AIBU to want a gentler health/weight discussion

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Want to interact with others and get support/motivation for getting healthier and active, and in the process losing weight. But I absolutely don't want to hear any "diet culture", calorie counting or unhealthy disordered eating promotion. Surely I can't be the only one? Sometimes it seems like every thread I click on is just full of upsetting, unhelpful comments that sound like they could have been lifted from a thinspo website.

I am feeling better, thanks. Obviously physically it's too small a percentage of my target to make a difference, but it's nice to feel less guilty about over-eating.

Good luck with the MOT Camel!

So the car failed... but is only costing £138 all in.

I was going to get it serviced as well but now cannot afford that.

It does mean I have enough money to buy my mums birthday present now... plus of course the car is safe.

Also I went on a three hour walk after I dropped the car off... yes I might have stopped for French toast, soy latte and bacon but hey, I went for a walk 😂

Phew Camel, that's not too bad. I always think a bill under £200 at a mechanics is a success story.

Just means I have to take it back for a service

Really it needs 3 new tyres
A full service
New brakes

But that’s going to take a while

Awful headache this afternoon. Tried water, dark chocolate for sugar and some crisps for salt, and it isn't budging. Think it might be caffeine withdrawal (no coffee today!) but don't think I can face drinking one.

Ugh, caffeine withdrawal is grim. Push on through though. I don’t drink tea, coffee or any fizzy drinks with caffeine in. Not being smug, it’s the only aspect of my diet that actually is healthy.

I'm not intentionally giving up Agatha so I did just have an iced coffee 😂 you're right that it's good to give up though, I'm still gently cutting down from my massive cola addiction last year, so I still have one coffee and one fizzy drink a day, but no more. That's good that you've managed it! I'll be asking for tips soon I'm sure 😂

MMmmmmm

Today I dove into ice cold running water in a local river after being hot and bothered all day. It was magical.

I am crossfitting tomorrow for the first time in a while which should help my hip (so sore)

I am feeling very good, very postive and happy. Ready for my holiday next week :-)

Hope everyone is doing well. really nice to have this little space to get to know people and share x

AF I found soda water and fresh juice a great change from bought fizzy

I'll definitely try that out Camel! Going to make a lot of changes when I go back to uni and can buy my own food and make my own meals - being provided for is of course lovely though! I'm glad you're feeling really good, and that you like having this little thread! I'm loving it too.

I am bipolar, I feel like I should probably tell you all that. So I am usually blissfully happy and living a rather marvellous life but sometimes I get desperately sad and angry and lash out.

I doubt I will lash out here but I might post about my relationship being crap or me being unloved which is totally not true

Anyway. I’m sure more about me will come out eventually ;-)

Thank you for letting us know so we know how best to help Camel - glad you're feeling good at the moment! 🌟

Fortunately life is mostly good. Somehow I’ve managed to build a life of love and friendship, family who adore me (and I adore back). Looking at where I was a few years ago... it’s pretty incredible really.

Of course if I ever post anything about my OH on MN I’m told to LTB but actually he puts up with huge amounts of crazy and make life very good x

camel I think mumsnet is very quick to recommend LTB without actually listening to context very well. Glad you’re feeling good at the moment. Your swim sounds heaven, I’m still managing to swim every day despite seeing quite a few jellyfish around. Did you know there have been studies linking cold water immersion with improved mental health (and speeding up your metabolism)?

On the subject of caffeine, I gave up completely for fertility treatment (for months, so well past the withdrawal phase) and I didn’t feel remotely better, I just really wanted a brew every day! These days I have a coffee most mornings and often tea at lunchtime and it’s lovely - I do think giving up fizzy sugary caffeine is a good idea, but just wanted to stick up for my drug of choice

Hello

I have been catching up on the thread for a few days. I stopped dieting about nine months ago, after realising diets were making me fatter with the deprivation/binge cycle. I've let myself eat what and when I want to reset my eating somewhat. But no mater what I eat, including plenty of protein and almost high fat, I am always hungry. I did Keto which I know fixes the hunger pangs but in the end it's too rich and the whole deprivation thing kicks in.

