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summers on it's way.

can we lose it? yes we can!!!

Katy thats absolutely shocking, i really can;t believe that. Your sil must be so confused and scared i guess. I hope she has a full recovery and her care gets much better.

Jahan - the sleep will improve honest. It just isn't the takes longer for some lo's as it does for others.

Got weighed yesterday.....I sts this week

Went shopping to get some decent clothes today at Bluewater..... tried on a pair of size 12 skinny jeans in Dorothy Perkins, but they didnt fit at all around the hips and waist...... but last week i bought a bootcut pair, also size 12 and they fit fine!!

WTF!

stupid dorothy perkins
sts is good.it's not a gain
thanks for the support x

Sts is good, Mine. How much have you lost in total?

DP is stupid.
I've got 2 pairs of boot leg jeans in size 12. The indigo ones fit me fine and the black ones are waaay too tight!

I think ds2 needs more food now but he's not really taken to weaning. I know its a matter of time before he gets used to the idea of food. He's not quite 6 months so its still early days.
Its just sods law that when ds2 does sleep, ds1 wakes up wanting the toilet, or has had a nightmare or something.

Sorry thats DP as in Dot perkins.

it's like that in my house too
dd sleeps through,dh falls asleep downstairs and wakes me up snoring or ds2 has a nightmare.i don't think i've had a full nights sleep in years.
it does get better though.honest.one night they will sleep through and you will spend the night awake worrying that they are oklol

I dream of a full nights sleep!
I discovered that dh snores when he goes to bed late and doesn't if he goes to bed before 11. Isn't that strange? I make sure he gets to bed at a decent time now. Cue nagging fishwife!

lol.my dh insists he is not tired,i go to bed and come down later to wake him up when his snores wake me.
he sits on the floor in front off the tv so i tend to kick him pmsl.not hard,just enough to startle him
although i am sometimes tempted to take a run up

Lol. I bet thats therapeutic!
What is it about blokes and their obsession with staying up late? You'd think they were teenagers.

How's your dh coping with the news?
I hope things are better for you two.

it's given him a short,sharp shock!
tbh part of the problem is him falling asleep downstairs and then moaning that we never have sex
don't know how we can when we don't even sleep in the same room.
i don't know how to resolve it though.i'm tired as i'm up with dd at 6am.he doesn't come back from work until 11.30 pm so sits up watching tv and chilling out.
i'm sure once summer comes i'll feel like stayig up later

sorry that was probably tmi lol
just think of all the bonus points i'd earn if i could stay awake !

Who says you can only have sex during the night though?

We all have the same problem when it comes to having a family and trying to keep a relationship going, we all get tired and the dc's seem to be able to instantly know when you might actually be doing something that doesn't focus of them I could never go without it for long even if i had to set my alarm for 4am I'd fit having sex in somewhere (tmi maybe but i'm trying to help) what about a quickie when the youngest is having a nap or while the older ones are watching a dvd?

I can remember back in our younger days when we only had 1 dd and she was at school if he was on a late shift we'd go out for lunch then have sex somewhere different.

Don't think that's the whole problem though, in a lot of cases its the fact he doesn't do enough to help, you feel resentful and don't feel like sex, he feels rejected etc catch 22 and all that the best thing imho is to sit down and be really homest.

I'm in a similar situation as you Katy. By the time dh comes upstairs, I am so tired I just want to sleep.
You're right LMG, I keep telling him that if he helped more and I got more of a break maybe I wouldn't be so tired.

you hit the nail on the head lovemygirls.i do miss sex and really enjoy it but the more he pisses me off the more he turns me off .
it is a viscous circle but hopefully we can resolve it.either that or i'm going to have to pounce on him.
my kitchen work top saw more action than just sandwich making last weekend

ok.this week our excercise is sex.we shall make more time for sex.we shall have more sexany chance of you lot having robbie williams phone number

think off all the calories we will burn

When my dp got lazy (while i was on mat leave and not working) I had to kick his arse back into touch when i started working again so what I did was (and it may not work for everyone but this worked for me) we did the whole chat about him not helping enough I told him exactly what I needed doing when he came home and it was usually either the dishwasher, bath dd2, sort some washing, hoover. So he'd come in and say ok what do you need me to do (i had to to tell him he needed to ask when he came home otherwise i'd say i'd rather you had done this or that was more important, I realised he wasn't a mind reader) When everything was ready for the next day we both sat down and relaxed. Sometimes at weekends usually i'd say I'll do the bathroom if you hoover, give the older children jobs to do too, dd1 is 8 and she tidies her own room puts her own washing in the basket and puts her clothes away too, she helps tidy the toys downstairs and occasionally runs the hoover round downstairs she's quite handy with the anti bac wipes too (not all at once but bit at a time she does help out)

