DIET FAILED AGAIN - it’s thread 8 (the one where we all lose weight) - all welcome

[thenewaveragebear1983]

New thread for the new year 2026! Everyone welcome to join us for motivation and encouragement, without judgement.

@thenewaveragebear1983 thank you so much. It’s very difficult to hurt yourself a lot on purpose and this is what I’ve been told to do. If someone else does it you hold on tight and wait for them and the pain to stop. Doing it to yourself you naturally start to be more gentle as the pain increases. I didn’t do any physio last night (for the first time since my op), I couldn’t face it but this morning after my shower I’m going to give it a go.

i think both the physio hand specialist and the consultant know the op hasn’t worked and can’t do any more so they are just piling physio onto me to show theyve tried everything. I’ve got 9 days before we see the physio specialist so I’ll try hard for this time and then ask him for his honest opinion and tell him what I believe to be the truth.

i hope everyone has a lovely day.

Of course, that makes sense. Physio is always boring and I think they ‘over prescribe’ it because they think people don’t do it. Any is better than nothing though. I hope it isn’t the case that the op has totally failed. You must feel very sad about frustrated over the whole thing.

I started using the Zoe app a few days ago. My friend had had really good results and to be honest I just needed something new to focus on. It’s a bit gimmicky but actually I am quite enjoying it and it is definitely making me honest about my food. Because it overestimates calories quite a lot, it’s forced me to weigh everything. I felt a bit more energy yesterday and I feel great this morning after a good sleep, I had dreams which I don’t normally and I always feel better after some good REM sleep. I think I’ve lost 2lbs. Of course we are going away on Saturday which might make it tricky but I’m just going to keep tracking on it, and plan to really fully start when I get home which will give me 10 weeks until our summer holiday.

@thenewaveragebear1983ive never heard of the Zoe app, would you recommend it?

I did 3 1/2 hours of timed physio yesterday, I’m recording it so that they have a true picture of what I’m actually doing, it’s like a part-time job.

Because I had a busy day and was on my own, I actually ate less all day. I grazed a bit in the evening but considering how I feel, I think I did very well. I don’t mind staying at this weight for a while until I sort my head out but I don’t want to gain a lot.

DP is Insisting on coming over today even though I feel sure he knows I want to be on my own. He’s a bit needy for my company sometimes, but I’ve warned him that my mood is not good. I will try to be kind and I’m sure he’ll want to go to the cafe so at least I’ll get out.

i’m just having my coffee then I’ll have a shower and then do an hours physio 🙁

@poorpaws I quite like it. It’s basically focussed around eating good quality food, you photograph your plate and it calculates what’s in there and gives you a score, it sort of ‘gamifies’ the diet I guess. You get more points for eating diverse foods, aiming for 30 plants a week. It’s definitely making me eat more veg and not eat so much rubbish mindlessly. What I don’t like about it is that it’s not very accurate (eg I zapped a can of tango cherry zero last night and it scored it as fresh cherries and 180 calories, even though it recognised the product) so I am having to overwrite a lot of its ingredients. You don’t have to use it to track calories, my friend doesn’t, but I have done because I know I overeat. Overall I like it, I’m definitely feeling a bit healthier and I definitely ate more veg. I’ve paid for 3 months (I have a code I can send you for 20% off), or they do a one week trial that you can sign up after if you like it. It’s about £20 a month which I think is quite expensive personally but if it works then I’m ok with it

@thenewaveragebear1983 thank you that’s very interesting. It’s no good me signing up for anything at the moment, but once I’ve sorted this hand out and my head, we’ll see. I’m not sure I like the bit about it not being accurate though because I’m quite an accurate type person when it comes to counting calories. I don’t mind going a little bit over but I won’t go under. Of course that doesn’t mean to say I always get it right.

I'd be weary of doctors prescribing physio. Have had a couple of family members prescribed this and turned out this wasn't good advice.

I well and truly stuffed myself last night so hoping I do not repeat tonight.

This definitely over calculates but you can override it so in a way it’s a good thing because it’s forcing me to get the scales out and measure things properly!

Currently checking out the local Indian restaurant with a panic Biriyani purchase. I'll start my diet for next visit.

