Defeated by fatness no more

[BreathingDeep]

Happy Monday!

Following my thread last week about how I, and so many of us, are feeling like we're defeated by our weight, here's a support thread for those of us who don't want stop ourselves from living the lives we want any more.

There were some amazing stories shared and so much honesty about how this is a struggle for so many of us. Here's the thread for anyone wanting to read:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4225173-Defeated-by-my-fatness-am-I-alone

I know that I am sick of feeling ashamed of myself. Sick of hiding away. Sick of feeling that I'm judged for my weight. Sick of feeling that I'm letting myself and my family down. Sick of feeling that my inside doesn't match the outside. Sick of living in the same few outfits because everything else is too tight or looks terrible. Sick of seeking solace in food that doesn't nourish me. Sick of treating myself badly.

If you feel the same, come and join us! Everyone will have their own journey, their own approach and that's fine - please, no criticism or judgement of anyone's plan. The main aim is that we all take steps, every single day, to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.

For me, that means today will include drinking water, taking a long lunch and having a dog walk with a friend (this NEVER happens because work always comes first) and sticking with my Cambridge plan.

How about you?

Don't slip out of the group sylv, you're doing so well! The gain is most likely just water retention from the parentally-supplied carbs anyway.

Is it really not possible for them to compromise on the pasta and things? It's so easy to make meals with optional carbs once you get into the swing of it, and maybe you can get them on board?

@sylv165, it's a blip, nothing more and we're not letting you go anywhere I was on a different weight loss support thread a couple of summers ago and it was really beneficial to have a forum for exchanging tips and offering encouragement. MN at it's best. I shudder sometimes at the contents of some other threads on here, people can be so opinionated and harsh !
As you can maybe tell by me being here, yesterday's drop has remained so 2lbs+ off from last Friday . 5 weeks until first family gathering so hoping for another 7 lbs off by then.
Raining here today but looking forward to a relaxing weekend and hoping the same for you

@sylv165 don't give up, just remember why you wanted to lose the weight in the first place. I know that reading everyone's post on here gives me great encouragement in a gentle way. 😊
I also found out this morning that losing that stone means I was able to cut my toe nails without huffing and puffing round my belly 😳. It's the small things that keep me going.

Hi all!
Just checking in. I'm 3.5lb down from when I last posted which is a start.
I've got a festival I'm going to in September so I'm going to really try and keep my head in the game and lose as much as possible by then 🤞

Hi all. I have been woeful at posting. I am back at work in our office and unsurprisingly not getting a chance to MN 😂 I read all the posts though. I love the friendly encouragement on this thread.

@Treaclepie19 well done on the recent losses, I like having a goal date to keep me focussed. I am working towards a night with friends at the end of July.

Since I was on here last I was able to travel to my home town for first time since last summer and the week after that, I had my first night out with a friend since last year. So nothing happened for the first 6 months I was on my diet, then two biggish weekends off plan. I didn't go too mad, I had the "best" option I could, and I did gain temporarily. Happy to say I lost it all again, and an extra pound. Now 51lbs off.

I did find that after being off plan for a weekend, I was starving for the following 4 or 5 days. I had to be really conscious about sticking to my meals until I got back into it fully. Before now, I probably would have had 3 days eating crisps 😳

Congrats @AnnieJ1985 and @Treaclepie19 ! I think you are so right Annie - once I've had a bad weekend it is so hard to pull it back again!

@sylv165 it sends my system haywire. I don't know if it is actual physical cravings (the junk triggering a craving?) Or the wee voice going "treat yourself" and having to be very bloody minded to ignore it.

Made myself wear my tight jeans as a reminder not to over-indulge 😂

Being back in office helps as we have nothing nice to eat there, so I bring a banana. I don't like bananas that much so only eat them if I a genuinely hungry

Well done @AnnieJ1985 & @Treaclepie19.
I do think having a goal really helps to keep you focused.
My downfall is usually having a bad day and then writing the whole week off cos of that one bad day. I think my head is in a different place this time and that's not happened. I have acknowledged the bad day and then fasted after it and straight back on the diet after that. I do think that dieting is all about the headspace, but once you are in it, it feels good.
Good luck for the rest of the week everyone.

@Harpydragon

Well done *@AnnieJ1985 & @Treaclepie19*. I do think having a goal really helps to keep you focused. My downfall is usually having a bad day and then writing the whole week off cos of that one bad day. I think my head is in a different place this time and that's not happened. I have acknowledged the bad day and then fasted after it and straight back on the diet after that. I do think that dieting is all about the headspace, but once you are in it, it feels good. Good luck for the rest of the week everyone.

@Harpydragon I was the same. Always wishing my life away, while filling my face, until "start again on Monday"

Now I try to get back on it straight away. I went for drinks last Sat night, so before I went out I made sure I had a swim prebooked for Sun morning and my breakfast ready to go in fridge. If I had to think about any of that on Sunday when I woke up hungover it wouldn't have happened.

I hope this will power is my normal now. I think my good habits have stuck after being so diligent for 6 months, but I always have a fear it could all go to hell

Well done everyone!

I am having a bad indulgent weekend, trying not to, but one DC came home and we drank and ate crisps and barbecue last night! Today is a bit dodgy so far too as DD had made a sourdough loaf and it's been so long since I've had toast and butter, I just had to....

