KATYBUMPERS NORK SWINGING WEIGHTLOSS CLUB ALL WELCOME

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come on ...roll up ,roll up
lose weight ,have a laugh,a chat.swap recipies and feel the luuurve

we will lose a stone(or more) by easter

nork swinging optional

mlp and if he really doesn't want you to go look in the bin and the recycling pile!

Evening all, had a great day today, some retail therapy that didn't cost much. Does that make sense? What I meant is that I did some shopping without kids/ hubby/ distraction, and I saved a bundle of money to.
I had £20 worth of B&Q vouchers from DHL because , get this.... they delivered some compost bins and inside the complimentary kitchen caddy, there was a full on porn mag with the page opened to a full on brazillian !!! Was I mad, what if my LO (DS2) had opened it. So a rant at them and I get £20 of B&Q vouchers. DH has said that DS1 can have the mag after he has read it.
So thats my new mini greenhouse and some plants paid for. Then a trip to Primark for some clothes for DS2, who has decided to grow about 3 inches in the last month. I managed to get him a winter coat, 2 sweatshirts (not their budget range), 1 fleece top, 2 jogging pants, and 1 pair of lined tracksuit bottoms, all for £19.50. whee hee!!
And I went to cheer DD up as she has come down with tonsilitis. Awwww!!

MPL if he doesn't want you to go, check its not sellotaped to the underside of drawers etc.
Glove box of car? Where did you use it last? Did you use it for i.d at a bank or official office of some kind and left it there or is it with some documentation that you used it for.
Have you used it on holiday and not used that particular handbag since?

susie, hope you've had a good rest today.x

hope you've found your passport mylittlepud.good luck with the interview!

good bargains discoverlife! i went to primark for the first time a couple of weeks ago (i know, i live on the planet zog)i always found it a bit offputting from the window....stuff everywhere...but they seem to have organised the merry hill one to be a bit more inviting and there are some lovely and very cheap things (in amongst the wear once and it will drop apart stuff) aren't there?

I find the womens stuff, especially the stuff aimed at the teenagers to be flimsy, but Ive not had any problems with the childrens or menswear. My DS1 loves the plain white t'shirts as they can be hot washed, he's a chef so needs to get allsorts of grease and grime out, and they last and last.
The first time I ever went to Primark I went with £30 and came away with 5 carrier bags of stuff, and at the rate kids grow I would hate to be paying £20 for a logo'd top, to find they have outgrown it 2 months later.

Sorry for the rant last night.

Still not found it. And I just don't know whether he is spectacularly hopeless or malicious.

any luck mlp ?

i have lost 4 lbs since tuesday! is that right? i mean you cant argue with the scales can you?!
just wanted to ask re points do you have to use up your daily points? or even come close? i am basically eating what i used to eat but with smaller portions and cut out stupid snacks and yeaterday i only managed 10 and a half points and i wasnt hungry. is it all going to go pear shaped if i carry on like that? will i be able to maintain it? one friend says yes and another says no. am confused a bit. i am v competitive and know that i will want to lose more than anyone else at each weigh in lol but that could be dangerous i suppose

mlp hope you found your passport

susie, i have been reading through the thread to find out whats been happening in your life with your dh as i saw someone mention he has mild aspergers but couldnt find where you had referred to it. both my ds's have aspergers- one mild tho tbh if you ask any parent of a AS child they will say there is no such thing lol. just wanted to say if you wanted any info or anything i might be able to help

MLP Have you found your passport?

MPL, if its really important you can get a replacement by making an appointment and going direct to the passport office. Or do the same for your driving licience at your nearest DVLA.

I'm going to be good today.

(B) Fruit 'n' Fibre

(L) Fat free veg soup.

(D) Pork chop, new potatoes and veg.

Snacks, fruit.

The veg soup is the last ice cream tub worth taken out of the freezer from the first pot cooked 2 weeks ago. So its going well.

Hi girls

Thank you all so much for you words. I agree polly that he's taking the pee. I just dont know what to do about it. Hes started putting the phone down on me now, if I say anything that 'starts to wind him up' So, i just have to send it in a text, or keep it in until I see him next, which by that time, will have blewn over probably.

bel As for the AS. He scores very highly on a few aspects of it, and hardly at all on others. His biggest difficulty is with emotions. he is in approriate with certain social situations. I think its fair to say, that most people would never know he is affected by it at all. I was the one who put all the bits together and got him diagnosed. He's got through 39 years of his life, not knowing. It did just help explain alot of his behaviour to me.

polly he is incredibly intelligent, yes. I do have to be directive and quite literal at times. As in, i actually have to say i'm close to tears, thats how much x y and z has got to me. things like that. anyway, i'll not go on about it. I told him last night that i was on the verge of walking away from our relationship, as I am not coping and I dont feel he loves me anymore.

He assures me he does, and dosnt want me to leave him. I just feel at times, that he behaves in this way, knowing how it affects me, and still does it. Making me think that he does want me to end it.

