DIET FAILED AGAIN thread 5. Everyone is welcome to join our very supportive and friendly group without any judgement.

[poorpaws]

Thread 5, everyone welcome!

Sorry to hear that @Theredjellybean . It must be a very difficult time.

Oh my @Theredjellybean I am so, so sorry and I hope your father is comfortable. I know it's difficult but try to look after yourself and your mum. Sending you lots of strength and support. We are all here for you if you need us x

@thenewaveragebear1983 wow well done. It takes me back to many years ago when I gained 3 lbs the first week at SW. The lady in charge told me it was difficult to gain 3 lbs in one week on their plan,"oh", I replied "I found it very easy". (The truth was I had actually stuck to their plan).

@triplecheeese how are you doing? I'm really struggling atm and wondered how my twin is doing.

So at the cafe today (Friday cafe day) I actually turned down the cake! Mmm it was homemade but was a plain Victoria sponge (looked good though) and I am waiting for something a bit more exotic. I'm returning to the cafe on Sunday for an all-day breakfast with my daughter so I'll have to make that my main meal and try to eat less in the evening.

I hope everyone is having a good Friday and you don't give in to the end of week excess.

@poorpaws thank you for checking in! I actually wrote a very long message earlier picking up on a few different convos and lost it, had a strop and put the phone away. Can't remember it now but I was vehemently agreeing with the conversation about having a good appetite - I've always been able to eat more than others. Not so much sweet things but I could eat and eat savoury. Get me at a good Indian buffet and I'll still be there at closing.

I was also agreeing with the conversation about the vicious cycle of eating, feeling crap, negative self talk, feeling worse and eating again. We are also socially conditioned to feel guilty for weight. Diet culture is getting better, but certainly I remember my mother, aunts and their friends being OBSESSED with weight (their own, other people's, mine) and using such negative language about fatness, as if being overweight was the worst thing a woman could be. All in all makes me want to give the world the middle finger and hit the buffet.

I'm sorry that you're feeling demotivated and frustrated. You created this lovely community, I'm hoping you can find some encouragement here as you encourage others. I'm struggling to keep the motivation going in the ups and downs of life. I don't know about what works for me really, but exercise is the key - as @Sedgwick said exercise for me is about boosting mental health and managing anxiety. Get the head right and the body will follow...

I didn't get on the scales on Monday. Will have a peek tomorrow...

@thenewaveragebear1983 congrats on the 140s!

@triplecheeese i definitely agree about the social conditioning. My mum has been on a diet her whole life, but then so have I. She has a lot of negative self talk and such a bad relationship with food. I get all my food weirdness from her.

I had an ok day today, the sun was shining, walked the dog two long walks and did a hiit workout, had a little nap. Prepped a few things, soup and chicken for the week. I’ve planned all my meals and am raring to go (actually, I feel tired and not in the slightest raring but….)

we had lasagne tonight and it’s so calorific i have weighed everything and carefully counted it, but I had a very small portion and now I’m really hungry!

Hi everyone

Monday morning again, my they come around quickly. I refused to weigh which isn't necessarily a good thing.

Life is pretty bleak here. My old dog is poorly again and I'm getting up to sick and diarrhoea on the kitchen floor every day. We're going to the vets today to get some of that meaty paste in a tube which dries them up. She's 13 tomorrow, so a really old lady now and bless her she is so sorry for herself.

Also my daughter isn't well again. We went for the all-day breakfast I spoke of and she hardly ate anything and she looked awful too. She is very thin naturally but hasn't eaten properly for quite a while so she looks dreadful.

I'm plodding along, getting fatter not fitter and of course it's Monday so I'll start the diet again <sigh>. Shopping morning so I'll try to load the trolley with "good" food.

Have a good day everyone.

Sorry about the small lasagne @thenewaveragebear1983. Hope you avoided the snack attacks. I would have had a regular portion and this is why you are so much more successful than me 😂

10st 8lbs today, so still 1lb up on the start of April. Not exactly kicking April's ass but I have managed to get off my own ass and fit in some exercise so I'm feeling mentally brighter. Inspired by @thenewaveragebear1983 I stirred some protein powder into my granola and Greek yoghurt, it turned into grout so I'm confident it's good for the bowels.

Rubbish start to the week @poorpaws wishing both DD and DDog better health and happiness soon.

KBO everyone ❤️

Good week for me, lost 3 lbs doing strict Fast800. 1 lb more and I am back to where I was pre the Easter set back. Feel really well.

Sorry you having a tough time @poorpaws.

Thats great @triplecheeese , are you far off your goal weight?

Well done @Sedgwick and great to hear you're feeling well.

About 10st is my goal or rather 64kgs. I managed to see 63.5kgs last year but havent seen it since!

