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1st January start, anyone up for it?

699 replies

HimiJendrix · 29/12/2022 12:30

I can't put it off much longer, I am getting very large and uncomfortable. My eating has become very out of control.

I need to shift around 4 stone, not sure exactly as I am to scared to get on the scales.

Anyone want to join me for a big new start and weigh in on Sunday 1st January?

OP posts:
KathyBurke · 01/01/2023 11:54

@wizzler I am so addicted to chocolate, I eat so much of it every day. I'm not that fussed about savoury food and rarely overeat it. It's frightening how much sweet stuff I can pack away and not feel sick. The first couple of days of no chocolate is really hard for me, it makes me feel I'll and I get a banging headache.

mothertrucking · 01/01/2023 12:04

Ok, so I got weighed and I'm 12 stone. The heaviest I've ever been in my life, including heavier than I ever was during my 2 pregnancies.

I want to lose a stone and anything more is a bonus.

Walnutwhipsarenothesame · 01/01/2023 12:05

Me. I need to lose 4 stone.

recklessgran · 01/01/2023 12:05

I'm in too. Like @fedupsweetpea I am also hypothyroid. I've found the only way to lose with an underactive thyroid is low carb/keto. I lost 2 and a half stone a couple of years ago easily doing that but inevitably I have put it all back on and more. So. Start weight 14st 11lbs - the highest I've ever been in my life. I currently am sporting a huge bread baby that sticks out beyond my boobs - bread is my version of crack so that's going for a start. I'm going to do 16:8 and my eating window is going to be midday to 8.00pm. Add to this a very absorbing and interesting WFH desk job plus the fact that I HATE exercise and rarely move more that 20 steps at a time away from my desk. It's all a terrible combo isn't it? Anyway I'm going to start with lowish carb and definitely no bread whatsoever.
Today's meal plan is egg salad [no dressing] for lunch and cottage pie, runner beans, carrots and broccoli for dinner. No snacks and black coffee to drink.
My motivation is a forthcoming holiday to Gran Canaria in March [goal 1st 4lbs off by then- so 13st 7lbs] and after that my beautiful DD3's wedding at the beginning of August - I am determined not to be the fat MOTB so need at least 3 stone off by then to look in any way decent. I have height on my side but even so I currently look awful.

GlumShoe · 01/01/2023 12:48

So I've just got weighed. 10st 2.5lb.
I've put over a stone on in the last 10 months.
It's my birthday this week and I'm going out for dinner and drinks. I had planned on enjoying it and not starting properly until after that but since I'm 5lb heavier than I was at the beginning of December, I think I might try and reign it in.

Walnutwhipsarenothesame · 01/01/2023 13:25

JoyPeaceSleep · 01/01/2023 11:44

@anonexhausted I'm glad you shared that. I don't want to get too heavy on this thread, so skim past this if your family of origin is supportive! but dysfunctional family dynamics have been dragging me down so much over the last few years. In May 2020 I told my mother she was hurting me by repeatedly glossing over the past so dismissively. It has never been addressed and to her it's a grudge. i Just asked that it stop now iin the present! I wasn't trying to hold her accountable for the past. Even so, she martyred up, she was hurt, She was the victim, my Dad came over to reprimand me for ''hurting mum''. I wouldn't back down. So I was written out of the family. I got the silent treatment. My Dad enables her defensiveness and my brother is the apologist.

He gets it, cognitively, but still feels anger towards me for not just buckling under. , I've asked him ''how come mum's pain is real and I ought do x,y,or z to avoid causing her more pain (ie, apologise to her) but my pain spanning decades of having been the family scapegoat is a ''grudge'??'' and he has no answer but he feels angry with me for not just accepting their perspective as reality. I stood solidly in my own interpretation of events, that they hurt me. That they turned it all around and attacked me and shamed me, smeared me to all the relatives and family friends and generally just wrote me out of the play. I entered stage left and they have accepted that. Every single time I have tried to talk to them I got called another name. Insane. Detached from reality. Entitled. Looking like a dog's dinner!!! Yes, really. I was begging them to listen to how I felt and they insulted my appearance! so I know worse things have happened to people at a much younger age and really I am strong enough to look after myself now, but it was in the backdrop of all of this upset that I put on so much weight.

