Thread 2.The 2019 Bunch:- eating well, pooping well, feeling bloody marvellous!

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Second thread for those who are determined that 2019 is THEIR YEAR.

Fridge do you want to add your spreadsheet link below for ease?

Well done everyone who I didn't mention.

fiontar I think it's going to be a hard slog now so probably no more wooshes . In clothes I look ok but given I'm single now I want to lose my mumtum before a man sees me naked again! So I think I'm going to be on this thread at Xmas still losing 1/2 lb a week. Or I could take up exercise that ain't gonna happen

I have a wedding next week, and holidays at end of Feb, so if I can lose another 7 lbs before I go away, and then (somehow) manage not to undo the whole lot... i'd be very happy with that.

Wearing one of my favourite work shirts today, and it is swimming on me. It looks ridiculous. Another one for the charity shop. Fridge I am going to try on my 16s tonight. Tops might be ok, trousers will be another story!

1lb on for me this week. Finding life really difficult 😞

Sorry to hear that's greyandgrumpy. Is it something you want to talk about?

I’m sorry grey

grey please feel free to post here. Even just to get something off your chest. We might not be much help, but we'll listen.

If you're happier not sharing, just know that we're rooting for you xx

Well done all on the losses

Fridge You can see a diffence in your pics. I think when losing weight you don’t notice it on yourself straight away as you see yourself all the time.

Grey Sorry about that, losing weight can be tough especially if life is difficult as things other than weight take the priority. Be nice to yourself and do try to keep going, you can also post here for support/advice.

I went out for my run this morning before dh left for work, thankfully wasn’t as cold out today.
Food for today;
B- porridge. Black coffee
Mid morning, 2 digestives with another black coffee
L- currently eating a chicken, stuffing and salad sandwich. An Apple
D- is going to be onion bhaji curry ( I’ve got a vegan friend over for dinner so I’m trying this recipe out)

All done! So not only do I need to attend Fat School, I'm now attending Alkie School on Thursday! 😀

Blimey Fridge - you'll be like Superwoman by the time you've finished with everything.
Well done everyone who has lost anything at all - it all adds up!
Sorry that you're having a bit of a rubbish time Grey .
In very exciting news...I have started to notice that my clothes are getting looser! I was a tight size 14 at Christmas, whereas I'm a small 14 now!

Thanks for the understanding- sorry i’m on my phone and can’t scroll up to thank you personally. Just feeling sorry for myself really. Been married 20+ years and about 5 years ago found out husband had had 2 emotional affairs. He was then diagnosed with depression, had counselling and ADs and to outward appearances we are ok. But really things are just surface deep there is no intimacy, real interest in me etc. It just feels like he wants a housekeeper and someone to go to the cinema, co parent with etc. I thought we were working on improving things and losing weight was for me part of that but from a few things he’s said in the last few weeks it’s clear that he has no real intention of anything changing and he’s happy with the status quo. But i’m not and yet can I break everything up hurt the kids etc for something so nebulous and not really being loved or “seen”.

Sorry for the essay

Good work on making that call fridge.
That must be the best feeling Hounds! I can’t wait to be a small size 14.

Oh grey that must be unimaginably hard for you. I am so sorry. I may be speaking out of turn and I appreciate it’s all very easy for some randomer on the internet to comment, but you absolutely can walk away from a marriage when the other person isn’t willing to fight for you. Please don’t think of it as “breaking up the family”. You may actually do your kids more good by walking away. At the end of the day, it’s so important to teach your kids to have self love and self respect, but it’s hard to teach them that when you don’t show them you have it for yourself...and you absolutely deserve to have it for yourself.

Whatever happens, I hope things improve for you soon and that you feel a little better about yourself. We’re all here if you need to vent .

Well done to everyone who lost weight this week. Also well done to everyone who didn’t, but who still managed to get out of bed and face the world .

I’m up a little bit, which is fair given that I’ve had a bad week. Onwards and upwards though.

Wedding in May and holiday in June, so it’s my goal to be noticeably slimmer by then.

Also well done for making the call Fridge. It’s the start of good things .

I’m sorry things are so tough grey, that sounds very hard

Grey I don't know how old your kids are, but my parents split when my sister and I were mid-late teens. To the outside (and to us, and even to my poor Mum), there was absolutely NOTHING wrong. But my Dad left, pretty much out of the blue. We had a tough few years, but both my sister and I are both of the opinion that things worked out well in the end. My parents are both happier now.

So, I guess i am saying, don't let you kids hold you back from also being allowed to live your own life too. It might be hard for them, but with your support, they'd get through it.

It's just something to consider, from someone who has (kinda) been through it - this is in no way a LTB!

