BigMoFos w/c 4 December

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MTPW is MyTwoPenceWorth - who used to post on here, and maybe will come back...would be lovely to see her again too.

There's a poster called MTPW - MyTwoPenceWorth. She posts here sometimes and is also looking at having gastric bypass.

Only she calls herself Hecate now.

Tis very confusing!

Cross posts, Jackie. Yep, would be lovely to see her here again.

glad to see you're all still going for it girls. I do look in on you from time to time.

Stepping away now (used to be twoisenoughmum, made a brief appearance about a year ago, not very effective bigmofo, backs away quietly etc).

Hello, DH

Don't lurk; come and talk to us!

Tis nice to chat, doesn't always have to be about being a MoFo!

Am infrequent poster WWB. I keep trying to stay away from Mumsnet because I waste too much time here!

And, also, soon after I tried to be a BigMoFo I received quite a lot of comments about how I wasn't big enough (!) - and then you went on your sabbatical and I missed you. So drifted away.

But am still eternally grateful I met LittleMissSensible on these threads, she helped me and my DH out a lot this time last year.

Plus your esteemed colleague gave me some fantastic style tips once, so I always take note of anything JackieNo says when I come across it.

Did you all go on a meet up in the summer?

oh I always wondered who you were Daphne!

Daphne, I'm pretty sure that any comments about not being big enough weren't made in seriousness. Although I do know that comments don't always come across as you mean them to when they're on a computer screen!

Apart from anything else, we all know that being it's all just as much a frame of mind as anything else. You sound as if you didn't feel accepted and that saddens me, because that's not really what these threads have ever been about.

Daphne, I remember when you were around but didn't realise that was why you disappeared, sorry you felt that way . This thread is very much about a frame of mind as WWB says - we are overeaters, yo-yo dieters and a lot of us have a lot of weight to lose but not all of us, LMS is teeny tiny compared to me but she is a welcome regular. Stick around and ignore us if we take the piss

Oooh WWB I've just noticed a problem with the thread title [slow]

Whoops that sounded incredibly patronising to LMS and it wasn't meant to at all

Tigerfeet gets it all wrong again...

Ooops ...

Can't be bothered to start a new one though!

I don't think you got it wrong, Tiger. It's all relative, you know; you're tiny compared to me, as are so many of the others.

The real issue is in our heads, and that's more important. I think it may have taken me a while posting and reading on the initial MoFo threads to work that out, but it's definitely true.

no need to start a new one yet WWB, you will of course be starting a new one on Friday with all our fabulous New Year weight losses (definite there on my behalf - cake and chocolate all week here)

Yup - I'm still on the Thomas the Tank Engine birthday cake and the leftover mini-rolls, so not expecting much in the way of weight loss here either. And, although I'm planning to ditch said cake, as it's really not that nice, and it's only me eating it, today is DD's birthday, so we'll have a whole new cake to eat.

Hi all,

Welcome to new faces and welcome back to others!

Just popped in briefly during lunch break and I wanted to say don't worry TigerFeet, I actually quite enjoy being called tiny!!!! I doesn't happen that often, particularly as both my DB's married teeny, tiny size 8 girlies so I always look ginormous in family photos!

I now I'm physically quite small compared with many of you and I do sometimes worry that you'll think I'm one of the 8 stone skinnies who are panicing about a 2lb weeight increase, but I've struggled with my weight for many years and definately have the same problems with food that many of you share. And I've found that your sensible advise, one week at a time philosophy(can't spell!) and interesting chats about the effects of parents etc has really helped!

And to add to the debate, I know my Mum and Dad were war babies and lived with rationing during their childhoods so when they had children of their own they insisted on clean plates and were very keen to make sure we ate well! I know I find it very difficult to leave anything on my plate and even find it a struggle not to eat anything that might be left on a serving dish in case it goes to waste. Unfortuanetly it then goes to MY waist!!!!

Weighing in at 14 stone and 1 pound!

Actually very chuffed, as I was 14 stone 7 pounds last time I weighed myself, before Christmas.

