DIET FAILED AGAIN thread 5. Everyone is welcome to join our very supportive and friendly group without any judgement.

[poorpaws]

Thread 5, everyone welcome!

7/7 week one, lost 2.5 lbs. 4 weeks into fast 800 and I’ve lost exactly 14 lbs. Another 18lbs to go.

@Theredjellybean so pleased to hear you are feeling better and I think you've made the right decision in not running.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I hope you get your health problems sorted, it sounds awful and confusing so I hope you get to the bottom of it soon and start to feel much healthier.

And so to me on this miserable Monday morning. As the saying goes "life gets in the way sometimes" and it certainly did this week. It started brilliantly, no plans to go out and the scales were moving downwards slowly. Then towards the end of the week it all changed. DP wanted to go to our favourite cafe, DD asked for a shopping trip with the kids (yesterday was both exhausting and calorific but I love family shopping sprees) and so it's ended with me gaining quarter of a pound. I am upset that it's already gone wrong but I'm sure I can pull it back if I don't get any invitations to go out this week.

I don't manage food choices too well when I'm away from home and I really need to work on this. I think it's because I don't go out socialising as much as most people so when I do go anywhere I go a bit crazy. I love having food prepared for me and I just overeat and I always give in to a dessert.

Anyway I am a bit down about not losing on week 1 but I am holding on firmly to the wagon and will try harder this week.

Well done to all the 7/7 losers and good luck to those still to get the scales out. Have a good week everyone.

@poorpaws it's ok. I don't have any other words except that really. Life happens...you can do this though...so you need to lose 1lb and a teeny bit each week for 6 weeks...it's really ok and definitely doable.
I lost the plot yesterday...made bread ,which I love to do but only ever when others are here to eat it...but I'm home alone .
You can imagine the rest...it involved cheese on toast and butter and honey...at 11pm last night .
Must tighten my grip on the wagon.

merry Monday everyone.

@Theredjellybean a DNS is less demotivational than a DNF. Your body is still recovering, don't be too hard on yourself ❤️ butter and honey on toast has got me drooling on the train

@thenewaveragebear1983 it sounds so confusing. And unfair when you are working so hard on your nutrition. I really hope you get some answers soon.

i haven't weighed in yet @poorpaws but i sneaked on the scales on Saturday (after 2hrs in the gym might I add) and saw they were >1kg up!??? So I'm hoping that is just period retention and i will get a more sensible number later.

had a weird wobble this week as someone took a picture of me and my face looked suddenly old... I've skipped my mother and gone straight on to my grandmother. Gave myself a shake for being daft and decided if Catherine Deneuve was right and one does have to choose between one's face and one's ass, well, at least that choice has been made for me 😂

Well done @Sedgwick! I am greatly admiring of anyone who can stick to calorie counting. It hurts my brain😆

Sorry you're feeling a bit demotivated @poorpaws. The wagon has hit a bump in the road and chucked you about a bit, but you'll be back on track. I'm exactly the same about eating out of the house. I seem to come over all giddy and get carried away with the whole 'treat' aspect of it. And DP (my enabler) will stand there going 'Oh look, lemon meringue pie. You LOVE that don't you? And you hardly ever see it anywhere these days ...' or something along those lines🤣

I have lost 1lb, so am down to 11st 2lb. I'm a bit surprised as I have been indulging in a fair bit of emotional eating. But, apart from Saturday evening when I had a couple of glasses of wine, I have stuck to my 16:8 timing, so something is going ok I guess!

Good Morning. 97.4 this morning, so I gained over a kilo while on holiday. I actually thought I was doing ok as well, so I’m obviously delusional. I blame that MacMillan coffee morning.
I’ve come back absolutely exhausted too, which always makes me eat more, but I will somehow climb up onto the wagon. Long walk this morning and about to go swimming. A trellis has come down in my garden, so there’s also a lot of pruning and stuff to do this pm. Well done to everyone. And don’t be downhearted if like me, it’s not working just yet. We are all doing better than we would if we weren't trying at all.

A maintain here for me at the end of week 1. So 14.12 again. Been this way for almost 3 months now. I think it is on the way down again instead of up at the moment though.

We can do this.

I am struggling a bit this week because there’s so much birthday cake from the weekend and everytime I hit a low, there it is! I ended up yesterday slicing and wrapping individual portions and freezing all but about 5 of them. I did count it in my Syns but it did ruin my plan to have a super low syn day yesterday. We are running low on shopping and as we are away this weekend I am reluctant to go and get anything, which means the offerings today are a little miserable too. This morning I’m having yogurt, frozen fruit and 20g muesli, lunch is a portion of soup and a pitta bread, and for dinner I took some chicken out of the freezer but not sure what I’ll do with it (possibly the curry from the chubby cubs book if I can be bothered after work).