Losing it will also signify healing from being the scapegoat. I'll still be the scapegoat but I'll be an emotionally and physically healthy scapegoat.

I can so relate to all that you e said and feel very much the same.

Eggsley · 01/01/2023 13:43

@KathyBurke I am 5'4" as well. I've just done my BMI...31.4...I am also obese 

@JoyPeaceSleep yep, I think this is the rocket I needed!

A healthy weight for my height is apparently between 7st 10lb and 10st 6lb. I don't think my weight has been in the 10st bracket since before I had DS1 and he's 12. I'm not sure it's ever been in the 7st bracket since I've been an adult.

Sorry to all those who are dealing with difficult family dynamics Flowers

marshmallowmarzipan · 01/01/2023 13:44

I’m going to weigh tomorrow - I always like starting on Mondays and it’s my anniversary today so want to enjoy it (but also upping water and getting out for a walk to try and get started slowly!)

JoyPeaceSleep · 01/01/2023 14:03

@recklessgran that is a good motivation!

Right, off for a walk now. I went for an hour's walk yesterday and my legs were tired when I got home. I have NOT been pushing myself at all lately.

JoyPeaceSleep · 01/01/2023 14:05

Thanks @Walnutwhipsarenothesame I have definitely felt like I needed to be kind to myself with food so now I need to switch around and be good to myself through health. Bit of a mindset gear change.

mothertrucking · 01/01/2023 14:08

I started well had a smoothie, yoghurt and apple for breakfast. Without even thinking I've just eaten a sausage roll out of the fridge 😫

Syrax · 01/01/2023 14:08

Weighed myself today - I thought I was around 13-13.5st but I’m 14st 3lbs 😱

Thats almost 4 stones heavier than when I got married and 3 stone over where I want to be. For the first time in my life, I’m classed as overweight according to my BMI (I’m 6ft tall).

So, that’s my primary goal for 2023.

How do people use the TDEE and My Fitness Pal?
Calculate the ‘cutting’ calorie allowance on TDEE and use that as the ‘goal’ on MFP?

I’m such a novice at this - even my breakfast of 2 boiled eggs with 2 slices of toast and butter and a glass of orange juice seems to have wracked up over 850 calories - that’s around half of my daily allowance!

Are there any good websites for suggesting low calorie (vegetarian) options for each meal?

comeon2023 · 01/01/2023 14:08

anonexhausted · 01/01/2023 11:23

I'm in :) 335.2lbs this morning, wtf but I don't care. I've beaten myself up enough over the years and did it make me thin? Did it bollocks. So here's to an alcohol free, take-away free year that doesn't feel like a fucking punishment! Instead of my go-to lazy weekend breakfast of Costa caramel latte, muffin, McDonalds breakfast (around 1200 calories), I'm having a lovely home-made flat white, home-made McDonald's fake sausage muffin and an Aldi high protein chocolate (half portion) at a total of 600 calories. I'm going into the new year taking even less bullshit than ever. I've blocked my deranged brother on all forms of communication (much to the angst of the rest of the family - oh dear how sad never mind) and am putting my foot down that I am not picking up "odd jobs if you get a minute," because guess what? I deserve a day off too! Good luck all x

All of this!!! And your breakfast sounds delicious. The only time I've successfully lost weight and kept most of it off was after I made myself focus on health and self-respect, not just starving and talking down to myself.

Moonlightsonatas · 01/01/2023 14:10

After 2 kids I’m still hovering around 15 stone but I remember the days when I used to be around 10 stone 😭
This year I want to lose around 3 stone which would get me back to the top of my healthy BMI band.

