Any fatties want to join me getting slim

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Oh dear, I'm so tubby. I can't hide it any longer. I need help and support from other fatties who will understand 😭

Starting tomorrow, no more excuses. Please join me.

@FatCatThinCat thank you. I was going to do my weigh in and measurements in the morning.

I’m just going to start with calorie counting I think and see how I get on with it. I’m EBF so will start with 2500 calories a day and decrease from there if I need to.

@Countarthursgroupie fab :) go us. Well done. :) :)

I haven't done any measurements. I'd better get on to that tomorrow too.

Well I forced myself to face reality and get on the scales this morning. 14 stone 9lb at 5ft 7. If I wasn’t so shocked I would cry. The crazy bit is that last month I weighed 14 stone. But with my baby’s sleep regression and Covid restrictions getting to me I’ve been binging and comfort eating.

I think a good first weight loss goal would be to get my BMI under 30 so that’s what I’ll focus on for now.

Jumped on the scales this morning and am 2lbs down since last Friday. Thats good enough for me. Slow and steady... Plus, this week I have done 3 x sessions of my own uber-slow couch to 5k and 2 good yoga sessions and felt a bit stronger in each of them so am focussing on those as just as big a 'wins' as thr lbs.

@Grimmauldface just try it for one day. Agree with pp, don't think about the whole road ahead. Just focus on how one day of gentle exercise and good eating will leave you feeling a bit better tomorrow.

@fibeee

Well I forced myself to face reality and get on the scales this morning. 14 stone 9lb at 5ft 7. If I wasn’t so shocked I would cry. The crazy bit is that last month I weighed 14 stone. But with my baby’s sleep regression and Covid restrictions getting to me I’ve been binging and comfort eating.

I think a good first weight loss goal would be to get my BMI under 30 so that’s what I’ll focus on for now.

Have you done your TDEE and BMR to see how many calories you need? If you google, there are calculators. I ask because I was surprised at how low mine was for maintenance calories (aka not to lose weight) with a higher weight than yours and a similar height.

@BullshitVivienne yes just did them now. With activity and EBF I will probably maintain at 2500 so will aim for 2250 calories a day to start with and see how I get on. I’d rather slow and steady weight loss and keep my calories slightly higher until I start weaning my baby.

So frustrated I could cry. Been away on hols for 2 weeks. Kept calories to 1400, ran every other day (up to 25 mins now) and hiked tonnes. Net calories 1200 or less every day. Lost exactly half a pound. SO dispiriting

@Snowdrop30 don’t lose heart!
It might show next week and how fab are you to have been so disciplined 💪🏻!

I’m only in week one - I’ve walked and hikes miiillees this week and I don’t think I’ll be rewarded with a massive weight loss this week 🙄 I am feeling better though and ritual of walks has been good for my wellbeing I’m guilty of spending too much time at the computer

I'm quite impressed Snowdrop30 I thought you were going to say that you were upset because you'd spent 2 weeks eating icecream. You've done very well.

@Snowdrop30 well done!
I have been on holidays and rested a lot , just because they were my first days off this year, and I will get back to a busy work days on Monday.
Well done to you for being so active!

My weighting day is tomorrow
Let's see what I get

Oh thanks everyone - that really helps. Good luck all for weighing day!

My weighing day is tomorrow too and it'll be a surprise this week as I've managed to hold off weighing myself every time I go in the bathroom, so no idea how it's going.

I'm away this weekend so see what happens when we get back.

I'm due to weigh today but am on nights so will weigh when I get up. Not expecting miracles, have been wandering round the office like Pac-Man for two nights 😂

@morningtoncrescent62 @WobbleWhenIRun thank you for your words of encouragement. I know you are right and I just need to get back on it but it's so hard. I just haven't been able to get into the right head space this week. I know I'm making poor choices which will make me feel worse but I do it anyway.

Today is a new day though and I will try and do things differently as I hate feeling like this.

Maybe I can channel some of @Snowdrop30 's determination! That's the kind of consistency I need as I know it would bring results. Hang in there @Snowdrop30 and I'm sure you'll see the drop on the scales you've worked so hard to achieve.

For everyone weighing in today - good luck!

1.2 kg (2 ib) for me today. I'm happy with that. My starting weight was 140 kg so my first mini goal is to get below 130 kg. So 134.1 kg at 4 weeks is not to shabby.

My really big goal, which may take a while, is to get to 105 kg. This would make my BMI 39 and I would no longer be in the 'seriously at risk' group for corona virus. Where I live life continues as normal as possible apart from for people identified as being in this group. I don't want to be in it any more.

Good luck to all the Sunday weighers. Weigh in day is tomorrow for me and hoping for something better than last week's small gain.

@Grimmauldface I know where you're coming from and I think the solution is to set very, very small targets to get you back on track. It might take a few days to get back to full pace but better that than getting to end of next week and still being off plan or giving up.

So maybe the goal for the first day is just a healthy breakfast and 20 minute walk. Next day see if you can get to lunchtime without eating anything you don't plan to. The goals have to be very simple and achievable. Usually this flips me out of the cycle of ugh I'm so rubbish - eat - ugh I'm so rubbish - eat more etc. I wouldn't try for a perfect whole day because that is hard and I just feel worse if it goes wrong. It's setting yourself up for failure. Something very small so that you get some of that feeling of control - see how long I can go before my first packet of crisps, one of my cups of tea will have no sugar, I'll delay breakfast until 10am - whatever fits with your weight loss plan and the eating habits that are throwing you off track.

I also try to frame it as something like "I'm going to see how long I can go without snacking" instead of "I am not going to snack today". The last version has an option for failure whereas the first one doesn't - it just gives you something to build on and a goal for the next day.

It's very frustrating because it feels (to me) like wasting time when you should have been losing weight if only the universe or the diet gods or whatever weren't shitting on you. But this is the real challenge. Some / most of the time, staying in control of food is doable but the crunch comes when it's not. Keep going, keep trying, go easy on yourself, aim for tiny steps and celebrate any win, however small. You've got this 💪

Today I am 78.8, down from my starting point of 90kg. My BMI is now 25.15, which is tantalisingly close to healthy. My weight loss started in May and has really slowed down recently so I think that it’s going to take me ages to get to 75kg which was my original goal. My next goal is to get to 78.3kg as then my BMI will be under 25, and I’m prepared for this to take a while: I’ve just got to stick with it, as this is the new normal approach to eating for me.

Good luck everyone else with Sunday weigh-in

Well done FatCat and avocadoze

@YeetYeet thank you! I've just read your post through twice, the first time I felt like crying. Hormonal? Probably. But also just having someone there who cares enough to post advice means a lot to me.

I am not a good friend to myself and have a tendency to set a very high bar which I then beat myself up for not reaching or maintaining. I realise I would never speak to a friend the way I speak to myself and your comment about setting myself up for failure really hit home.

So, I need to set small, attainable goals and rephrase them in my head too to avoid the inevitable sense of failure when I'm not perfect. I don't need to be perfect just good enough.

Thank you

I weighted this morning at 92.6 kg. Very happy. I am hoping to be below the 90 kg in two weeks!

That is 4.6 pounds lost

Well done to all sticking to the changes in eating and activity! One step at a time, we will get there!