate biscuits, they weren’t even nice and they had gluten in. I don’t think I’ve had any dreadful side effects other than regret 🤣 but I guess if it doesn’t affect me I don’t need to regret it 🤷‍♀️

I did baked potatoes in the oven with beans and cheese and it was so good, sometimes simple comfort food is best. But I want sugar so much, I could honestly binge completely tonight on literally anything- it’s pure emotional eating and I haven’t done it, but I want to. I’m going to have a hot baby instead and hopefully get a reasonable nights sleep. I am on leave next week and I cannot wait, just to have a quiet few days and a few naps!

@thenewaveragebear1983 it sounds like you are working too hard and are stressed. I don’t think two biscuits will ruin your diet so enjoy your evening and look forward to next week.

ive broken a tooth, a big one and a large chunk came away. I was eating grapes in yogurt so not exactly harmful food (it’s usually caramels I break teeth on).

we did manage to go out today but it was nasty drizzle and the ground was sodden so not an enjoyable walk. Again my food has been ok but tonight I’ve had a packet of low fat crisps and now im fancying something more to eat.

tomorrow is another rainy day so I doubt we’ll go far and I’m home alone for most of the day so I’ll most likely just relax and forget all the work that needs doing. I fell to sleep in the chair this evening, something I rarely do so I think I’m overtired and need a relaxing day tomorrow.

i hope you are all ok and doing well, it seems like the lovely newcomers have left 🙁

Yes you’re right @poorpaws, I am very much ready for my leave. Sorry about your tooth, does it hurt? Or just annoying?

@thenewaveragebear1983. It doesn’t exactly hurt but it’s got a sharp edge. I spent so much at the dentist last year I going to try to hang on until my next checkup in April I think. If it’s too uncomfortable I’ll ring next week but we’ll see.

i hope you get a good nights sleep.

interesting day today, I had a call from a job I applied for aaaaaages ago, so long that I thought the call was definitely going to be a no - well, actually turns out they are just slow. I was the only shortlisted candidate! So i had a pre-interview screening call completely unprepared, I hope I didn’t waffle too much. There’s actually another role there which I really want to apply for and the lady said absolutely go for it, it won’t impact my application in any way- so I really felt optimistic when I came off the call! Although I have an offer now from my existing employer, to be honest when everyone else has left it will not be such a nice place to work and part of me thinks I should go as well. I could then get my redundancy and a new, higher paid job. Exciting!

I just had such a delicious dinner- lamb meatballs, peppers, Moroccan sauce, but we had no normal rice so I made risotto rice so it was really soft, stodgy and yummy. Unexpectedly tasty!

only 2 days more work until I am on annual leave - oh I have such a big list of chores to do but I love that kind of productive busy week where I smash out loads of jobs!

@thenewaveragebear1983 wow! That is soo exciting, you must be amazingly good at your job. I hope you make the right decision.

for some reason I can’t get into mumsnet on my iPad and it took until this morning to realise I could use my phone 🤦‍♀️

NSV? This morning I’ve put my size 14 (one size down) jeans on. They are not loose but I have a pair of thermal leggings underneath because it’s so cold so I’m guessing that my jeans would be a very comfortable fit without the layering.

i started increasing my fruit yesterday. I used to eat a lot of fruit and I’ve realised I’m eating less and have no idea why.

its still going ok. I hope you have a good day.

Struggling to feed myself. We are still in summer here in australia and let me tell you im ready for it to end. Its affecting my mood, my hot flashes with this heat are relentless and I just cant bring myself to eat anything but a bit of toast with Philadelphia cream cheese. Today I have blown up like a balloon, my hands are so swollen I had to remove my wedding ring and my feet and toes were swollen. Tonight I did enjoy some home made tacos. Was lean mince with salad and the hard taco shells.

Sorry just saw your last post. My issue is all my hormones are depleting. I dont have many eggs left, my fsh is low, my oestrogen is low, my testosterone is very low, all the hormones are low and my body is just freaking itself out is the only way to put it. I feel like im a crazy person, im losing my mind, and then there is this weight gain on top of it. Every time i step foot on the scales they go up just that little bit more no matter what iv done, no matter the exercise, no matter how hard iv tried. At this point im just trying to maintain my weight so I dont keep getting bigger and bigger until I make up my mind whether or not I try for another baby or start medications to help with my hormones and a weight loss drug for my weight. Im at my heaviest and have no idea how to stop it.