I had a good day today food wise but I feel very flat and meh generally. I always get this mid cycle when I switch my HRT patches. It’s like a mini pmt - I just feel tired and lack lustre and completely dissatisfied with life with food.
I’ve come in under my calories target today, 1387, 142g protein. But I did no exercise except walk the dog (it was work out day but I just couldn’t face it). We’ve been using the new Nadiya Hussain range of sachets from Schwartz, tonight we had tangy chicken tacos 🌮 they were really good. Considering I feel like i could absolutely binge on chocolate tonight, I’ve resisted because I know deep down it will do me no good at all but it’s been hard tonight.

tomorrow- will try to fit in a workout in the morning before the office. It will be my usual protein breakfast, lunch is lentil soup and I’ll do a little box of cheese, cherry tomatoes and other bits to go with it., then dinner will be peppers stuffed with quinoa, turkey mince and goats cheese. 😋

Sounds delicious food today @thenewaveragebear1983 we use the nadiya mixes too - the chicken kebabs and sweet potato wedges always go down well.

good luck with the mid cycle funk. I squeezed in a Caroline Girvan arms workout this morning, not a clue how she manages to swing about 20kg dumbbells when I'm huffing and puffing with my 4kgs 😂

protein grout for breakfast, chicken salad for lunch, possibly chickpea curry for dinner if I can be bothered...

Tuesday is always a crappy day for me, it’s my office day and it’s draining and boring and I end up knackered and frazzled. My food was ok but I have just gone over my calories by eating some chocolate buttons and a penguin biscuit. I have a headache and feel really tired so I’m surprised that’s all I had to be honest! I’ve not worked out or run or even walked the dog today. I had a tiny twinge in my knee all day and I’ve just decided to rest it for a day or two, plus my mid-cycle funk is still looming so all in all, a pretty rubbish day.

An ok day for me today. I’ve stuck to calories, went for a run drank lots of water- but I just feel pretty flat still and I could genuinely stuff my face on sugar if there was anything to actually stuff!

I thought I’d give into my carb cravings and had quinoa and goats cheese salad at lunch instead of a low carb choice, but not sure that it actually helped.

I’ve not done my Caroline Girvan this week, I just have a few niggling twinges one in my back and one in my knee, probably from overdoing it to be honest, so I’m taking a few days out. I did run this morning, a fast 3km and then a slow 2.5 to get home.

it’s weigh in tomorrow for me, I was half a pound from my stone award but I think I’ll have gained this week as I don’t feel like I’ve really stuck to anything this week. If that’s the case I might go to a Saturday group instead and give myself a few extra days.

im non scale news though, I bought some jeans in the next size down as target jeans, and they fit! So 🙌 woohoo! On Saturday I am taking my dd shopping as I need new underwear and bras as my current ones no longer actually hold anything in! So even though my scales losses are small, clearly something is working somewhere.

@thenewaveragebear1983 Woohoo! on the NSV, that is fantastic. I am sorry you're not feeling on top of the world atm, maybe you caught it from me, but you are dealing with the slump far better than I am so that's a second woohoo from me.

@triplecheeese you honestly made me lol with protein grout, it made me do one of those loud, long laughs with a disturbing little snort 😁. It will be forever protein grout in my house. I needed that laugh so thank you.

Also you are doing well, I'd be delighted if I was back to 10st 8, I'm probably at least a stone more than that and I actually feel it.

I'm still in a deep black hole, trying to climb out. My dog is much better, thanks to the paste and it's rather refreshing not to get up to a lake of diarrhoea.

I went for my dental checkup yesterday expecting nothing to be wrong. Turns out all my gums are poor and when the dentist touched them over a tooth, every one bled. She immediately gave me her emergency number and told me to ring at 8.30 am for an emergency appointment WHEN (not if) I get toothache. Apparently all my back teeth will fall out because of the gum disease and my cheeks will sink in. I was a bit in shock so just said "ooh I'll look thinner in the face then" ☹️

I'm still not weighing and still not doing too well. After weeks of searching we found the slabs for the garden we wanted (it's been a 10 year project) and now reviews tell us they aren't very good. I just want the job done, I don't want to talk about slabs any more. I just want to go to my washing line without treading on rubble fgs!

Anyway I'm waffling, filling in for the fact my diet is non-existent. I sat out in the cold yesterday after the dentists, eating a triple ice cream.

April kick ass has not worked at all for me so I'm hoping for a good start in May.

Have a good day everyone.

Yikes re gum disease @poorpaws , I think it’s fairly common as we get older. My teeth were great until my late 40s, since then I’ve had a couple crack and chip while eating and I needed a crown. DH has had the same. Ageing is not dignified.

Great news on smaller size jeans @thenewaveragebear1983. I am looking forward to new jeans but really need to pull out all my old ones from size 8 - 16 and see if anything fits first. Can’t face it just yet. My legs are slim but tummy still fat.

Doing well here, chipping away and 8 lbs to go. DH bought some fake bacon (soya and lots of additives), I had a taste, neither of us liked it and it went in the bin. Annoyingly the house now stinks of bacon without the pleasure of eating it.

