Accountability thread- let’s admit we need to change NOW!

[PamelaDoov]

Starting 2024 at my heaviest ever weight after being pregnant 3 times in 4 years. Don’t actually know how much I weigh as my scales are broken (not from me standing on them), but I know I’m the biggest I’ve ever been. I need people to know I HAVE to lose weight, for my health and my sanity. So I’m gonna start here, with strangers on the internet. So if I keep eating crap and not an exercising, I’ll have to admit it here and shame myself.
I have lost a lot weight in the past before I had kids so I had time to make it my sole focus, not so simple this time around.
Will sort my scales out and find out my starting weight.
Please join in if you also need a good kick up the arse and we can all muck in together.

What's your plan to kick start?

exercise at least 3 times a week, try to make it more like 4. either work out dvds at home or walking (dont like the gym). I do enjoy anything that focuses on weight training though. Love the feeling of getting strong.
Stop snacking on so much junk, especially sugar.
Cut down booze but not abstain.
Intermittent fasting- 16:8 worked really well for me a few years ago
I have a holiday booked for June and I want to be able to wear the swimwear I wore on my honeymoon.

I tried slimfast last year and it worked for about a month and then nothing.

I’m certainly with you🫡

@MinnieL talk to me, what do you want to change/achieve?

I want to look good in clothes, I want to not be tired and unfit, I don’t want to be embarrassed to take my clothes off in front of DH.

I'm with you OP. Found my slimming world book yesterday whilst clearing out. I now weigh more than when I started there 2 years ago, despite losing s couple of stones before giving up.
I need to acknowledge that I'm too fat and need to lose some weight to be both healthier and feel better about myself.

Whew, where to start!

I have two toddlers (1&2 year old) with disabilities. I’m also a single parent and work part time. I have binge eating disorder and I’m a huge comfort eater. I’m MASSIVELY overweight. I have a Fitness First membership but it’s really hard to actually make it into the gym as one of the kids has constant appointments etc.

I’d like to stop ordering so many takeaways first. Eat less junk and walk more. I have about 5/6 stome to lose

@MinnieL yes eat less move more 👍 I’d be happy with 3 stone initially but really could do with losing 4. Comfort eater over here too, I have a terrible relationship with food- I use it to make myself feel better but also to enhance my good moods, so like it’s the weekend so gotta celebrate with a takeaway and a tub of ice cream 🤦‍♀️
i have ordered a new set of scales so I’m actually looking forward to weighing myself and getting that motivation to lose weight.

@Gottoloveatakeaway let’s do it 👍 once I’ve weighed myself I’m gonna post it here, and my BMI. Admit to the world how utterly unhealthy I am and maybe it’ll shock me into cleaning up my act. You can say as well if you want, but it’s totally up to you.

Even if no one else ends up joining in, I have a place where I can say if I’ve done well or not each day and that will hold
me accountable. I won’t lie either.
So tonight I have indulged and I know I probably will again this week as me & DH are both off work, plus some other people want to socialise with us aka dinner and drinks. But I’m still going to be mindful and get some exercise in.

Can I join please.
Not sure what I currently weigh, I'm waiting on dh to get out of the shower so I can weigh myself. I'm not looking forward to it- I weighed 13 stone 1.5lbs when I last weighed myself in the middle of November. I've did nothing but eat since then as it was "Christmas"

I'm going to cut down on snacking, drink more water and just try and move more. I do have MFP but I'm hopeless at remembering to log/count calories.

I'm aiming for 1l/b loss a week and aiming to loose a stone for now, my target date will be 13th April as I know this week will be a struggle to get on track. I'll weigh myself at a weekend.

Can I join? I only want to lose half a stone but I've been trying to do it for 5 years!!

Am calorie counting.

@Minnie123456 welcome! I’ve eaten a ridiculous amount over Christmas too (and drank). I know the next few days will still be a bit of a write off but my first goal is to have began the detox by the end of this week. Hopefully start to get some exercise in from Wednesday onwards. Hope the scales aren’t too mean to you when you get on them! My new ones are coming tomorrow so I will weigh Wednesday morning as I always like to do it first thing

Enhance my good moods, so like it’s the weekend so gotta celebrate with a takeaway and a tub of ice cream 🤦‍♀️

Yes, this is me! I’m always quick to think, ‘well I’ve made it through the day, let me treat myself to McDs or chinese.’ I know it needs to change. I have my first appointment with the eating disorder clinic next week so that’s a step in the right direction.

