Hi @50FootWave
Great to read your first instalment.
For those times when you feel you are worried about being rude these may help (short reads):
This one is great!
Food, family and diabetes: how to say no politely | Diabetes UK
This is a nice conversation of what you 'could' do and its implications.
Most polite way to refuse offer of food - Refusing hospitality | Ask MetaFilter
At a family gathering, my go to is to smile and say, 'No, thank you....however, I saw a lovely plate of [insert the dish of something you can eat]....' This never fails, as we always end up talking about the other dish and why I like it. I have many recipes from those kinds of conversations. Other times, I simply say, 'No, thank you.'
Yes, there are going to be those that get offended or hurt. So you can say, 'I have to watch my sugar and salt levels for medical reasons.' It removes any indication that it's their food you don't like, and that is why you are avoiding it, and you are not refusing their caring and love (a big one).
That can usually stop them in their tracks. However, they may pry, so it all depends on how deep you want to go at a 'family' gathering or 'friend' gathering or 'friend of a friend' gathering or 'new friend' gathering with complete strangers.
Personally, I find it easier to say no to people I don't know well than family. They have a way of saying, things like:
'Why? You ate it last time!'
'What's wrong with you?'
'You're dieting? You don't need to diet! Come on, a little is not going to hurt!'
'You only live once, you need to enjoy life'
May call on others and say, 'Did you know she's dieting...' while pointing at me.
'Your [insert family member here] made is especially for you, you have to have some.'
Or they may go the other way and say, 'body positivity' you need to love yourself and enjoy life. This one does get to me, as this is me positively looking after my body.
Yes, I have been on the receiving end of all those. It can be uncomfortable spotlight moments. 😩