Last night was another binge, today I’ve done much better. If only I could sort out my evenings.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I over calculate without an app but I had never thought of it forcing me to measure food, that’s a good call.

my out of office is now ON! I just went to a lovely sunny yoga in the park, but I have lots to do when I get home, I threw all my possible outfits for holiday in a big heap and now need to go back and filter it down to a reasonable size pile, iron a few of the more crumpled bits, and find the last odd things I need (like one specific bra and my sunglasses!)

I’ve done really well on my food this week, it feels quite liberating actually and after only a few days I can tell I feel healthier and much fewer cravings for rubbish. What’s interesting is that I haven’t eaten anything that wasn’t already in my house which means I clearly haven’t got an issue with planning or buying healthy meals, my issue is with eating them! It feels like something I can do long term and really sustainably which is a really nice feeling after a long time struggling and not getting anywhere.

tonight I’m having a chicken breast with feta stuffing and will use up all the leftovers of salad in the fridge. We will probably have a glass of wine when all the packing is done and we’re ready to relax

I don"t seem to be able to eat as much as I usually do over the last few days and stuffing myself makes me feel really uncomfortable so going to have to try plan better. The mention of chicken has reminded me I had a big chicken dinner to make today 😛. I managed to avoid buying ice cream and yoghurts again yesterday so hopefully the waistline will decrease next week. I stocked up on veg as plan to make lots more soup.

Beautiful day here, we had a really smooth journey, straight on the ferry, and our accommodation is nice, with outside space and a roof terrace which is where I am currently sitting catching the rays and having a sparkling water while waiting for my Tesco delivery. I’ve not done too badly foodwise today all things considered, I am just tracking and keeping aware but not going to be too hard on myself.

tomorrow I think will be a beach day and I plan to get up really early to get a run in before it gets too warm. Once my shopping comes I will have lovely salads and other nice summery bits so hopefully I can strike a good balance

Enjoy!

@thenewaveragebear1983 I hope you have a great holiday.

I spent all day on Sunday in the garden with the family. We had Pizza takeaway and ice cream, it was all lovely but far too many calories And I am very red and sore.

I really struggle in summer because I love ice cream so much. I keep trying to swap it over to fruit ice lollies but I still crave ice cream. I can feel I’m gaining weight, I always do in summer.

What kind of pizza? I'm starting to struggle with no ice cream, but my skin is flaring up so I need to try keep away from it.
Currently on sweet corn soup.

Hi all. I ordered another small cooler bag which arrived a few days ago so I've been taking four tubs of soup with me on a morning. Bag is quite heavy to carry with a bottle of water also, but I believe it has been beneficial. I have been quite hungry without the fruit though which I stopped to save space and often forgot to eat. I may start taking fruit again or just try power through.

Good morning all,
i have had a couple of days of eating quite a lot and drinking wine. We have had such a lovely holiday with glorious weather and it really has been exactly what we needed to relax and unwind. I am quite glad today is the last day, I am looking forward to my home comforts and seeing my dog, and getting back to some semblance of normality. June is always a very busy month for us, very often with something on every weekend.

I am going to restart my Zoe diet on Sunday as well, perfect timing for June 1st, and really give it my focus and commitment. I also have around 5 months to my marathon so nutrition is more important than ever. I could definitely lose a stone before we next go away in 10 weeks. I’m going to do it properly with photos and measurements and treat it as a completely new start.

Good morning all

@thenewaveragebear1983 i’m so pleased to hear you’ve had a lovely holiday relaxing in the sunshine. You’ll be raring to go in June.

@TalkToTheHand123 It sounds that if you’re really on it with the soup, good idea getting a cool bag.

My news is dreadful and I won’t bore you with it but the hand surgery certainly hasn’t worked

The weight maintenance that I decided to try hasn’t worked either, I’ve been eating so much and to be honest I am so depressed so I’m going to try in June to at least lose a little and I think I have to give up the chocolate again because I can’t seem to ration it.

Sorry to hear that @poorpaws

I've done a couple marathons recently. Marathon sleeps that is. I'm often sleep deprived and it's caught up with me but have determined to try rest more also. Forgot to buy cabbage as this is a really good soup I find. Stocked up on veg though.