I weighed myself today and I’m a whopping 22.5 stone/142.5 KG. I had a look at my weight last January and I’ve put on nearly 3 stone in that time. It’s awful. I’m trying to not be too negative as I’m aware and would like to change my lifestyle.

I want to understand more about weighing my food and eating in a calorie deficit. It sounds like such faff but it seems to keep many people on the right track. If anyone has any tips on where to start, I’ll be greatful

@Minnie123456 a few years ago I lost just over 3 stone in about 9 months and I counted every. Single. Calorie. Planned my lunches and dinners for the week in accordance with the calories for each meal, so I would be aiming for 1200 calories max each day including snacks (so I’d plan those as well). It was hard work doing all that maths every week 😅 and things like, knowing I was having a dinner with carbs in one day so that day I’d have salad for lunch. But I could have noodles/brown bread for lunch the next day becuse dinner was meat & veg. Planning in advance definitely helps me, I think I’m gonna do it this time round as well.
I don’t know if I am heavy enough to get any kind of help from doctors, or if my eating is disordered enough to warrant some help. I feel like they’ll just tell me it’s my fault and my responsibility.

Oh dear, I think it’ll get confusing having two Minnies on this thread😆

See now that is exactly what I need to do. I need to put the effort in to plan my meals and advance and add up all the calories to make sure I’m eating less. I need to stop being lazy!!

My ED was only picked up because I wanted to have CBT to manage my anxiety. When they asked questions about my eating, my answers meant that they wanted to refer me to an ED team instead. I wasn’t expecting it at all and kind of threw me off but it did make sense. Anyone can have an ED regardless of your weight. It’s less about how much you weigh and more about your relationship with food and how you view it. I personally can’t go on a crazy diet because the more I restrict, the more I binge. However I can certainly monitor what I eat and cut down all the junk.

2024 is our year!!

@MinnieL woops sorry I should have replied to you!

I do think it’s possible that I have an eating disorder. I definitely have a disordered relationship with food!

Weighed myself earlier- weigh 13 st 4lbs although closer to 5lbs. Not as bad as I thought but also not great as i'm classed as obese with a bmi of 33.1

I think I’m about 15 stone but becuse of my height my BMI would be slightly lower, around 31 I think. But still obese! I can’t believe that word applies to me, it sounds horrible. I don’t think I look that bad when I look in the mirror but in photos I like enormous 😔 mindful eating starts tomorrow, Will try to get some exercise too

Me please!

I'm going the whole food route - cutting back on ultra processed food and keeping a lid on sugar. More water, more movement, cutting back on alcohol. Not counting calories for now- just going to focus on health and see where it takes me.

Good luck everyone x

@Tiredanddistracted good luck! Sugar is a big thing for me too. Looking forward to us all sharing our progress

Thanks @PamelaDoov ( amazing name btw)!

I think I'm feeling better than I normally do every Jan as this isn't coming from a place of self hatred or punishment like it has done before. I kind of just want to be NICE to me this year.

I made myself wholemeal soda bread today when I realised that shop brought bread has sugar in it (plus a baffling amount of other weird stuff) and it was just so lovely - it felt like i was doing something kind for myself. It meant i didnt want to binge, like i'd kind of filled the hole already iyswim. I had it with mozzarella, tomato, basil and olive oil and it was gorgeous.

This feels different. Time will tell!

@Tiredanddistracted that sounds delicious! I’ve never made bread before. Oh yeah when I was pregnant I had GD and could not eat white bread at all, it was even worse than rice and pasta because of all the sugar!

Had takeaway pizza last night and it didn’t even make me happy, just made me fed up of eating junk. I’m also sick of heavy breakfast food. DH is doing sausage sandwiches so I’ve just told him not to do me one. I’ll have one sausage later with some eggs on the side, maybe beans. So like a mini breakfast but minimal carbs/sugar.
If the baby is still asleep when DH takes DS out, I’ll do a dvd workout. If not then I’ll wait until we all go out for a walk later.