Majorityofthree23 · 01/01/2023 14:35

Remembering to not mindlessly snack is not easy. Have had to stop myself twice in the last hour and I'm not even hungry. Hopefully will get easier.

PeppermintChoc · 01/01/2023 14:37

Me - 1 stone.
Crept on after an injury in the summer.

falgelednl · 01/01/2023 14:43

Weighed myself this morning - 86kg exactly.
I am focussing on healthier lifestyle and overall changes rather than short term goals.

EddietheEagle · 01/01/2023 15:07

How's everyone doing
I've made a great start. Done a 5km brisk walk and have stuck to my calories. Eaten fruit aswell!

EddietheEagle · 01/01/2023 15:10

Syrax · 01/01/2023 14:08

Weighed myself today - I thought I was around 13-13.5st but I’m 14st 3lbs 😱

Thats almost 4 stones heavier than when I got married and 3 stone over where I want to be. For the first time in my life, I’m classed as overweight according to my BMI (I’m 6ft tall).

So, that’s my primary goal for 2023.

How do people use the TDEE and My Fitness Pal?
Calculate the ‘cutting’ calorie allowance on TDEE and use that as the ‘goal’ on MFP?

I’m such a novice at this - even my breakfast of 2 boiled eggs with 2 slices of toast and butter and a glass of orange juice seems to have wracked up over 850 calories - that’s around half of my daily allowance!

Are there any good websites for suggesting low calorie (vegetarian) options for each meal?

Looking at your breakfast, you'd be much better to have 2 boiled eggs with one slice of wholemeal toast, no butter and lose the orange juice

Add a banana

wizzler · 01/01/2023 15:10

Weigh in this morning. 12st 7.8
Have walked the dog through the woods and kept myself busy. As @KathyBurke said, I'm predicting a headache as the chocolate craving hits. Have eaten a normal lunch but would normally be into the biscuits by now .#feelingvirtuous

Hettar · 01/01/2023 15:11

I'd like to join too please. I weighed myself this morning and I'm 9st 6lbs, which is the biggest I've ever been. I've fooled myself into thinking it's muscle for ages, but its fat.

My initial goal is to lose 2st.

Good luck everyone

Syrax · 01/01/2023 15:14

EddietheEagle · 01/01/2023 15:10

Looking at your breakfast, you'd be much better to have 2 boiled eggs with one slice of wholemeal toast, no butter and lose the orange juice

Add a banana

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Thank you! I’ll do that next time.

I love orange juice! 😢

lorisparkle · 01/01/2023 15:19

I would like to join too. I am the heaviest I have ever been and struggling to fit into my clothes. I could do with losing at least 1 stone if not 2!

I have signed up to Noom so hopefully that will help.

MrsCreek · 01/01/2023 15:37

Count me in! Am not weighing until tomorrow as am away from home at the moment. But last time I weighed I was 14st 11lbs, so I am expecting to be over 15st by now Sad so I will need to lose 3st to get out of the obese category and closer to normal.

My weakness is wine. I am going to attempt to do dry January. Not sure about the diet - I have tried so many, unsuccessfully! It is willpower that gets me. If I decide I "fancy" pie and mash or chicken and chips, I don't seem to be able to persuade myself to stick to whatever healthy meal I had planned. I sometimes wonder if the medication I am on gives me cravings - Sertraline and Bisoprolol. Anyway, even if they do, I need to get past it!

Happy new year to you all - let's do this Star

SliceoQuiche · 01/01/2023 15:57

Count me in. Last time I weighed (about two weeks ago) I was 13st 6, which for my height 5ft 6, makes me look like a roly poly dough person.
I would love to lose 3 stone by the end of the year, but even losing less than that and sorting the health problems that come from carrying so much weight would be a start.

Walked 10k steps today and this is my last day of eating rubbish as haven’t had time to meal plan over new year. Going to go back to intermittent fasting which did me the world of good in 2021, and see where I end up!

Lets do this ⭐️