BigMoFos Week 35

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New week, new year, new thread, new motivation!

(No, I haven't gone mad with the thread number, the last one covered two weeks).

TWOISENOUGHMUM I also adore mashed potatoes, but, unfortunately, love it with loads of butter, I have discovered these
and they are fantastic, they do really taste of butter and mash are back on the menu

Mytwopenceworth - sorry you're hungry. Do you really have to be hungry? Its not supposed to be good for you! Perhaps you have a reason I don't know about? Are you really not allowed something like a banana or a cereal bar or a cup-a-soup - something to take the edge off? I get irritable as hell when I'm hungry so really feeling for you.

Those look interesting, Radley. But I try to be as additive free as possible, which is why I don't really eat anything other than butter in the way of spreads etc. I may well try them though, just out of curiosity!

Jackie No - its my DDs birthday next week. Similar party food temptations to overcome here, too, although at least we've only got one birthday in January to contend with. My DD will be 6 on 11th January. When is yours? - your DD's, I mean. Are you making a cake or buying one? I'm buying, don't really do baking, and anyway I know DD would be disappointed with anything I could concoct when what she really wants is one from Sainsburys with Disney princesses on the icing. Bless her, little treasure that she is.

twoisenoughmum - my DD is 7 tomorrow. How did that happen? Yes, I'll be buying a cake too. I did once make her a cake in the shape of Fizz from the Tweenies, but it took ages and although it turned out OK, I was plaiting strawberry shoelaces to make her hair and thinking, 'Never again - life's too short!'.

Sent DH out yesterday morning with DS and DD with instructions to buy a cake for DS's party - when asked what sort of cake he wanted, DS said 'A pink one', bless. Came back with a Bob the Builder one though. The only thing I said was that I didn't mind him having pink, per se, but no Bratz, and not the 'Busty Boobs' cake they sell in Tesco.

JackieNo - that reminds me of ds1's third birthday party - everything was pink - Barbie cake, napkins, the lot! Pink was his favourtie colour for about 2 years, but now he's a big grown up 5 year old at school, green's the colour of the moment and he denies all knowledge of liking "a girl's colour"..! Makes me and also a bit because they grow up so fast.

twoisenoughmum - it's ok, i did warn folks i was going to yell 'im hungry' many many times!!

i have to lose 5 stone in 3 months or i won't get my operation. sadly, this special diet i am on is very very restrictive so no, i couldnt have anything except the milk, yoghurt, stock cube etc!

it's funny but it really is easier to not have anything than to have a bit and stop. well, for me anyway.

but bugger me i am hungry!

Must be so hard, MTPW. Although I can definitely see what you're saying about being easier not to eat anything than to start eating and not be able to stop.

Keep shouting if you need to, I have my ear defenders at the ready so you can yell and shout obscenities as much as you need to!

Evening all

Well i have been mostly good.Did have 2 glasses of wine last night but have been eating sensibly so expect still to lose on Thursday.

I went to a dress shop today and tried a few on, i looked surprisingly good in them.There was one in particular i liked so they have put it aside for me until next week.Only going to 2 shops,was nice looking like a bride tho.I could happily get married like i am but would prefer to lose another stone or so.

Have dinner organised,smoked mackerel and salad,nice and healthy,not going to be tempted into a takeaway which is usually what happens on a Sunday.

Have a good night all xx

Happy New Year everyone.

Lovely to see everyone back, and lots of new names too.

Well, I've been very brave, and had my last session with my counsellor. I know that dealing with all my emotional baggage first was the right thing to do (mother/daughter stuff for me too Colditz!). However, I now think I'm starting to use it as an excuse not to start thinking about my physical health, as opposed to my emotional health (if that makes sense).

I've had about 5 months "off" thinking about eating, while I worked on my issues with food and my relationship with my mother, but now I think it's time to start thinking about the eating again.

I'm going to try and get an appointment with my GP on Tuesday to see what support they can offer - even if it's only to weigh me once a month.

Feeling a bit wobbly about it all but I know it's the right thing to do.

WWB - reading what you wrote about your dd being teased really made me stop and think.

I'm going to a wedding reception in France in August. It's for a very active couple who love mountain biking, walking etc. so no doubt there will be lots of opportunities for guests to take part in that sort of thing.

I don't want to feel completely out of place. My aim is to weigh less in August than I do now. I don't want to say how much less, just less!

Sorry - this has been a real unburdening, all about me.

Agalch - I'm sure you'll look absolutely beautiful. I'm so glad you found a dress that you liked. When are you getting married?

Hi Littlefish. Good to see you, and well done for what you've been through with all the counselling. It's an incredibly brave thing to do, imo. And your target sounds like a very sensible one.

OK how many of you are going to post on the thread asking for a survey of height and weight!

I considered it and then decided not to when I saw the rest of the weights, especially as some of them had {blush} by them.

It's a year ago today since I gave up smoking and I feel great. I am going to do my first weight in for a while on Thursday and will kick the diet off then. Good luck everyone for this week.

Absolutely not!

Congratulations on being smoke free for a year Flutterbee.

Have you managed to get rid of all the bugs and germs which were lurking?

Hi all

Littlefish,i'm getting married on the 10th of April(my birthday)and i am very excited!!!(can you guess)And i'm sure we will all have times when we need to unburden here.(((hugs)))

Flutterbee,it's almost 12 years since i gave up the evil weed.Figure if i can give that up i can lose weight too.

