Thread 2.The 2019 Bunch:- eating well, pooping well, feeling bloody marvellous!

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Second thread for those who are determined that 2019 is THEIR YEAR.

Fridge do you want to add your spreadsheet link below for ease?

Thank you wizzler and when.
It’s encouraging to lose the weight and well done to you as well when
I have so far lost 10kg since I had my daughter. The worst thing is I was 2 kg lighter after I had her and had gained none during the pregnancy so all this weight I have been carrying prior to having her. I had a pregnancy before her which needed in a mc and had gained 3 stones during that and afterwards. It’s really hard work and hope I can keep going.

You are owning it Fridge I love the confidence you are oozing.

Morning! Have just jumped on the scales and I’m 15:04. A healthy BMI is 11:10 so I’d like to lose 50 pounds total, but I’d be happy to lose 30 and get to the low 13’s.

Blood sugar diet starts today! I’m going to go back and read the first post as well and catch myself up.

I love that fridge! That’s exactly how I want to feel and I can’t wait for that. I can’t even remember the last time I had make up on. Or heels. Or even nice flattering clothes. I always wear my partners old clothes he doesn’t wear anymore. I don’t go out with my friends. I only leave my house to go food shopping. It’s such a sad life

Good work cello and sleep! And that is great to hear Fridge. I imagine you look even better for walking with a whole new attitude as well as the crazy weight loss :)

I can identify cello. I’ve lost about the same as you since the birth of DS. I’ve been overweight for a long time but infertility and going through IVF has had an impact too. It is hard going but I really want to do this!

Well done fridge! Love that you’re enjoying renewed confidence!

Cheering you on LadyVox and NewFitMe! There was an article in The Sunday Tines style magazine about the importance of women having cheerleaders in the workplace. I love that we can cheer on another on here too! I’ve never shared about my weight loss with anyone in real life before and it feels good to all be working on this together.

Had a disastrous weekend food wise. After reflection i’ve realised it was triggered by an issue with my husband. It stems from a long running problem and isn’t resolvable. My question is does anyone else “eat their dmotions” and if so how do you change your reaction to the triggers? Now I know what caused my eating i’m Confident i’ll be back on it today but I just want to try and avoid it in the future

I absolutely "eat my feelings". I used food as a celebration, a comfort, an indication of "me time"...I get it. ❤

We can absolutely do this WhenCanISleepAgain as we seem to be in the right frame of mind after what sounds like a hard year you had too.
Gosh GreyandGrumpy48 I totally get this eating my emotions thing. I had a very complicated pregnancy with my daughter, she was born premature where we almost lost her. Just when we came home with her and I thought I can finally relax, my dad died two weeks after I had her. It was the worst time of my life and all I could do was eat my feelings away as I had a newborn, a two years old who was having one infection after another and trying to grieve my dad at the same thing. I was just trying to survive the day to be honest. I finally came out of the fog and realised that I had no control over what happened but could control myself and not end up with health issues so had to start doing something regarding my weight. The thing is I love food, thinking about it, shopping for it, cooking it, eating it. I haven't made drastic changes, all am doing is reduce my portion sizes and having more vegs and fruits. I can't cope with cutting down a whole food group as I don't feel it's sustainable for me. I wish I had wiser words but all I can say is you have recognised your trigger and that's fab as you can now hopefully find ways to manage them. Sorry for the long story but you got this.

I used to be an emotional eater and I think I just retrained myself over a period of a couple of years. We are fighting instincts we have had for 30 or 40 years (it's terrible now that most kids when upset want a snack!) Obviously we're all different but I think I just enjoyed being thin so much that I stopped reaching for the ice cream when I was upset. That's not to say I don't have the odd relapse where I devour half a tub of Ben and jerrys or a tube of pringles but maybe once a year? i kind of have the opposite problem now that I don't want to eat but I think when stbexh leaves I'll relax more and be able to eat again.

privatecello you sound like me. I love food and my challenge was to find tasty recipes that were healthy. I reduced carbs a bit but didn't want to eliminate any food groups because it wouldn't be sustainable. I used to cook a lot of the hairy bikers diet recipes or recipes from a channel 4 programme that I think was called 'eat yourself thin' but it is harder to cook for one especially as I have to do a different meal for dc. Maybe I'll open those recipe books and see if there's anything in them do would eat.

Weigh in tonight....! Eek wish me luck. I started Slimming World last week so hoping to see the sca less have gone down. I've followed it pretty well and only allowing 5syns max a day. Did have a couple of lagers at the wkend though....hopefully I've got away with it!🤞

Any end date when he's moving out SNM, are you coping okay?
We do sound similar! You must share any good recipes you find!
Good luck for tonight Yerroblemom1923, let us know how you get on.