In the end I was working loads more hours than him childminding 50 hrs and doing care work 16 hours per week so he had to do a lot of it would never have got done! Once i quit my second job I started doing more and now it's about even.

dh does do his share off the housework as do the boy's ,it's dd he doesn't really help with.she is a real mummys girl and just whinges when i'm not there and it drives him bananas so he leaves her to me almost all the time.
i put her to bed every night (he isn't here for 5 off them) and i get up every morning with her as he hasn't come to bed until late so he's tired.
it's the bloody same circle over and over.
but he is a lazy arse when he feels like it.his xbox sees more off him than i do

Here Katy, print this out and show your dh.

www.metro.co.uk/metrosexual/article.html?in_article_id=112321&in_page_id=8

Dh works late every weekday so I do absolutely everything. He does nothing all week except take the rubbish out.
He's not too bad on the weekends but I know he'd rather spend the time with the boys than doing chores as he doesn't see them all week.
I often leave him with the boys and go out for a bit. I still end up doing most of the chores though he will cook and do bedtime with ds1 and other bits and bobs.
No wonder I'm so tired!

Ah yes, then theres football and xbox too...

Jahan in that case do what I used to do, send him out with the dc's 1 day at the weekend (he usually went to his parents so they got to see our dc's too) and I cleaned the house, did the washing etc and did it all in double quick time without them all here then go to bed for a couple of hours!

Katy, you need to be firmer with him, dd is always going to moan for you to do everything if he doesnt back you up and say no mummy is busy and try distracting her, I can see why it's not in his interest to get her to want him more as it means he can be lazy but that's not fair on you or dd. You need some time off sometimes, you could try going swimming for an hour when he gets home from work like i've been doing lately?

You lot have been chatty today

Katy - sorry to hear about your sil, that's shocking that she was sent home in that condition.

Jahan - Ben is six months old now, today he had chilli and mash after an initial face pull, he then wolfed it down

Regarding sleep, other than recently I can't remember the last time I slept for more than three hours without waking up. If the boys don't wake me, I wake up anyway Its only if I have been really active all day or up very early that I will sleep a good 5 hours at night. I do find now though that the better nights sleep I have the worse I feel in the morning, what's with that!! Also my dh seems to be the odd one out, we tend to go to bed around 9pm every night. He also helps out if I tell him to do something specific, if I don't ask I don't get though. He will help out with the boys at bedtime though.

I have had a great day. I baked cakes this morning as I am meeting up with some mumsnetters in York tomorrow (from my antenatal/postnatal threads) then my friend came to visit, I haven't seen her for 7 months, which was great. We went to Next and she made me spend lots of money I have a mix of size 12 and 14 tops depending on style. At the moment 14 bottoms are just a bit too snug to wear but the 16's are getting too big, so really need to lose another 7lb to get in a proper size.

Oh my, thats a bit of an epic post
For dinner I have just made a very healthy Thai style chicken with rice and I had a small portion

i know.it is getting a little better but i am my own worse enemy to
footballs on now and then it'll be xbox time(if he doesn't nod off)
good article jahan

sounds like you had a lovely day lll
very of your dh not falling asleep in the living room.

well ladies,i'm off to bed(on my own) dd is asleep now so i will bid you goodnight x

polly...where are youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu??????

i had a giggle at tonight chat!
Must say it rings a bell with me, as dh and i often joke abt the lack of sex since ds was born. Although recently thing s have defo improved .

We both agreed that we needed to make more of an effort... well i told him he had to stop staying up late all the bloody time playing xbox whilst i was upstairs in bed.
So one night i surprised him when he came up after a marathon xbox session.... wearing very little under the duvet!! (can't believe i'm telling you this.. i'm actually quite conservative abt these things!).

He was soo happy with his surprise, well, we had no sleep that night!!
Now our joke every night, is 'see you under the duvet...' !!!

Now he knows what he was missing iykwim.

Only problem now is (i don;t know if anyone else feels the same) i don't feel very attractive anymore since i'm still carrying most of my baby weight.

I agree with you Mine. I don't feel very attractive at all with all this extra weight.
I just think I don't even look good in jeans let alone underwear (or no wear even!)
Hopefully, that won't be for much longer!