Anyhow off to bed to give dd2 a dreamfeed and hopefully get some shuteye xxx

Flutterbee - I am on this thread because I am a big Mo Fo through and through. I love the philosophy behind it all and I feel as though I live in the same world as the other Mo Fos iyswim. But I started that other weight survey thread, not because I am interested in what other people weigh, but because I am very interested in whether or not we are aiming for something realistic. It wasn't until I typed it out that I really understood what a very long time it has been since I was the weight I am aiming for now. Perhaps I should give myself a break and aim for a happy medium? And because, more than anything else I am concerned that women should be healthy but able to live a reasonable life (ie. not obsessed with calories and food and scales and weight and dress sizes) I do hope that other people might realise that they are aiming for something unrealistic and stop beating themselves up for not being the weight they were in their 20s before having children/giving up smoking/living on alcohol and drugs.

There is nothing judgemental behind my motivation, belive me.

Recently, I met a woman (in a social scenario) who is a professional nutritionist for the NHS. She told me that she is a stone heavier in her 40s than she was in her 30s and she accepts that this is the norm. Gave me food for thought (pardon the pun) but she still looked in pretty good shape to me !

Littlefish - yes thanks, fingers crossed, all pretty healthy atm. How's your lovely DD doing?

Twoisenoughmum, afraid I'm not going to post on that thread, but I'm happy to post the answers here, if that's OK?

I'm 5' 4".
I weigh 14 stone 7.
I'd like to weigh around 10 stone.
No idea when I last weighed that - until starting with the BigMoFos I wasn't weighing myself at all, just getting depressed at the ever-increasing dress sizes. As a result I really have no idea how old I was when I weighed 10 stone, and no idea how to guess either. Not sure if that's good or bad.

twoisenough - Your OP is a perfect request for stats and I was toying with the idea of posting mine but then I saw the other weights and some of the emoticons and decided against it.

Sorry if you thought it was in any way a dig at the OP it really wasn't.

No offence taken, Flutterbee. Just trying to explain myself - as a proud member of Big Mo Fo's - that the thread was started to see if other people also feel that aiming for unrealistic weights isn't going to get any of us anywhere.

Also, I have innate empathy with anyone who feels unhappy with body, whether 7 stone and wishing for 8 stone or 30 stone and wishing for 20 stone. In a way, its the same for all of us.

Now, of course, I want to go and grill (not in a cooking sort of way you understand) those few posters who are happy with their lot. They seem to be outside of the norm. Am spookily curious about them...

I posted on that thread... I took a deep breath and just did it. I was somewhat put off by some of the weights and blushes, I just think "12.10 (or whatever) IF ONLY!!!"

I think that losing a stone after Christmas and having to lose a significant amount of weight for health reasons are two completely different things with different issues attached.

I'm off to Rosemary Conley tomorrow, I need to shift at leat 5 stone. I'm going to struggle, I use food as a crutch that I rely on heavily, but with some help and support I'll get there.

Can I join you please

Hi CheesyFeet - of course you can join us! I would also like to shift at least 5 stone (eventually) so you are in good company here!

No need for any pleading Cheesy! You're very welcome. We all have considerable amounts to lose, and so, understand the issues attached.

You won't find me posting my weight on threads where 12stone ladies put and after their weight! I think the fact that so many did that proves your point rather, twoisenough ... not sure that most of them realise what the point was though.

I'll post it here though ...

I am 5'9"
I weigh 20 stone 13lb (although when I started this I weighed almost 22 stone, so there's some improvement there )
I don't have any ideal weight in mind - I suppose all the charts would say about 9 - 9.5 stone, but I haven't weighed that in all of my adult life. For now I want to weigh less than dh.
I suppose the last time I was under 10 stone was when I was about 18 - a long while ago. I honestly couldn't tell you what I weighed at any time since then.

Cheesy, I thought it might be an idea to tell you about who we are and why we're here - have copied and pasted this from last week:

These threads are about attitude as much as anything: some of us were cheesed off with threads full of 7 stone people posting about being bloaters, and being hard on themselves because they needed to lose 4lb. We just wanted a place where people understood how large people feel, and where we could feel supported in a way that those 7 stone people couldn't manage to support us. Most of us have more than 5 stone to lose, but there are a few who are smaller but who found that the ethos of the threads suited them.

We're all doing our own thing rather than following a particular diet, the threads are more for support and motivation than anything else really. We do a weekly weigh-in for those who want it, but not all of us weigh in. Some just follow the thread for support, whichever you would feel more comfortable doing. It's all pretty free and easy but it seems to work. Weigh-in day has changed to Thursday, you can send me a starting weight if you want (which is purely between you, me and the fence post) or just send weekly losses - or not even bother with the weigh-in at all, if you prefer. Email is [email protected]

We only have one or two rules: No beating yourself up (we will do that for you if necessary). Each week is a new week and you leave last week?s problems behind. No pedantic grammar corrections (unless what you typed really doesn?t make sense); we are quite smart and will work out what you mean.

being 14 stone, it seems like I am not as overweight as I actually am, because I am 5'2 and the boots machine says (last time it worked!) that I should be 8 stone 4. So have at least 5 stone to lose.

But I will not beat myself up! No No NO.

But I am struggling with my will power, I have never managed to stick to a diet in my life.

But wwb at 5 foot 9, 9 stone is really really thin!!!

My 5'9 mate is 10 nd a half stone and is only a small size 12!

WWB - at 5'9" you're probably aiming for about 12 stone - or even 13 stone would make you a size 14. I'm 5'8" and I'm around 13 stone 11 and I'm managing to squeeze into my 16 trousers and 18 tops. I'm aiming to one day be a magical 12 stone 7lbs which I reckon would see me in size 14's!! So no more thinking about 9 stone - we weren't meant to be that tiny!!

And 1 lb at a time. Although I'm finding even that hard at the moment - I'm in self destruct mode this week - it's supposed to be my first week back on the wagon but I'm eating everything in the house, which is ridiculous.

Wish dp was at home - maybe I should match her evening job salary just to stay at home and mind me...!