Seems like a few of us are keeping on keeping on right now, we’ll get there!

Good morning lovelies.

@Tessisme i'm so glad it's not only me who sees going out as a way to sabotage my diet. Everyone else I've ever known who has dieted have been equally good at home or out but I've never been able to do that. I think it's because I always do the catering here, and always have. I'm known as catering manager, and for someone else to make me any sort of food is such a treat. I just want to eat the whole menu and I can't seem to control myself.

@Zebracat I love your comment "We are all doing better than we would if we weren't even trying", that is so true and has made me feel so much better.

@gluttonousgoldbug a maintain is still not a gain so that's a positive not a negative. Well done and hopefully we'll both lose this week.

I did much better yesterday, particularly in the evening which is when I usually want treats. I made beef and tomato sandwiches for DP and DD (Dd turned up unexpectedly) and I could have eaten them all, they looked so good. I had my parsnip soup as usual as I kept reminding myself I had to lose this week. I didn't get my exercises done AGAIN.

I hope you all have a good Tuesday. I haven't got much planned apart from the usual dog walk.

@thenewaveragebear1983 birthdays, agrrh they are such a problem when trying to lose weight. I suffered two in September but luckily I haven't got any in October. There aren't many months in the year when we don't have a family/friends birthday and I find them so difficult to navigate.

I would find a weekend away very difficult too so I hope you manage to control at least some of the food. If not, have a lovely time and we'll sort out any damage on your return. I think the weather is good for a few days now so that's a plus.

I'm struggling too, still feel awful with COVID and not sleeping well at all.
Strangely not hungry but eating loads...think it's boredom and bar a tiny walk no exercise.
But I'm with @Zebracat ...if we weren't trying it would be a lot worse.
Over the years I've used mfp intermittently so it's interesting looking back at weight...five years ago I felt I was at my most toned, slim etc...yet when I looked yesterday my weight was the same as now...my shape has changed and I have less muscle but basically I've been through menopause, pandemic and a child with life changing illness and I have managed to not gain weight.
My heaviest was 76 kg and my lightest was 69.9 kgs..mostly I'm around 72kgs...
I'm taking that as positive today.

@Theredjellybean and@poorpaws thank you for that. It is really important to be realistic, and chart the ups and downs in context. Dh went out at 5.00 am and littledog mourned him loud and long, so I had to get up, just had second breakfast, so hungry after our walk. But I have a small lunch and vegan dinner planned for today so it’s probably ok.

Keep on keeping on indeed. Thank you everyone for your updates, they brighten my Tuesday.

Sadly not a flukey period spike for me... 0.6kg gain last week. But I know it's because I'm struggling to fit in exercise and to find a routine. My upbringing was disorganised so I find planning and routine very hard but suffer without it. I think that's tough with holidays and birthdays too... we can't control all of it!

BUT I have at least got somewhere with what I'm wearing for big new job! A silly thing but it helps and thank you to everyone who gave advice here. I got a lovely jersey blazer and am wearing that with smart t shirt and cords/jeans or loud patterned skirt and smart trainers. I don't know what I'm talking about in meetings but I look like I might.

I've just eaten four rounds of toast and butter.
My homemade bread is smaller than a normal loaf but I think probably denser.
To give context that was dinner...I just couldn't be bothered to cook

Today went ok, until I got home and ate a piece two pieces of birthday cake. Oh well. It’s gone now…..

I need need need a good 2 days as we are then away Friday and Saturday which will be 6 meals out of my control, plus alcohol. And I feel so tired and still feeling crap with my HRT/heart problem/ chest pain that I can’t even be bothered right now. It’s really getting me down. I now have a pain in my leg that’s been annoying me all day. Surely it’s not normal for someone my age to just ache and hurt somewhere different every day? I’m so tired of it. I’m seeing a chiropractor tomorrow about my rib pain and I have a gp appointment on Thursday so hopefully will get some answers or at least somewhere nearer to answers.

Feeling chuffed that I resisted the very delicious looking cake selection at the V&A earlier. It helped enormously that they put the calories in the labels and 500+ per slice is not the one! So a sensible day meant I had calories available for a Bake Off snack this evening.

Hi all. Scales not showing any loss from 14 and a half stone but feel lighter and have been asked if I'd lost weight recently.

I can't recall the last time I had cake. Don't think I ever liked it and I'm thinking it may be down to pure sugar addiction.

I'm making tubs of veg to eat through the day but also when I get home from being out a while, as it has been known for me to binge on junk food at this time.

