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Child suddenly asking me to cover up my fatness?

113 replies

Lou153Lou · 15/05/2022 19:21

My BMI is currently 29 and I am losing weight. My children are all skinny.

I’ve always been naked around the house before I get dressed in the morning and before bed or whatever. I still bath with my children.

Tonight my 8 year old daughter (eldest) was in the bath with me and said that she was embarrassed by my nakedness and ‘squidgyness’.

I thought it was a nakedness thing so explained how she’d have to be more careful not to see me. Knock on doors etc.

It turns out that she doesn’t even want to see me in my underwear because I’m too squidgy.

She’s very upset that she felt she had to tell me which makes it worse.

I don’t know how I feel about this info or what to do about it.

Anyone options or experiences from anyone else who feels entitled to be naked in their own house if they want to be?

OP posts:
GroggyLegs · 15/05/2022 20:21

Swerving the bit about nakedness...

Once my eldest suggested I needed to 'drop some weight off my legs' which resulted in a talk about how my legs are there to do things - they run half marathons, take them swimming, walk miles & miles, but they will never be skinny and that's okay because they're not ornaments to be looked at.

'Beauty Redefined' has lots of suggestions for thinking & talking positively about every body.

janeseymour78 · 15/05/2022 20:23

I doubt this is about your weight. I'd not be naked aside from my own bedroom with the door closed. I don't think you should be bathing with them either. Sounds like a gateway to codependency.

Christinatherabbit · 15/05/2022 20:24

I am almost certain this is a utter troll at best! Stop responding to it. Its disturbing

KatherineJaneway · 15/05/2022 20:33

DisforDarkChocolate · 15/05/2022 19:22

When your children have expressed that they are uncomfortable with your nakedness, you stop being naked in front of them.

Agree. Cover up.

jammyrose · 15/05/2022 20:44

FuckingNoise · 15/05/2022 20:21

Just put some clothes on for fucks sake!

Yep. This.

Iwonder08 · 15/05/2022 20:53

Perhaps you shouldn't over analyse and just listen to your child. She doesn't want you to be so naked, you make her uncomfortable. Put some clothes on.

gamerchick · 15/05/2022 20:56

183T · 15/05/2022 20:20

Are we sure this thread doesn’t need to be reported? There is no way a decent mum would bath with an 8 year old and come onto mumsnet to ask opinions on if she should be naked around her child who has outright said they are uncomfortable. Very perverted if so.

If in doubt always report.

InChocolateWeTrust · 15/05/2022 21:07

Um. Some kids love bathing with parents and mature a bit later than others. My kid is approaching 6 and constantly wants me to get in with them. They appear utterly oblivious to any discomfort about nudity and I've got nieces/nephews of 8/9 that are the same. We'll offer to get paddling pool out etc and they will cheerfully rip off clothing without hesitation and have to be told to go get changed indoors etc!

InChocolateWeTrust · 15/05/2022 21:08

But as pp have said, the instant the kid is remotely uncomfortable about it you simply cover up.

You are not entitled to roam around the house naked.

gothereagain · 15/05/2022 21:24

I'm dreading this to be honest. We're a very nuddy household and I was brought up one as well. But once my kid wants me to cover up I will do.

kitcat15 · 15/05/2022 21:28

Libertybear80 · 15/05/2022 19:41

That's just weird that you are walking around the house naked in front of your kids.

I know…lLike really weird…and to feel entitled as well🙄

MsTSwift · 15/05/2022 21:30

Maybe the op is from the 1800s and they fill one Bath with water heated on the fireplace that they then all then use?

tootiredtoocare · 15/05/2022 21:36

I think she's hoping to 'shame' you into covering up. Not because she wants to hurt you, but just because she can't come up with the words to explain to you that level of intimacy is making her uncomfortable. Has she heard you talk about feeling uncomfortable at your current weight? She could have decided to use that as a way to do it. Time to be a bit more discreet and allow her some privacy too.

Flumo · 15/05/2022 21:37

Just weird

ClinkeyMonkey · 15/05/2022 21:40

Oh come on … who would need to ask this?

Katya213 · 15/05/2022 21:41

I’m sorry but this post is creepy. I’m not sure it’s legit?

Beautiful3 · 15/05/2022 21:44

I'd stop bathing with them and being naked around them.

Andromachehadabadday · 15/05/2022 21:45

This is fucking weird.

Either op is a creepy as fuck.

or making it up and someone who gets off and talking about being naked with children and creepy as fuck

Callingallskeletons · 15/05/2022 21:46

Why on Earth are you still bathing with an 8 year old???
My eldest DC is 5 and I wouldn’t bathe with them anymore, If your child is raising an issue with your nakedness and feeling uncomfortable about you being undressed then surely that’s your answer OP

cottagegardenflower · 15/05/2022 21:53

Nothing to do with your weight. An 8 year old is aware unlike a 3 year old and is saying she finds it inappropriate. Take the hint and stop it.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 15/05/2022 21:55

I must say, I'm a naked person too, but I stopped bathing with DS around 4. Partially a space issue, bath isn't big enough for a splashy 5 year old and a wobbly mummy. But also, for him, baths are play time, for me it's relaxation time. Also, I now really value my own space.

That said, I'll walk out the bathroom naked and 'air dry' before I get ready. He has no issue with me being naked, but if he did start to show discomfort I would start shutting doors and wearing a dressing gown etc.

ATM I can't take a bath without him coming and chatting my head off so clearly he isn't bothered by nakedness yet.

AngelinaFibres · 15/05/2022 21:58

MsTSwift · 15/05/2022 21:30

Maybe the op is from the 1800s and they fill one Bath with water heated on the fireplace that they then all then use?

They didn't bathe at the same time in the 1800s. Dad got the water first, then on down .😂

Weirdlynormal · 15/05/2022 22:01

blimey people are so weird about being naked

stopwaitingforpermissiontobeyou · 15/05/2022 22:01

One of my parents used to walk about naked claiming there was nothing to be ashamed about with bodies.

It did hte opposite to me.

empireemmy · 15/05/2022 22:02

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