However, I am not going to weaken any more and tomorrow is another day

Thanks all :)
I'm having today off but then back on it tomorrow. It's hard having a day off isn't it...

I'm really determined to feel more comfortable for this festival. I'm so fed up of having nothing to wear and for the first time I've started feeling uncomfortable about going out so something needs to change.

It’s Tuesday again already and I am only just ‘recovering’ from an alcohol and calorie laden weekend. Gained then lost 3lbs between Saturday and this morning but at least they came back off again so just a bit of temporary bloating I guess. But it does mean I am making minimal progress this week. Short of cancelling weekends I’m not sure what the answer is 😅. Concerted effort now, I would like to see another 2lbs off before the end of June. Here’s hoping!

I've got back on track after my weekend, and upped my walking, quite pleased with myself with that.
And tonight I'm cooking a low calorie meal that my DH loved (probably cos it's spicy, he loves spicy!)

It's hard keeping on track because already I am looking forward to wine at the weekend, how sad is that...

Well done getting back on it both of you!
I've had a good couple of days and today managed to pull it back even after too many calories at lunch. I've even walked for 82 minutes today 😊
Just got to keep it up... a takeaway is calling but we're going for a meal Saturday so need to try and hold on until then.

82 minutes walking is great! Well done Treacle

I thought I was doing well with 73 minutes and just under 6km!

Ohh I am so hungry today. Ignoring it right now.
Well done on all the walking everyone.

Thanks!
You did brilliantly too Roussette!
I've done another hour today. I will get fit 😩

Yesterday my husband bought 3 doughnuts from the beach for himself after haggling for fish and chips.
For once I told him I don't want any and proudly didn't, after sticking to my diet for the past 5 days.
It's so hard, I constantly think of food all the time. My dad was just diagnosed with cardiomyopathy though and I'm actually feeling serious about weight loss for once.
I'm going on holiday end of August and my goal weight is 2 stone loss.
My husband is a food addict too but since I've started lecturing he has been trying harder, cooking meals in the house more the past couple of weeks.
I've been telling myself since I had my baby last May I have plenty of time to lose weight but now I need to get my butt into gear, we have also gotten into a really bad habit of ordering takeaways we are trying to reduce, baby and work is stressful so it's too easy at the end of a crap day to order food.

@BountyIsUnderrated ordering food when you are tired is exactly our problem, we are getting better at it though.
I've just been and got weighed this morning and have stayed the same. I won't lie, I'm feeling a bit disappointed about that because I have stuck to the diet this week. But I shall carry on and see what happens next week

@Harpydragon, I am plateauing too at the moment. I don't have a fancy app for logging my weight loss but it shows me the pattern etc. I was just looking at it and can clearly see that I lose a few lbs, STS for several days or longer then lose another few lbs. Generally keeping at it without sucking all enjoyment out of eating is key for me. And I know that realistically this has got to become the way that I eat, forever I think, making mindful choices and losing extra calories from meals when I can.
@BountyIsUnderrated, well done on holding fast on the no doughnuts or fish and chips. I found when I was with my last partner dieting was very difficult as food was such a big part of our common ground. Suffice to say I lost 4 st when we split up !
Nearly Friday !!

Bounty it is soooo hard, we all agree with you on that!
The other day I thought to myself 'my god, I've thought about nothing but food for the last three hours!'

Harpy and Onesmall I have this habit of jumping on the scales in preparation for the weigh in tomorrow. And I've plateaued too booohoo. I'm going to be really good today and then it's weekend... worrying!

@BountyIsUnderrated

Yesterday my husband bought 3 doughnuts from the beach for himself after haggling for fish and chips. For once I told him I don't want any and proudly didn't, after sticking to my diet for the past 5 days. It's so hard, I constantly think of food all the time. My dad was just diagnosed with cardiomyopathy though and I'm actually feeling serious about weight loss for once. I'm going on holiday end of August and my goal weight is 2 stone loss. My husband is a food addict too but since I've started lecturing he has been trying harder, cooking meals in the house more the past couple of weeks. I've been telling myself since I had my baby last May I have plenty of time to lose weight but now I need to get my butt into gear, we have also gotten into a really bad habit of ordering takeaways we are trying to reduce, baby and work is stressful so it's too easy at the end of a crap day to order food.

Well done! Im I'm you on the baby front. We have a 5yo and a 9mo and last night neither of them settled until 10pm. I was really wanting chip shop but we didn't. It's so hard because I use food as a crutch emotionally and I'm struggling with anxiety and PND. Helllp 😭🙈

@Treaclepie19, sending you a virtual hug and reminding you that you are doing an awesome job bringing up 2 young children and doing so through a really challenging time. Hopefully you have some good support around you but please don't give yourself an extra hard time about anything. The walking you've been doing is great.

Ah I totally agree with tiredness equalling crap food choices. I finally feel ready to tackle my weight only because my youngest (absolutely dreadful sleeper!) is mostly sleeping through the night and I am just about able to think about something other than how tired I am! It sounds like you are all doing well this week, or steady at least. I haven't been great, but better than last week so hopefully I am getting back to it. Plus I have to climb a bloody mountain on Saturday for about 5 hours so I'll have a very active and alcohol free weekend!!

Thank you Onesmallstep67, that's really kind of you. There's not much in the way of support, my husband is amazing with the kids thankfully.
Tonight we're having a freezer tapas dinner and I'm just letting it happen. Little steps when I can I guess.