Here I am again, another summer and still fucking FAT.

[Lostinplaces]

Will I ever do it I wonder? 41 this year and still a fat fucker. Every year I promise myself I will not be obese for another year. FFS how I lie to myself. Someone wire my fucking jaw shut please!

Just dropping in to say I’m the same. Went out with my friends a few weeks back, for the first time in ages. I cringed so much when I saw the photos - then I remembered I felt exactly the same the last time we went out and I’m probably fatter now than then!!!

But, I have recently made a bit (teeny tiny) but a bit of progress - I’ve lost 3lb in 4 weeks. Yes that is slow BUT better than nothing AND not self sabotaging. Few things that have helped - 1) finding other ways to treat myself than food, 2) I love Sean Casey fitness and The Fitness Chef on insta. I don’t pay for their stuff (just because I have spent hundreads in the past on bloody diets, books, pills and bullshit). I just access the content they put out on instagram. They both give out sound advice and I think they’re funny. 3) getting into strength training and yoga at home. Even if I can only squeeze 10 mins in a day it’s better than nothing.

Dropping in to say that this morning, after 9 years of being either obese or overweight, I am 1lb away from being in the healthy weight range and nearly 2 stone down from this time last year. I'm mid-40s. Thought I'd never get here. My knees have stopped aching and my back feels much better. I now have a waist again. I've plateaud many a time and my weight tend to come off in chunks. I've found that the more I lose, the more motivated I am to lose. I haven't followed any particular diet and still drink alcohol once a week. I've reduced but not eliminated carbs. I just count calories and average about 1200 maybe 5 days a week. I often eat two meals a day at 11ish and 4ish. Not doing much exercise other than dog walks. I hope this doesn't come across as smug... it's intended to be motivating. I'd like to lose another stone. I'm 5ft 8 and now 11 stone 11.5. Heaviest weight was 15 stone and I was miserable and sweaty. I'm now a comfortable size 14 down from an 18. I would like to be a 12 again. A bit worries about losing my boobs (never had much) but so happy my belly is flattening.

@Underwaterlife that's amazing! and be as smug as you like! you've worked hard for that result.

I'm going on holiday next week and when I booked it, in January, I swore I would make a start to lose the 4stone I've piled on in the last 10ish years. But no. I've managed to actually put on about 6lbs instead so yay! go me!! 😂soul destroying though when I try last years holiday clothes on and they're feeling uncomfortable. God damn it.

@Underwaterlife - that's amazing, you must be so proud. I really hope to get to that stage.
Last night I started a zoom nhs lighter life programme, it's not anything I don't know but it's absolutely that I fail to apply it. Treats have gone from occasional to daily, random snacks when I'm bored and not even hungry etc.
I have 2 weeks till a formal dinner, I'm not expecting massive changes, first I need to stop gaining and feel better about myself.

Thank you. I forgot that I have dabbled with Fast 800 for a week or two here and there but not for a sustained period. I think you just eventually reach a point where by you've had enough of being fat for the last time! I won't lie... the prospect of dating again spurred me on as I could not face being naked with someone at my higher weight. Other things that helped were regularly looking at inspirational stuff online and at my fat photos! It feels great to be slimmer but the good feelings started earlier in the weight loss as you see results.

@Underwaterlife well done! So basically fasting with a 5 hour eating window? And like you say, still having some of the things like alcohol and carbs but just less overall. This is what I am doing roughly, though calorie counting might help me lose quicker, but busy life etc! Like you say, that good feeling when you feel slimmer , is such a positive! I have an operation in 5 weeks so that is my goal to ensure I can recover quicker with a bit less fat on me! Then just feeling better overall and not having to buy new clothes! Also, I notice now just how easy it is to gain, just a cheeky weekend or extras really piles the pounds on, so these need to be less frequent! Well done and keep going!!

@Underwaterlife, how did you find fast 800? I’ve got the book (free on kindle unlimited) but I’m not actually sure what the premise is apart from eating 800 calories.

I’m so miserable being fat. But I can’t seem to sort myself out.

@Oscarpapa I've been doing a fairly loose version of Fast 800 for the last 10 weeks. I'd say I probably do between 800-1000 cal per day - no gluten or starchy carbs, no booze. Try to eat within a reasonably confined period but actually I'm less good at that bit. Basically eat protein and veg. I use the online plan for recipes and manipulate them to do on repeat as I can't be doing with too much cooking and too many ingredients! I've lost 15kg. I need to lose a lot more!

