I know this seems strange, but does anyone else feel this way?
Similar to the “lost 6 stone” thread, I hate the judgement around weight loss. When I was in my 20s I lost about 4 stone in 4 months because I needed an operation. I went from a size 16 to a size 8-10. EVERYONE commented on it, and I hated it, because I hadn’t done it for any reason other than the operation and knew I would gain it back (and would have been happy with that if it hadn’t been for the judgement).
I absolutely can’t bear the idea of sitting through all the “well done, your heart will thank you, and think of your kids” comments. Maybe I could just keep wearing baggy clothes to hide any weight loss?
But it’s not just that. Now at age 50 and 110kg I think I probably should lose weight for my joints and for varicose veins. But I am put off by so many other reasons too:
When I eat less I feel shakey and weak, and I really hate the feeling. To me it feels very much like a signal from my body that something is wrong, and I find that difficult to dismiss.
I really hate the idea of having saggy skin and baggy boobs.
I actually really like my body as it is now. I like the look and feel of it, I like my clothes. I just happen to be several stone overweight. I feel like I would lose myself.
I do have a bit of a demand-avoidant personality, so I do wonder if it is just that?
I am lucky in that when I set my mind to a goal I usually have no real issues with will power, so if I can decide to lose weight then I am pretty sure I will be able to do so. But at the moment if i visualise a future where I am thinner, I don’t see myself as happy. I feel like I should be though.
Help.