Having a chickpea, quinoa and veg casserole for dinner. Managed a week with no alcohol. Got new ASICS trainers, figure if I stay off the booze another week I will have paid for them. Never had trainers this expensive before. They are like a cloud after my old pair.

@Sedgwick I also have jeans (all my clothes actually) in sizes 8 to 16, it's very depressing. I might as well charity shop the 8s and 10s because I'm never going to be that small again but I live in hope to get back into size 12. I'm going to start again in May and kick ass (but I did say that in April and now I refuse to weigh).

What's the opposite of a NSV because whatever it is I had one today (non-scale defeat?) My dog walking jacket which was loose a couple of months ago was very tight today. It was so tight the side pockets were bulging and the zip was pulling. I hadn't noticed before but if I gain much more weight I won't be able to fasten it 😬😳

Have a good healthy day everyone.

I had a rubbish day today. I’m so bloody hormonal this month, it’s not even pmt it’s ovulation hormones and I have just had the crappiest cravings all week. I’m exhausted and pissed off and freezing cold, and to be honest I just lost my shit today. I weighed (unofficial, before weigh in) and I have gained 2lbs which I probably deserve but even so, I’m not paying to get weighed to have gained. So instead I ate loads of sugary bready crap. 🤦‍♀️

anyway. I have got to get my hormones into check. It’s worse since I’ve been on HRT because of the switch from one patch to another, but I get this every month and it’s getting ridiculous now, a full week of mid cycle misery every 4 weeks. But that’s another thread for another day…..

back on it from tomorrow. No social plans or anything exciting over the weekend so nothing to get in my way. I get paid tomorrow so will do a good shop and get my head back in the game,

Another awful day for me, I’m like an animal possessed! I genuinely couldn’t list all the rubbish I’ve eaten today, it’s been a full on binge all day. I don’t even feel full. I could eat more. I have no idea why but I have got to stop!

just been to Asda and done a big healthy shop with all my meals planned for the week but it’s not the meals, it’s all the extras!
I am doing a run tomorrow so at least I should be well fuelled! No drinking this weekend and try to get some proper sleep, I think part of my issue is extreme tiredness, we’ve been up til 11 every night this week and up at 6 every day. Exhausting!

@thenewaveragebear1983 aww bless you, I feel your pain. I am
exactly the same but mine is gluttony, boredom and the bloody cold. I am foul atm, not fit to speak to or be with. I've fallen out with my daughter and she stormed out of my house so how that will get resolved I'm not sure but I am very stubborn ...

I went to the hairdressers (in the rain) yesterday so DP took the dogs out and my collie ran, her back leg went into a hole in the grass and now she can't put her hind leg to the floor. This happened before (about 2 years ago) and it took over six months to mend. This means she can't go out except for a 5 minute lead walk and the other two have to go out so it becomes very difficult.

I braved the scales as I just have to start now, today! 11st 4.5 lbs, that's far too high. It's so difficult to cut down when you're always cold, it's raining yet again and you're totally fed up with what life throws at you. Even our cafe is closed for two weeks and DP won't go anywhere else.

So I'm either stuck inside with one dog or out in the pouring rain with two. DP can't get on with his garden project so he'll do his pacing to the window habit and I'll want to throw something at him and all this without the aid of chocolate!

@thenewaveragebear1983 I'm as fed up as you or maybe worse so come on here and moan or rant as much as you need to and I'll moan right back 😁

Hello all...
Sad news from me...my darling father died on Thursday.
It was very peaceful and I was with him for the last five days.
Been living off sandwichs and tea at the hospital.
Last night did have a proper meal for first time.
I'm supposed to be up and running this morning but it's pouring with rain so I'm still in bed.
I'm going to try not to eat my feelings but rather channel my grief into running instead.

@Theredjellybean I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you manage to stay strong at this awful time for both yourself and your mum. Sending you a huge hug x

I feel I should say more but nothing I say is going to make you feel better. The only thing that keeps me going is this saying:

You can cry because he has gone or smile because he has lived.
He would want you to smile.

I am thinking of you, sending strength to carry on and support if you need me. X

@Theredjellybean so sorry for your loss. Take it easy on yourself.

@Theredjellybean so sorry to hear this. Be kind to yourself. 🌺

@Theredjellybean look after yourself, nothing else matters in your world right now.

I’ve been dipping in and out of this thread. I’ve spent the last 4 weeks bouncing around but never getting under 12st as every time I reach 12, I self sabotage. Last week I had a couple of exhausted binges and didn’t weigh because I didn’t want to know the damage. Thursday afternoon I came down with a cold which then floored me yesterday (wondering if it’s actually covid) so I had no energy or appetite. I’ve eaten today but on plan and weight is 12st so this is the week I will start to see the scales begin with an 11!