You could give yourself say 6 months, and that you'll consider your options in June/July. Use the time between now and then to look after your own wellbeing, and to protect yourself from your husband's comments/actions.

fridge adding my well done! I wonder if you will find that the eating and drinking emotions have some overlap and it might give you a lovely community of people that make you feel stronger and that can only be a great thing. Because as lovely as pizza is it is never as good as feeling welcome and in a hug of support

Grey I agree with the above. My parents split up when we were teens and then handled it TERRIBLY but I am so very glad they did! They were not great together and are much happier now. You cannot live your life in misery to make the kids happy when, in fact, they may already not be getting great vibes. Either way I would do what you need to do for YOU. It is not being selfish, it is trying to make everyone happier in the long run and you will all be ok.

It may be partly that if you are re-evaluating things from a personal care point of view that this has brought the issue forward because you can't ignore it any more. You can't make your body a temple and ignore your soul in there. It is worth giving yourself some time though of adjustment- 6 months sounds good and then you can work out how you feel once the weight loss is sort of under control and you have thought about what next. But if it helps (it makes me cry) there is a great piece by Cheryl Strayed which I think sums it up:

Go, even though you love him.
Go, even though he is kind and faithful and dear to you.
Go, even though he's your best friend and you're his.
Go, even though you can't imagine your life without him.
Go, even though he adores you and your leaving will devastate him.
Go, even though your friends will be disappointed or surprised or pissed off or all three.
Go, even though you once said you would stay.
Go, even though you're afraid of being alone.
Go, even though you're sure no one will ever love you as well as he does.
Go, even though there is nowhere to go.
Go, even though you don't know exactly why you can't stay.
Go, because you want to.
Because wanting to leave is enough

Good luck and be kind to yourself

Well done for making the call Fridge
Grey, sorry you are having a tough time.

Congratulations to the losers

Have had a good day today... cereal for breakfast which I share with D Dog... (!) then winter veg soup for lunch , and then DH had cooked pork escalopes, with carrots and broccolli. I had a very few chips.

Was up and down stairs all day at work instead of using the lift... I shall be like a racing snake at the end of week5!

Sorry grey hope mine also didn’t come across as LTB- just that if you need to it is ok!
You may find re-evaluations change things for the better too!

Eek night out for dinner tonight will be a challenge! Think I need to step up the exercise a bit too- am being super lazy

How did you get on with going out for dinner bob?

when responding from the other thread, my son will be 3 on the 11th! Seems a few birthdays in February from this thread and oh yours and Grufalo’s babe sounds like just a few days apart! It’s true the first year goes so so fast! My daughter will be 9 months in a few days and I keep thinking gosh where has the time gone?!
Have you an end goal in mind? Or was it just to get to pre pregnancy weight? Although you won’t be back to pre pregnancy weight by DS’s first birthday, you are at least very very close! And also two stones done since November is awesome! You are a star
Grey just here for you anytime you need

Hi cello! Seems February is a popular month for birthdays! I’m going to need extra willpower next week because I’m planning on baking some treats to celebrate.

I’m two stone down since the summer and one stone down since November. I didn’t really diet to lose the first stone but then things stalled and I realised I couldn’t lose weight without watching what I eat.

I’d like to lose just over another two stone which will take me to a healthy BMI. But that means I’m either half way or 1/3 of the way depending on what I count as my start weight. What are your goals?

When I get to a healthy BMI I’ll need to evaluate. I’ll probably try to lose a bit more so I’m not constantly on the edge of being overweight.

Dinner was lovely but a number of non Keto things so I imagine I am about 3kg heavier Hey ho. Amazing how much faster I got full up though!

greyandgrumpy I'm so sorry. I was in the position where I thought we were happy and making an effort for each other but stbexdh never had any intention of staying after Christmas. If you haven't already gone to the relationships board I would, there are hundreds of inspiring women who have had similar things happen and got through it and are full of advice.

My only advice is to carry on with the diet and work on you so that when the relationship inevitably ends you have confidence and a better lifestyle. I realise now that for years my priority was my family and dh and he just didn't give a shit about any sacrifices I've made. I'm now booking myself into evening classes, going swimming, losing weight, a bookclub. I would like to date again but I have spent so long just being a mum that I feel really boring, I have no conversation. There are sites like meet up where you can go out with new people to social events and cultural events. I haven't gone to any because stbexh has only just moved out and I want to establish new routines with dc but this is definitely the year that I become a new and improved stealthninjamum.

Hi all

Hope you are all having a good food day.

Well done for making your call Fridge Your all over this, it’s very inspiring reading your posts with the determination you have.

I went for a run again this morning before dh left for work. Food plan for today
B- a chocolate plait. Black coffee
L- beans on toast, sugar free jelly
D- will be chicken drumsticks, few sweet potato fries and salad