I'm size 18 and body positive. If this sized body could do the things I need it to then it could stay. But I can't keep up with my kids, housework exhausts me, I drive everywhere and feel weak.

So! My plan -
up my water intake.
Up veg intake
Three meals a day eating whatever I want initially.
No sweets/biscuit/crisps type snacks, especially after dinner.
Get over my fear of exercise.

I too love sea swimming and yoga, but childcare is unreliable so I need to embrace walking i think.

I very nearly fell back onto the diet track in a panic when I weighed at my heaviest. Very glad I found you all.

Ooh, this is interesting about the positive effects of cold water immersion. V cold sea where I live, I'd give swimming a go if I wasn't so mortified to be seen in my costume by my neighbours.

Hello Lurkacus. Can I ask about the hunger thing. Are you actually feeling stomach rumblings, or are you hungry in a "really want something nice to eat" kind of way? I'd like to be better at telling the difference and acting accordingly. I know what you mean about your body not being up to the task, I feel the same about mine.

Hello Lurkacus! Have you spoken to your GP about the hunger? If you think they'd be understanding and supportive, it's worth a go, because it would be good to rule out any deficiencies etc before you chalk it up to just habit/the way your body is! It can be a side effect of some medications as well.

But your plan sounds very good! I think regularity of meals is really important to getting healthier, especially breakfast. Do keep us updated on how you get on and how it makes you feel - I'm glad you found us too 💕

Agatha I had my tonsils out when I was a child and I remember hearing my family say how my appetite had improved. I think I've been hungry ever since! 😆
To me it feels like genuine hunger, but not starving hunger. But through attempting fasting I did learn that hunger doesn't grow, it comes and goes in waves. Nothing bad will happen if I stay hungry and wait until the next meal to eat. I'm also guilty of eating too fast then still feeling hungry at the end of a meal. I need to get back to having a cuppa and waiting at least 30 mins, usually the feeling subsides.

AF I take a good variety of vitamins. Multi vits, omega 369, D, B12, iron, magnesium, calcium and a probiotic. I'm on omaperazole for reflux with I think inhibits absorption of some nutrients. I have a loooog list of health issues I need to see the doc about but I always put it off. I have anxiety and I always feel they think it's that.

Lurkacus I know that feeling! They usually always say it's my weight or lack of exercise or my anxiety/stress, even when I know it's not because I've been fat and stressed forever and this symptom is new 😂 I've had success asking other anxious/fat people which doctors at my practice they like though, it's a bit of trial and error! Hopefully you'll start feeling better soon 🤞💕

Peanut butter toast and a banana consumed, 20 minute Jessica cardio+strength video done! Now time for a shower and getting on with today's admin/budget planning tasks 😩

Afternoon all! My usual gym bunnying is on pause because of the school holidays, but DD is at holiday club today so I’ve done Zumba, just had lunch, and have got Pilates in a bit, after which I’m going for a swim. Figure I’ll try and get my whole week’s exercise into one day 🤣

Afternoon Oscha! Sounds exhausting! Bet you'll feel so good afterwards though. Good job on fitting it all in 💕

I've got sweet potato jacket, soy sesame and ginger tuna with spring onions and red pepper, and broccoli on the side. 😍

agatha go for it! Your neighbours can look the other way if they don’t like it; other people’s reaction to how you look is their problem.

lurkacus that sounds sensible. Meat free can be helpful in getting you to really think about prioritising veg.

I got naked in our (massive) paddling pool earlier.

The neighbours can look if they want! I couldn’t give a monkeys ;-)

Morning lovelies! That sounds great Camel 😁 about to have breakfast, then hopefully go to Nandos and cinema with my sister but it depends how her anxiety is. If she can't go, I'll probably pop out and get myself some kind of treat anyway. Feeling a bit like I'm flagging and would quite like to give up this health stuff today, and when I get like this I normally just write off that day and start again tomorrow!