@RunningKatie can I ask if your GP referred you for the NHS programme? I'm seeing the Health & Wellbeing Practitioner at my GP surgery next week - for weight loss as well as general depression/ anxiety - they've already mentioned that I might be eligible for subsidised gym membership and Slimming World membership, I just wondered if there was something I might find more useful! In general I find support groups really good but I just can't get to any of our local SW groups. I've used Second Nature before and liked it but it's now £40 per month

@LibbySarjeant - I did a self referrral for the programme, sometime last year and didn't even get an acknowledgement. Then out of the blue got an email saying I'd got to the top of the list.

This weeks challenge is to drink more water and eat at least 5 portions of fruit/veg a day. None of this used to be a problem for me. I'm really having to consciously do it now.

Sorry... been off Mumsnet for a while. Yes sometimes I've just eaten in a restricted window...but not always and eating 3 meals rather than 2 hasn't impeded weight loss for me.. it's all about calorie deficit. I do try not to eat anything after my evening meal so after about 6.30pm. As for Fast 800... I never once managed to stick to 800 calories... 1000 maybe. I didn't even follow the recipes.. just made my usually food but fewer carbs. Im plateauing this week as had a hectic week and not been so strict...but I'm ok with that as the general trajectory is downward. Just starting to squeeze into 12s in some clothes. Onwards! Best of luck all. It can be done.

You sound like me!

How bizarre @RunningKatie , you'd think the GP/ NHS would want to encourage people to join these schemes, or at least acknowledge that they're on the waiting list!

I had a really helpful CBT session today and worked in my anxiety over meal planning, which sounds really stupid but I just find it stressful and overwhelming. They gave me some tips though which hopefully will help.

Feeling terrible today though - DTS2 was ill last night with a temperature and the shivers, although seems ok today - I think he passed all his germs on to me

@RunningKatie I saw the Health & Wellbeing practitioner at the GP surgery last week and she has referred me to the weight management service - she thinks I'll be offered two or three options but wasn't sure which or when. However she also thinks they are keen on moving quickly, hopefully I'll hear back soon!

Fingers crossed @LibbySarjeant - week 3 zoom call tonight. I've lost 2lbs so far, but given that this weekend went totally awry then that's ok. I could absolutely be ok with being 12lb down at the end, although more would be amazing!

How did your Zoom call go @RunningKatie ? That's the sort of thing I'm after, regular checking in with people for more encouragement!

I did send my GP a message (via their website) to ask if I'd missed anything about this, I thought I was going to get a text with a link to sign up but maybe not?!

I am on holiday and hating myself right now! The AUGUST DE-FATTENING is almost upon me, from the day we get home and leave the buffet with all the desserts…..

I think I’m going to have to bite the perimeno bullet and do some weights. I already do enough swimming and walking.

My Fitbit has a 6 week program I’m going to follow just to kick start some stuff.

Well my holiday starts tomorrow. My goal was 10 pounds. I managed 7. Could be worse!

@toomanyleggings That is fantastic! Hope your holiday is fabulous. I procrastinated the year away and ended up the biggest I’ve ever been on hols. Not booking next years until I’ve made some in roads into the extra three stone I’m carting about.

I flit between hating the way I look in clothes and feeling like I'd rather be fat and happy than give up the things I love.
I think I need to up the exercise rather than cut down into what seems like joyless eating.

@Makegoodchoices thank you!

DP has decided it would be a great idea for us to go abroad at Christmas. The thought of wearing anything less than my current summer wardrobe of trousers, top and hoodie is a scary one

Well done @toomanyleggings - that's great going!
The rubbish summer weather isn't helping my quest for salads and lighter foods, I walked past a display of mulled wine yesterday in a shop and it felt quite appealing.

This is me too. I have a theory- and this is just me not saying it’s everybody- that while my conscious mind wants to lose weight, my repeated self-sabotage (despite knowing what to do and actually not finding it that hard when I actually do it) means that my unconscious mind must have other ideas, ie that it thinks being overweight is serving me in some way or other. How that is, I don’t know.

@BinFace I've had some counselling around that issue, the counsellor's theory was that every time I eat something I 'shouldn't' it's a little dopamine hit, and my brain is just so used to having that little hit that the (supposedly) bigger hit of eating 'good' things just doesn't cut it!

@RunningKatie it's been a reasonably warm day here today but tomorrow we're predicted more rain, mulled wine or hot chocolate sound very appealing...