AIBU to want a gentler health/weight discussion

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Want to interact with others and get support/motivation for getting healthier and active, and in the process losing weight. But I absolutely don't want to hear any "diet culture", calorie counting or unhealthy disordered eating promotion. Surely I can't be the only one? Sometimes it seems like every thread I click on is just full of upsetting, unhelpful comments that sound like they could have been lifted from a thinspo website.

Hopefully I’m not too late to join 😊

Of course not! I'll call you Coffee if that's okay? Welcome anyway 👋 how are you feeling at the mo? How would you like to feel, what are your goals? 🌟

I fell off the wagon yesterday and had a few wines
Felt awful today . And that amount wouldn’t have floored me so much before . Managed however to walk to work , swim after work and avoided hangover eating ! So I am basically saving my extra calories for

I do need to work on socialising without getting drunk 😵

jemmima and agatha yes, I plan to return to running. I know it’s knackering to your pelvic floor but it’s a case of balancing potential harm with the mental health issues not running causes. I’m under a gynae and specialist nurse who are both supportive, and I’m still rehabbing and not running at the moment, but there’s no way I’m prepared to do without it forever even if that means exacerbating my symptoms a bit. I don’t run on the road anyway which reduces impact a bit, and my BMI is around 19 so I’m not overloading my pelvic floor by carrying extra weight. Keeping my fingers crossed that when I stop breastfeeding the hormone shift might help too.

Long sea swim for me today and most of the day on my feet walking.

Also, grilled hake, new potatoes with mint, and kale cooked with tomato and borlotti beans in a cafe by the sea for tea. And the baby slept so I got to eat it with 2 hands and everything!!

I believe in you Verbena! You're getting the best possible advice and support and my fingers are crossed that you'll have a long and happy running career ahead!

That dinner sounds lovely. I'm up still because my dog had an epileptic seizure, so tomorrow night be tough energy wise, but I'll do my best! Will check in with you lovelies in the morning 🌟

Ah AF you are lovely. My fingers are crossed too. I go from thinking ‘if I’m conscientious about recovery I’ll get there in the end’ to ‘it’s fucked anyway, so I may as well do what I love right now’. Mostly I’m able to be sensible.

Sorry about your dog, that’s rubbish. Hope tomorrow is a better day.

Verbena it most likely is just hormones relaxing the ligaments then and when you stop breastfeeding hopefully it will all tighten up. I do many pelvic floor squeezes a day and this sorted it out but as my hormones will never go back to normal, I can't run or lift anything too heavy.

jemmima it’s also a forceps delivery of a 10lb9oz back to back baby through a size 6 pelvis, I think! I’m not going to kid myself that once I wean the damage will all ping back, just hope it’s one more factor in getting my body back to a more functional resilient state, if that makes sense. I’m a big pelvic floor squeezer too, both by myself and with an electrical zappy thing from the nurse, and they do help if you stick at them.

Morning team!

I am excited for a good walk today and an hours crossfit.

Kids 2 and 3 have injections today, so will be getting ice cream

Gosh didn’t know that abiut running and pelvic floor

I started core last spring 2017 for bad back and it’s been amamzing . Stomach flatter and no more back ache . My Tena lady consumption is down too

Highly recommend to everyone to work that core !!

Sorry about your doggy AF

Daily core execuses I mean

Morning Camel! Enjoy your ice cream and let us know how Crossfit goes!

Had an absolutely awful nights sleep so I'm going to drop the weights video I was going to do today and just go swimming later 🏊‍♀️

Thank you stop, she's all good now! Unfortunately now her baby brother has decided he feels poorly after stealing a KFC fillet yesterday 😂

Morning all. Well, I had a bit of a moment last night.