I'm finding the points a faff, but to be honest I just don't trust myself not to count the calories - I eat healthily the majority of the time, it's not my diet that's at fault - it'smy portion control!

hello DH - just wanted to add quickly that I think any comments about you not having the same amount of weight to lose as some of us were probably intended to be reassuring. I'm sure I have frequently said to other people (sorry can't remember if you were one of them ) when they were embrassed about how much weight they need to lose that I have 10 stone to lose. Not to go one-up but to say - really there's no need to be embarassed about how much you have to lose.

When we originally started the thread it was aimed at people with more than 3 stone to lose. Not to exclude anyone that wanted the support but to protect (forwant of a better word) the very self-conscious amongst us from teh hobby-dieters who realy have no particular issue with food but just overeat from time to time.

Its a mindset rather than a finite amount of weight. To my mind, anyone who feels depressed about their relationship with food qualifies (and in fact anyone that consideres food important enough to have a "relationship" with would also qualify!)

It's definitely a mindset thing. I've got about 3 stone to lose according to BMI stuff, but I know I look and feel a lot better if I 'just' shift 1.5 stone (gets me down to a size 14/16!). But blardy hell it's such hard work to get there - and when I finally did last year and the compliments were coming in from everyone at home, work etc., I put it all back on . I wreck my own achievements and have got depressed into the bargain this time!

Ho hum. It's a food/binge eating addiction thing, rather than a weight thing - I know I could easily put more and more weight on - am desperately trying for that not to happen.

I have never lost weight in my life. I have just gained and gained and gained. It will be weird being slimmer, I am actually a little bit scared, but I am also fed up of being everyone's chubby mate who makes them feel good.

I really want to eat. I don't know why, i just do. I'm not hungry.

Step away from the fridge, Colditz

With me, it's an emotional thing. I self-medicate with food when I'm depressed, bored, feeling shit. I don't have to be physically hungry, but there is a real emotional need to stuff my face.

I've posted about it before, but my mother was cold, unaffectionate and abusive - her philosophy seemed to be "If you love something, feed it". So food becomes love - even now.

I did [proud]

But on the way home from picking ds1 up, I gave in and bought some crabsticks (oh dlicious) and am thrilled to learn they are only 1/2 a point for 4.

So I ate 4. Now I am having some leftover soup that I had already counted into yesterday's points.

Well done that woman

Fascinating reading this thread. [Waves and smiles to anyone who remembers me from last year].

I remember now, having read through all this stuff again: I don't quite feel in the right place with the BigMoFos because I am not a compulsive eater and I don't have irrational behaviour around food.

I am 2.5 stone overweight because I have given up smoking for a year or more on 4 separate occasions and each time I gained half a stone. In effect, I have gained 2 maybe 2 and half stone in the last 15 years. I haven't yo yo'd and I've done no binge eating I'm ashamed of (got past all that in my teens!) I've just slowly quietly gone on gaining ounces and ounces that have turned into pounds and stones.

Anyway, at 5'2" tall my current dream weight is 9 and a half stone. That's probably half a stone more than the Weight Watchers charts think I should be and a stone more than a size 10, and good 10lb more than I weighed all through my twenties.

So am not unrealistic in my ideal. Am not hoping to get to less than a size 12. Am not obsessed by any extra inch of fat or dimple of cellulite.

Just don't feel like myself in the extra mantle of fat I wear right now. Am at my heaviest ever. Still exactly the same as I was a year ago. No ups or downs since then.

Does that make sense?

I can understand where you are all coming from, having suffered compulsive eating years ago in my past. But I'm not sure my current position quite fits in with the zeitgeist of the world of the BigMoFos [needy, I know, sorry] ?

Ah Daphne - you should definitely stick around - I want to know how you stop being a compulsive eater! And you do fab posts so please don't go away..!

I'm doing OK at the moment - working hard so not much time to eat during the day. And then working in the evenings so same again... I'm trying to snack and nibble stuff less - the kitchen keeps calling me but I'm NOT LISTENING!!

First WW meeting last night

17st 2½lbs.... about what I was expecting. So 1½lbs up from last week. can I start again? (againagain) It just makes sense for my WW starting weight to be my starting weight on here too.

It was very entertaining actually - went with mate and we had to spend the whole evening keeping dd amused (dh away) so mate, dd and I sat at the back colouring in colouring books