I absolutely eat my feelings. I felt so ill last week and all I wanted was comfort from food to make myself feel better momentarily. I stayed strong because it was only week 2 of the year and I'm full of blind hope but on week 11 or 24 or 43 I can guarantee I would have given right in. And then suffered All The Guilt afterwards.
Cello, I'm trying to get back to my nine-months pregnant weight too. It feels awful to even write that! I'm only 3lbs away now and can't wait to get it behind me. I had GD and didn't put on anything much while pregnant but boy did I make up for it afterwards.
Is anyone else looking forward to weigh in day??! I've been almost counting down to Tuesday and the knowledge that I've stayed strong for another week.

Thanks all for your stories. Sorry I can’t thank by name but my phone eon’t Let me scroll up while writing. I find at the time if a big issue I stop eating but once the immediate crisis is past I just eat. I know I have unresolved anger about DH’s behaviour but I need to stop turning on myself. I have given myself small targets for today to try and get back on track. Thanks again

privatecello he saw a few flats at the weekend, a couple were empty. I don't how long these things take but I think he'all need references and prove his earnings. It is good he's here for the children (who are devastated that he's going) but I feel broken. The sooner he goes the better.

Is anyone looking forward to weigh in day?

I am. I don't think I'll see a loss, because of all the exercise I've been putting in...but I'm looking forward to marking off another week!

Stealth I'm sorry that you're having such an awful time. And well done for keeping going!
I'm an emotional eater too and I agree that it's really difficult to retrain such deep-rooted behaviours. I'm really trying to work towards permanent behaviour/habit change and it is something that I need to somehow sort for good!
PrivateCello I've got to ask: are you a cellist? If so, then I'm very jealous as it's something that I've always wanted to learn to do.

Thanks houndsoflove I have lurked on enough relationship threads to know that I am going through what thousands of other women go through and they all get through it and are often happier after their defective husband goes. The best revenge is to live a good life and looking fabulous is one element of that!

But back to dieting another habit I had to learn was to not clear my plate. When I grew up I was told to eat everything on the plate - think we were all told 'children are starving in Africa'. Naturally thin people know when to stop eating and I don't, I am a really fast eater. At home I eat off tiny plates and so I do stop at an appropriate portion and sometimes I do leave food on my plate but it's so hard.

LittleDoritt sympathies re the GD as I had it too in the two pregnancies. I can so relate to the feeling for making up for it later Ouch. And the 3 pounds will be gone by the end of this month!

GreyandGrumpy48 you are so right that you need to stop turning it on yourself, think about it this way, why would you wish to punish yourself for someone else's misdemeanor. I understand that it's easier said than done though.

SNM I assume there's no chance of reconciliation? Such a painful time for you and your kids.

TheHoundsofLove good god no! I couldn't play an organ to save my life! It's the first thing that came to my mind when I was name changing. And hey you can always learn this year, what better time to learn a new thing than now huh.

cello no chance of a reconciliation. He has been so dismissive of mine and the children's feelings that I can't forgive him (even if he did want to come back and I'm sure he will in a few months.) Perhaps if he got therapy or counselling or got diagnosed for depression but he thinks his suddenly very cold behaviour is normal.

Cello That's a shame! You've shattered my illusions...
I keep threatening to buy one and learn for my 40th next year!

I did a tentative "not counted" hop on the scales this morning and if it's the same tomorrow i will have put on 1lb this week.

I was disheartened to see that, but actually, I've never had as much energy as I've had this last week. I'm sleeping well, eating well, moving round lots, no headaches, no bloating, I feel like parts of me have changed shape a bit.

I really honestly don't mind if the 1lb gain stays as on balance I feel better. If I can keep going with this I know I will feel healthier all round.

Thank you everyone who gave me support a few pages back. I really appreciate it. I've just had a ridiculously busy weekend and so didn't get chance to come back and thank everyone, but I seriously appreciate the pep talk. I don't think I will see a loss tomorrow, which is a bit upsetting but hopefully I will start to see a small loss soon.

Cello - I am so sorry you went through all of that. How unimaginably stressful for you. Well done for just surviving!

WhenCanISleepAgain - I'm so sorry you had a rocky road too. We struggled with infertility and it was an extremely dark time for me. I also gained a lot of weight over those months, then gained a load more weight when I finally got pregnant (for which I will always be grateful!). Try and be kind to yourself and remember that this is a marathon not a sprint. It is so hard dealing with young children, especially the ones who refuse to sleep at night!!!

SNM - It also sounds like you have a lot of sh*ttiness going on right now. I'm so sorry you're going through a nasty breakup and I'm sorry he couldn't get his act together. You are totally right that the best thing you can do is crack on and make a fantastic life for yourself! We're all here if you need support .

Grey - I'm sorry your weekend was a bit disastrous . I hope this week goes better for you.

Fridge - You're smashing it!

It sounds like most of you are doing really well. Keep up the good work! I'm another one who comfort eats. Particularly if I'm tired or stressed. I'm fine if I'm well rested and happy, but the minute 'life' happens I can't stop eating.

Thanks WhenCanISleepAgain, so glad to be here.

It's been surprisingly easy today, I've been reading through the old thread and I'm loving the inspiration you are all giving me. Such a great group.