An insult is the kick I need, 5kg before Christmas.

[Hop27]

I've had a rough few years with IVF, inevitably I've gained weight through stress, hormones and all the shit that goes with it. My weight has crept up to over 73kg. I used to be around 64kg, lightest was 58kg. I used to be a muscular, lean size 8. I'm now a strong, curvy size 10. (41, 167cm)
The person I dislike most in the world texted me this .....
'It's laughable how much weight you've put on. You've always been ugly inside and out, but at least you had your enviable figure as leverage to get your own way. Now you don't even have that'
For weeks this has eaten away at me, I shouldn't let it upset me but it does. This week however something has clicked and I want to use this as motivation to drop the comfort Kg's.
Main issues are irregular eating
Too much wine
Not enough sleep
Starving myself, then eating too much
Over indulging on the weekend.
Anyone fancy keeping me company?

Jesus, no advice on the weight loss, but any chance you can lose the person who sent you that? You find you're a lot happier.

You're doing so well to take such an awful message as positive motivation! I think your plans sound good and sustainable. Sleep is a big one for me - I've been so so hungry recently and am sure it's because of disturbed sleep (poorly cat). I need to learn how to be ok with being hungry before meals, and have more filling food so I don't go mad at 5pm!

Strong, curvy size 10 sounds perfect. Ignore the jealous bitch

I'm the same height and weight as you, I'm a PT so I like to think I'm fairly strong and fit although I would like to lose some weight too! I know how obviously, I'm not very good with self control any more though! You don't need to lose weight you need to lose that awful person out of your life!! If someone sent that to me I'd be mortified and it might kick me up the bum but what a horrible thing to say, can you block them??

PS If you would like any advice please message and I can give you a few pointers x

You could lose several stones at once by blocking that twat for a start

Yes, she has always been a very nasty individual. But she is now blocked by both DH and I. But it did make me look at myself and think I needed to make changes - for myself.

Thanks @Butternutsqoosh!
I do F45 5/6 days a week, I might be overtraining. Just need a whole overhaul to be honest.
Had 4 wine free nights this week which is a start.

Jesus.

What an awful person.

Strong, curvy size 10 sounds gorgeous but obvs it's about what weight and shape fits you.

I've been in a similar position in that I used to be a body hottie and am now not. I'm not as fit as I'd like but not overweight.

I've been on a low carb / high protein protocol combined with IF (basically a strong coffee with MCT oil for breakfast then nothing until lunch). This works for me as I'm not bothered about breakfast anyway and I feel good.

Fitness and health rather than weight loss for its own sake is my motivation, but have dropped from nearly 76 ish to 64 kilos in around a month

@Tristatearea

You could lose several stones at once by blocking that twat for a start

But this. Mainly!

Hey @Hop27. WOW - WTAF that person? Can I ask who it was - though I"m assuming you didn't say who as you didn't want to but Oh my goodness! I'm super excited to join you!! In a similarish boat-

66kg, a big size 10/12 when I used to be a size 8 (58kg). I feel genuinely repulsive in my skin, I hate it so much. I hate the way I feel, I hate the lack of energy in the morning, I hate not having anything that fits me. I want to look HOT in my dress.

No cruel text but a few male friends (urgh) have pointed out nonchalantly that I've gained weight since becoming a mother (my DD is 5 years old..)
My main issues are similar: too much wine, restriction then overeating .

I've got a wedding to go to on December 3rd and I want to be max 62ish by then. I though it's a lot off in 1 month and a half but it think the first 2 will drop off when I stop eating so much pasta.

Just thinking how AMAZING it will feel @Hop27 to post some slim pics on instagram (or wtv social media you use) shove it in her face.

@moofolk I've done IF too and it really works a treat. I think I just need to plan my day around it better. I also love running fasted I think it gets great results and I like the way I feel (energetic etc).

I've actually annoyingly injured my elbow because I started CrossFit recently and overused it then picking a huge pumpkin and lugging it around for my kid all day last Sunday :P

Anyways just thinking of my smaller goals because that's often helped me before and it motivates me to think of these numbers that mean a lot (I feel like I look more like myself at 63)

Basically I've got 6 weeks so:

Week 1 - Mon 25th oct - 64.5
Week 2 - Mon Nov 1st - 63.7
Week 3 - Mon Nov 8th - 63
Week 4 - Mon Nov 15th - 62.9
Week 5- Mon Nov 22nd - 62.5
Week 6 - Mon Nov 29th - 62
Week 7 - Mon Dec 6th - 61.7

I just already have this defeated feeling because I've been trying to start this for weeks and haven't... but I can't carry on like this it's ruining my life.

General focus: Intermittent fasting until 12noon, workout before 12 noon, Low carb dinners. I can't count calories, I just know it's not a sustainable option for me.

I think It really helps when I:

1. Wear nice clothes
2. Do my make up & hair
3. Stay busy
4. Enjoy creative pursuits
5. Sleep early
6. Drink tons of water

Week 1 done, .6kg dropped. Not a huge amount but slow and steady wins the race ! Looking forward to keeping accountable!

Who in the fuck sent a text like that? I'm gobsmacked.

6kg is a lot to lose in a week.
Is that sustainable?

She said .6

Well done OP. I hope you're not giving that bitch the time of day.

Would love to drop 6kg in a week, but no only 0.6kg.

Apologies !
Need to wear my glasses more!

Wow. Your main issue is none of the things you have listed. It sounds like the only weight you need to lose is the dick who thought it was okay to speak to you like that. Good luck op

A guy in my gym said last week, when you first walked in a year ago I was like oh wow who's that.... you've been slacking lately though haven't you.

I have put on a stone, contentment mostly I am in a happy relationship now. It still stung though so I also jumped back on the diet plan.

3lb off this week, no idea what that is in metric

Here for the ride let's show them who's boss!

@AndTime
What is wrong with people !!!!
Great work on your weight loss (1.3kg is huge !!)

@Hop27 Nice one. slow and steady keeps it off.

Day one: 65.5kg, really want to get down to next kg bracket (64s) by end of the this week, off to see some friends in Porstmouth I haven't seen forever and I know I'll feel so bad about myself already, don't want to make it worse by stuffing my face until then!

I think it's important for me to 'feel nice' whilst I do this, even in my own mumsy way.

Well done @AndTime amazing result! praying for even half that this week haha!

Workout done (attached) also took some progress pics but not brave enough to share !

@shreddergodo ! Enjoy your weekend, sounds fun! Old catch ups are the best