I thought I was doing well based on the belief my eating habits were much better (no longer eating burgers, sausages, chocolate or drinking alcohol), however, I weighed myself last night and now I'm up about a stone. It has given me a nudge though so I plan to pay more attention to what I'm eating. I think I go into the kitchen regularly and just snack so going to try stop this. Focus on portions also and drink more soup with more water content.

So sorry to hear this @poorpawsyou must feel very frustrated by the whole debacle, what is the next course of action for you?

@TalkToTheHand123i like the idea of a sleep marathon, I am so tired! I just do not get enough sleep although the quality is good, I am determined to go to bed early at least one night a week and try to claw some back at the weekends, but I never do. Portion size is so important, I have no off switch so even if I’m eating healthy foods I need to watch what I have, plus I find sauces, mayo, dressing etc all bump up the calories a lot

I’ve had a busy day so far, we had our kitchen tiled and new skirting put in while we were away, and much as it was the very last thing i wanted to do today I have primed and glossed the skirting, just one more coat to go- I want to put my furniture back and I know if i don’t do the painting it will never get done so I have forced myself to do it, in between vacuuming and putting clothes away. Next weekend I need to paint a wall and put two shelves up, then the kitchen is finally finished (only 5 years after we had the units done 🤣)

I’m not cooking a big roast today but I do have some chicken meat which I am going to do on skewers with salads and flatbreads. I’m going to prep a lentil pasta salad to do the next few days lunches and boil some eggs for snacks. I am doing my Zoe plan properly now so every meal I’m thinking of ways to get new veg in!

Hi, can I join? I'm trying to lose weight through diet as I'm disabled and can't exercise. I'm only 5 ft 1 and my starting weight was 63.65kg nearly a week ago. I'm down to around 62.45 now. I have a very sweet tooth which is my downfall but trying to eat regular small meals and watch calories. Be good to connect with others on this journey.

Hi @Specialneedsnightmare of course you can, we are a very small little chat thread but we post regularly. I was saying to my dd today it must be so hard being short as you get so few calories! You’ve done well to lose 1kg in a week 👏

I am so tired, I have finished my painting and put the kitchen drawers back, made a big pasta salad with kidney beans, lentil pasta, sugar snap peas and peppers. I’ve vetoed the run though, my feet and ankles are really tight and aching after walking in flip flops all week. I decided to be kind to myself and take a half hour rest with some trashy tv instead

@Specialneedsnightmare welcome and very well done on your loss so far, perhaps you can teach me 😀 I’m not doing so well.

@TalkToTheHand123 it’s a shame you’ve gained but keep at it, it’s so difficult to stay focused sometimes.

@thenewaveragebear1983you are a star coming home from holiday and rolling your sleeves up right away. It’s no wonder you are so tired. I hope you get some good rest in between all the work and I bet your kitchen looks amazing.

1st June tomorrow and I’m hoping to start again although DP has already reminded me that I promised him Devon scones and clotted cream this week. I’m at the Dentist early tomorrow so we’ve had to put the food shopping off until Tuesday early morning.

I don’t want to bring the thread down about my hand, but I just feel now It’s very much a money making thing. My insurer only pays for three physio visits and we’ve already had six And I don’t even know how much I’m being charged and they just keep being very vague about it. The physio consultant I’m seeing is a hand physio specialist And also teaches physio so I’m sure he’s got a lot of experience, but my hand has totally flummoxed him. I have four separate things wrong with it but he just keeps telling me to come again next week and we get nowhere and I’m very worried about the cost, I have to go again on Thursday and I think it will be my last appointment because the operation just hasn’t worked and I think they have no idea what to do next. My hand is in a worse state than before the operation and I really have very little feeling in it and for instance I can’t write now and I keep dropping things so I just wished I hadn’t had it done.

let’s hope June is a good losing month for all of us

Thank you both. I might not always be able to write much due to fatigue but I will read and cheer everyone on!

I'm struggling today. Feeling low and I'm an emotional eater so I'm desperate for sugar. Trying to avoid it and focus on my large belly and how much better it will look when I've lost weight.

@poorpaws I can't say it will work for you but what helps me is

Regular small meals with a lot of veg, higher protein than carb ratio
Lots of water
Calorie counting but not obsessive, I just have a rough idea. Aiming for no more than around 1200 a day as I'm short
Low carb fruit after meals to curb cravings