I’ve eaten a lot today. All on plan but still, large quantity for the day before weigh in. I’m not expecting a loss this week. Dh and I are away at a spa this weekend and I can’t wait, it will be so nice to just chill, mooch round the shops and go for a walk or two up the Malverns. Lovely.

i saw a chiropractor tonight and she says I have something called tieze syndrome, which is swelling and inflammation around the ribs/ intercostal muscles. She said my ribs are so inflamed it’s almost like there’s a bubble of water around them in places, and it explains my recent chest pain and general discomfort in that area and it gets very painful. I appear to have a chronic case of it as I’ve had discomfort there for years with repeated flare ups. so no cure as such, but management. Not really sure how I feel about that, but will add it to my long list of ailments….

That sounds very painful and debilitating @thenewaveragebear1983. Any sort of chronic condition where you're just supposed to 'manage' it is the absolute pits. I hope you find something effective that helps in some way. And fingers crossed for the weigh in. You never know!

I gained 1.5lbs but to be honest I think I got off lightly. It could easily have been 3. I’ve eaten so much cake and rubbish this week.

this weekend is my last hurrah, it’s 12 weeks til Christmas and I want to lose 12lbs, it’s possible but that will be tough for me so I need my head in the game. I’m away tomorrow and Friday and I want to enjoy myself, but Sunday morning onwards I’m on it. I sat in Sw group and planned my meals for the rest of the week- I’m going to batch cook some meals for lunches and make soup to freeze as well so I have everything to hand and no excuse. Yogurt and fruit and chia for breakfast, and aim for 10 fruit and veg a day.

Following my appointments this week I need to build some daily stretching into my life- I don’t know what the mental block is, I just cannot start 🤷‍♀️ so this week I am determined and my goal is 5 minutes a day to start with. I’ve been given the ok to run as well so I will be trying to get a few gentle miles in.

oh, and Wednesday is puppy day!! Brace yourselves for some serious puppy spam!!

Puppy spam is needed. My Dh showed me some photos from our holiday last week. I did actually swim in a rough sea with my daughter, and the picture of me emerging with a rucked up tankini and full wheel of Caerphilly cheese belly on show will stay with me for ever. So grim. I obviously have lost all perspective on what 1500 calories look like. I’m going away again next week too, so allI can do is try to keep things together in the days between.

Had a lovely day yesterday, dh and I did a little walk up the north hill in Malvern, then retired to our spa hotel where I sat in a lounger sunbathing (in the uk?? In October??) and drinking wine. The warm and the relaxation went right to my head, and I was very tipsy 😂 we ate antipasti and then I had some sort of burger but tbh I was quite drunk by this point and I can’t remember what it was exactly but it was delicious 😋

so a good day had by all.

today, I have had granary toast with avocado and poached eggs, and some melon slices 😇 and we are going to drive to the other end of Malvern to do a walk from the British camp. I fancy a mooch round the vintage shops this afternoon, and the hotel has a lovely thermal pool and fitness suite so if I can be bothered I might go to the gym.

@Zebracat sorry you were disappointed with your photos. Please don’t dwell on them, they aren’t a real representation- as you said, emerging from a rough sea, tankini all awry, how unfortunate that that exact moment got snapped. Delete? Or retake? I think we can all empathise with that. I have felt so sad looking at photos of myself, I am now very reluctant to even have them taken and I get very sensitive about other people having awful photos of me in their possession. My MiL is a happy snapper of the highest order and she loves a badly lit, badly angled, mid-conversation candid shot. Even our wedding photo is one of us taken badly by her friend rather than one of our expensive, beautiful photos. 😡 I have just had to try and not be bothered by them, to make sure I take my own that I am happy with, and make sure that there are at least a few nice pictures of me with my children for them to have in the future.

@Zebracat @thenewaveragebear1983 photos can be crushing, I think the worst is when you thought you looked ok that day and the photos reveal the truth. My determination this time around is largely fuelled by photos from our holiday in Thailand in August. It was booked a year in advance, plan was to lose 2 stone. Failed. Wore 4 tent dresses on rotation all holiday. Thought I got away with it. Photos are all fat woman in huge dresses. DH has a family photo as his screen saver.

My week has been fine so far, just lost 1 lb or so. Have been tempted to drink this week, not sure why, but have just managed to keep going. My favourite booze isn’t in the house. 34 days no booze except for the night I had 2 g&t’s.

Oh you are all so kind. He normally only takes photos of birds and trains, but he’s proud of my swimming and meant well. I have asked him to delete it. But I have lost a kilo since I saw it! So maybe I should print it off and put it somewhere prominent… maybe I respond better to negative reinforcement.