He said he found the emotions he felt on saturday as he was leaving, overwhelming. He didnt know how to cope with them, it physically hurt him to leave us, more than it ever has before. So, he tried to distance himself again, so that it didnt hurt so much, and he didnt miss us so much. Shame it made it worse though Broke my heart hearing him say all of that last night. I think mum will have Izzy for a night over the weekend, so we can go out, if possible, and have a meal together and a good talk. I dont want it to all end. I love him more than i can express. I just want us to be happy again, and I cannot see how we can be with him working away so far. I have a feeling he wont come home this weekend either.

Anyway, sorry to have brought it all here.

polly how are you feeling today? things a bit more settled? Whats it like having your DH as your carer too? I get really frustrated at the times when Mr C has to care for me, because he doesnt do it the way I would!

Bel well done! 4lbs is GREAT!!! >

Sorry not more personals, really sorry... feeling really tired all of a sudden.
I'm afraid it'll have to be a selfish me me me post.

I really hope you are all ok.

Break: stewed apples
Lunch: boiled egg on toast
Tea: ?????| possible veg stir fry in fry light. with some turkey breast I think... >

susie, i know a bit whee youre coming from with your dh, with my dh as well he and i both know he has AS though he is not diagnosed- his issues are with routine and structure. drives me bonkers! esp when he has a week off work for a holiday it takes him half of it to get into the new non-work routine. he spends alot of time at work actually now i think about it....

right today
b- granola with skimmed milk
l-ooh was a bit naughty as was in town- m&s countonus veggie wrap thing (v tasty it was too!)
d- going to do a stirfry with loads of veggies and some chilli and lime marinated chicken strips

just made some no point soup for tomorrow. anyone know how long i can keep it ion fridge for or can i freeze it??

Hello all, what a horrible day its been today

B = toasted teacake and flora light
L = 1 small roll with ham, small bowl of pasta and sauce that was intended for ds
T = Prawns, mushrooms and yellow pepper in a tamarind and garlic sauce with a pile of spinach and two tablespoons of Dh's rice
1 glass of Rose wine
S = funsize bag of choc buttons, 3 malted milk biscuits. (started AF yesterday needed some naughtiness )

Off to do an hours workout shortly, not that I feel like it but hopefully my mate is coming round or else I would have prob missed it tonight.

Not a great day for me MrsFish............ I've a hangover, so no sympathy!

B=Cereal bar, and orange juice
L=Small jacket pot, 2 tbsp beans, 2tbsp grated cheese
D=2 slices wm toast

Night, I'm off to bed.

currantbunmum - You are not eating enough calories if that list is anything to go by. You will make yourself ill and being as strict as you are when it comes down to the last stone/half stone you will find it incredibly hard to shift. Even if I count the cals to the high side depending on what spread you use/ thickness of bread etc you have had less than 1000 cals today, that's starving yourself. How much weight do you need to lose? You should only need to go down to a 1000 cals for the last few pound and sometimes not even then.

Why di my DS have to leave his duck leg? I ended up having 1,5 duck legs with the skin on - I love the skin!

MrsFish, I've not eaten much at all today as I'm slightly hung over

Please don't worry my intake is usually a lot healthier if you see previous posts.

I've got another half a stone to get down to target weight, I only had about 11lbs to lose.

Thanks for the concern.

eve all
still wobbly and feeling seasick and knackered [fed up] this would be good for diet but am reaching for easy sweet stuff!

susie, sorry it's got so rough but maybe you needed to be at bursting point to stop just absorbing stuff and try to change things....
now i suppose the next stage is being canny about how to change things....time away eg for a meal, sounds a good idea but would it help to start the thinking before you go out so that he starts to get what is wrong before you talk about it and it doesn't hit him like a tidal wave....would it help to write a letter( to read whilst away or when he first gets home) saying the kind of things you have said in an "notes" type of way

eg I know you don't get emotions so let me explain my side of things:
I tell you x makes me feel awful

If you do x again, i feel awful and also that you don't care if i feel awful.

I then wonder why i am with someone who doesn't care about whether i feel awful enough

maybe others have suggestions about how to make it more manageable!

sorry i can't stay on too long tonight
as for having a carer...i'll save that for another day when i'm bursting...am too knack'd to be anything but grateful for someone picking up the reins for me at the mo'....

A brill day here at the nut house. Ds2 was doing some 'school' type work with me and I was demonstrating an idea by writing the first line of our address and he carried on with it to the end including the postcode. To say I was delighted is an understatement, to recap, he has cerebral palsey and we have just started Home Educating to make up for schooling lack etc. The look of wonder on his face when he realised what he had done was beautiful.

What a lovely thing to do!

Its been a loong time since I had that ' heart bursting out of chest' feeling of happiness. Ive still got a grin on my face about it.

Enjoy it. It's a lovely feeling.

vurrantbunmum - that's ok then