DP was out and I decided to make the most of some quiet time so bought a magazine and some biscuits. (Even though I haven't been eating after dinner for a while now, isn't it interesting that I still associate a 'treat' night with eating?). Whilst I was buying the biscuits I was thinking, "hmm, I'm a bit full from dinner, do I really want these, maybe I should listen to my body a bit?".
Long story short, I bought and ate the biscuits, but I didn't enjoy them that much and for my brain to have even been through that process is really quite an amazing thing for me.

So, what have we learned? That somewhere deep inside my hobnob-addled brain there are one or two cells who are actually in touch with intuitive eating. I'm aware this all sounds ridiculous to the people on this thread who are already a healthy weight and just want to focus on nourishing their bodies more, but for me it's A Whole New Thing.

Hey well done Agatha! Those kind of moments are amazing things for me too. I always, always buy food for a "treat night"/ when I'm feeling stressed. But next year at uni I actually have a bath for once, so gonna try to swap buying a sharing potion of profiteroles for buying a nice bath product 😂

Can anyone give me a little motivation to stick with eating healthy today? There's hardly anything in and I'm fed up in general, just want to eat solely kitkats for the rest of the day 😒

Agatha that happened to me last week with the ice cream at 9.30pm.

Lesson learnt. Don't automatically say yes to shitty cheap ice cream at 9.30pm!

It's the automatic stuff I'm trying to avoid.

Breakfast this morning was two poached eggs, some ham and some Grated cheese. In a diet I would never have had the Grated cheese, never in a million years. But it was lush, and still made me feel better than a bowl of sugary cereal.

Sounds like everyone is getting on well and getting good support {smile}

I too have fallen of the wagon a bit stopfuckingshoutingatme but am am clamouring to get back on!

Was payday yesterday so got a huge shop in, will be enjoying a prawn, green lentil and broccoli chinese concoction for lunch today. might have mackerel for tea after the gym, i'm feeling fishy today {grin}

af maybe when you feel the urge to KitKat go outside for a little walk if you can? Sometimes I do this and when I get back I feel good for doing something active and don't want to ruin it with junk food.

my smileys have failed!!!

That dinner sounds lovely Tommy! I haven't KitKatted (?) yet which is a good start! Showered, tidied and freshened up my room which always helps, and had a fruit selection for breakfast. Less than what I would normally have but I just don't feel hungry, rather than having deprived myself. My sister has a tummy bug so I'm crossing my fingers that I dont too.

I resolved today that when I go back to the wilderness of Norfolk for uni I'm going to make the most of the markets and butcher's and local produce (as well as my ridiculously generous student loan) to both feel healthier, get nicer fruit and veg, and hopefully alleviate some of my climate anxiety. Less trips to Morrisons means less visits to the cream cake counter, so in that sense at least it will be good for me 😂

Well done af consider yourself victorious

Sounds like a good plan with the food shopping, do you find that when you simply purchase healthy foods you feel so much better even if you hadn't eaten it yet?

Hope you don't get a tummy bug (although that might give weight loss a boost)

Yes definitely Tommy, I feel so much better when I have a fridge full of veg than the days where there's nothing but junk! I have issues with food hoarding and getting anxious about having enough food (I'm really not sure why!) so it's sometimes hard to not just overload on freezer nuggets etc., but I'm getting better!

I know what you mean af

Do you batch cook at all? That would help, not only will you have healthy, homemade food to hand so you won't need to reach for convenience food and also will fill up your freezer.

I love to cook, I spend hours on a Sunday cooking stuff for work during the week and getting my freezer filled up. And I don't even defrost the stuff, I just chuck it in the microwave, it's so quick and easy. Casseroles, soups, stews and curries freeze beautifully and you can pack them with wholesome, nutritious veg and lean meats.

I'm already a batch cooking convert Tommy! It really does help to not have to think about what to make some days. Student freezer space is always limited though (think one freezer drawer each!) so I can't do as much as I'd like. Hopefully will do more when I move back home for my masters!

Ah I see. Weill it sounds like you are totally on the right track and making good choices, we just need to keep persevering and never give up.

That's a very good mantra 😁 hope you have a lovely day! 🌟💕