6 stone + to lose ... Whos in?

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I'm at my heaviest EVER! I've been battling my weight for 12 years and quite frankly I'm done with it now.

Poor DH is probably sick of the cycle of 'I'm fat , I hate myself, diet for 1 month, quit, repeat' . He confided that he was worried about me the other day health wise and just wants me to be happy and then my DD who's 6 made a couple of comments about my big belly (not being mean...just being a 6 year old). So this is has given me a big kick up the bum. My wedding and engagement rings also don't fit anymore .

I'm an incredible emotional eater and suffer from anxiety and awful self esteem issues. It's a psychological battle each time I decide to 'diet'. I'm constantly trying to sabotage myself.

So...I've been calorie counting for the past week, doing one YouTube workout and going for an hour walk everyday (my distress also) , making sure I'm hitting at least 10000 steps. So far I'm feeling good.
I don't agree with super low calories but I've been aiming for and sticking to between 1500 - 1700 calories. My diet has been healthy and clean.

Anybody else up for using this thread as a support / check in / pick me up?

I've made the decision not to tell any friends and family about my journey this time because as soon as I do people start jumping on my bandwagon and start relying on me and whinging to me and it's something I know I can't deal with this time. This is why a thread like this would be perfect as we are complete strangers in the same boat.

My family have been serial dieters for 30 years As soon as any of them catch wind I'm doing any kind of weight loss they want in too and Facebook chats get set up and I suddenly feel on display and pressured and when it goes wrong I get incredibly embarrassed and ashamed and the cycle begins again. Also, as I've been battling this for years I'm quite knowledgeable about stuff and I get asked questions and advice all day everyday and I end up getting overwhelmed.

So ...

Start weight : 14 stone 12.5
First Goal : 12 stone
Ultimate goal : 9 stone , maybe a bit under.
Height : 5ft 3.

Well done Bells! It is such a good feeling to pass those milestones isn't it.

I am planning much better this week. I had got into the habit of having quite a carby lunch so I'm trying some alternatives.

May I join in please?

I weighed myself yesterday , and measured myself, for the first time in ages. I knew I had put on weight, but thought I was about 13.5 stone.

I am 15 stone. My waist is 35 inches, and my hips 49. I have never been this fat.

I want to lose weight to wear my nice clothes (this year I have been wearing about four different outfits only). I want to be able to run around again. And I want to be healthier. My goal is 10 stone.

My diet is rubbish and I don't do any expertise, so lots of room for improvement! My plan is to meal plan (and stick to my shopping lists!) and start couch to 5k, and see how that goes before I start adding in more exercise.

Welcome @SilkandSandwiches ! That sounds like a good plan to start. A few of us here have done couch to 5k or are doing it now. Eating less and moving more is the key .

I've been quiet here but still on track. It's been nearly a month since I started. I'm still not touching the scales but I do feel a lot better both physically and mentally. I've even started a journal writing down what I've done and my thoughts of the day.

I've also bought some smaller size bikinis for our holiday next year as motivation.

Not been about really, I'm on 'holiday' this week and totally off the wagon

Hey

I'm still here , plodding along. DH says he's seeing big changes in me but I'm refusing to get on the scales.

In other news, we've just found out DH is intolerant to gluten, milk, some nuts and egg. He's cut it all out already and feels like a new person. I'm happy he feels better BUT I'm the cook in the house and it's proving to be a nightmare cooking at the moment . I don't want to end up making different meals all the time but I don't want to be restricted either. I know I sound selfish .

Sorry for the whinge !

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

I just weighed myself and just half a lb off in a week. 5.5lbs off since 20th May and 3 of those were in the first week.

Apart from one day mid-period when I had a bag of crisps and some crackers, I have kept to 1200cals/day - measuring milk, weighing veg, logging everything on MFP. So hungry and so dejected that there is not more to show for almost a month's diet. This is the first time post-40 that I have seriously tried to lose weight but I hadn't realised how much harder it would be.

I have some lighter life stuff in the cupboard which I haven't used yet so I will try having some VLC days. I'm also not moving much as working FT from home and knackered in the evening so will try and get out for a walk each day.

Hope everyone else is having better success!

Sorry it's been a couple of weeks my grandfather is very unwell and DS has 4 new ten coming through, so life has been hectic. I've not weighed until yesterday partly I forgot and partly I find it demotivating if I see no change (and I had a big Chinese on my birthday....), It's been 3 weeks and I've lost 7.5 pounds, just be making healthier choices not binge eating crap and walking more. We met my dad yesterday at a local country park and walked 8.5 miles, I ache today but feel good for it.

DH asked on Saturday if I'd lost weight so that was a nice little boost, I'm not sure he can actually see it, I can't but he knows I've been trying I'm not rigidly calorie counting yet but know I'll have to at some point. When I lost a lot of weight before it was a couple of pounds a week, it feels like it takes forever but I did then keep it off for years until I had DS, whereas before I yoyoed. I try and think long term maths , two pounds a week doesn't feel much BUT multiply that and by Christmas it would be nearly four and a half stone!

OK so I'm back at it after a week off which was meant to be our holiday
Feeling more motivated than ever could definitely feel the difference by the end of the week as to how much better I felt when I was eating better
Also started this morning with my positive planner and mediation, just trying to focus in on me and set myself up every day

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Well done everyone ! Slow and steady wins the race I find. Enjoy your treats and don't beat yourself up when you have a bad week. Just making small changes at first works.

I'm one month in and feel much better. I decided to try the scales and I've lost 8lb so I'm happy about that. I'm feeling fitter too. If I continue to lose 2 lb per week up until my best friends wedding in March I can lose over 5 stone. That would be amazing.