Officially my heaviest and time to change. Anyone with me?

[DreamingOfADifferentMe]

Hi all,

Well, having just returned from a gorgeous week's holiday, I decided to take the plunge and step onto the scales. Bloody hell.

I'm officially the heaviest I've ever been. I look awful. And I'm desperate to change. I've spent the last few days reading threads on here that I think will inspire me and I'm determined to make a change.

I have a number of milestones to get to, including a holiday in October, but the big one in my head is going to see the GP in a few weeks' time for a repeat prescription for my contraceptive pill. Last year, she made some reference about my weight as they may not have been allowed to prescribe it, given my high BMI. She did, and prescribed me a year's worth, and they're nearly gone. Have I lost weight? Have I heck - I'm actually heavier, and I can't bear the idea of going back and having the same utterly humiliating conversation.

So, I'm just debating the best approach. I know low/no carbs works really well for me, though I can struggle to stick with it, but that's what I'm going for initially.

This morning I weighed in at 15st 11, and I'm just 5ft 4. I'm a size 18. This cannot be who I am. I am not the woman who looks back at me in the mirror.

My mission is to shift, ideally, around 3st initially. I know that I look and feel great at 12st something, and even though I'll be far from a size 10 skinny minnie, I will feel fantastic. Then, when I get to that point, we'll see.

However, when there's such a long road ahead, I know I get easily defeated. So, does anyone fancy a hand to hold along a similar path? I'm happy to give tonnes of support and will cheer folk on, anyone fancy returning the favour?

Thanks Dreaming, I actually feel ridiculously proud of myself which is a bit lame since it was only the first one and took me 3 attempts! Still, a win is a win! That's a really good idea about weighing in before I go, I might actually weigh in on Friday and then leave it a full week and a bit till the next Monday, I know the drink will have an effect and I'd rather not get down about it. I love love love cider but I think I'll plan to stick to spirits and diet mixers. Well done on making your appt, it always helps to have a fixed goal date in mind I think. I'm constantly thinking of holiday/birthday/New Years eve and trying to picture myself at each of them.

Well done to everyone who has lost, nothing better than that to help spur us on and continue making good food choices this week

I'm a bit late to the party but can I please join you all? I really need to lose weight, I'm so sick of making the same excuses and putting it off again and again - setting time related goals and seeing them pass by and still I have done nothing about it. Just weighed myself and I'm 16.3st, ugh!! It seems such an insurmountable task I don't even know where to start!! I'm going to go to the top of the thread and have a read through for some inspiration.....

Big well done for making that appointment, Dreaming.

Welcome Buffalo! Agree it seems insurmountable :( but that can no longer be a reason to stagnate, can it? Every journey starts with a single step, blah blah blah. I figure each time I walk instead of getting a bus, each time I resist a treat food, it DOES mean something. Just like I remind myself that when I'm decluttering (yes, my house is in as much of a state as my body!) each bag of rubbish that leaves the house makes a difference even though it's a mere drop in the ocean.

Don't worry Dreaming we'll cheer you on the whole way. Five weeks is a decent amount of time so it is achievable.

Well done socks. So far I've managed to drop from latte to white coffee but cant see myself giving that up yet, or at least until DS2'S teeth stop waking him every few hours.

Great that the app is finally cooperating with you mess. Excellent stuff!

That's great news lake. How far along are you?

Hello all . Can I interest any of you in the No S Diet? I started a thread about it. The basic rules are...

No snacks
No sweets
No seconds
Except on days beginning with S (i.e. weekends .

That's it. There's a website here .

It's very sane, very simple, very unfaddy and very doable. It's not a speedy crash diet (because those are no use for long-term weight loss). But you don't have to cut out whole food groups and you get planned treats.

I can't offer you a before and after pic or an amount of weight lost because I've only just started it. But there are plenty of success stories on the website. All I know is that no other diet I've tried works long-term because they are impossible to stick to. Whereas this one is just how generations of people ate, before 24/7 snacking became a thing!

Anyway, anyone who's interested - pop over to the thread .

Dreaming I think BMI is a bit of a con. It doesn't take into account a range of factors like muscle mass or percentage of body fat. I'm sure I read a long time ago that it was dreamt up by American insurance companies.

I have been in my "normal" weight range (a long long time ago!) and I looked unwell. Hollowed cheeks and protruding collar bones. I think it's helpful in some cases as a diagnostic tool but I can't see how it can be a one size fits all measure of weight.

I look my best at just into the overweight level funnily enough.

www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/255712.php

Good luck for your weigh in tomorrow Dreaming! And well done to everyone else

This is the first day I've really struggled with cravings, I'm not sure why. I've just been craving chocolate, cake and bread I had the tiniest sip of a creme brûlée latte that someone made me yesterday (I literally mean ONE sip and then left the rest) and I think that tiny amount has set my sugar cravings off!

I didn't cave though, stuck to my meal plan for the day so I'm happy I bought some raspberries and I'm going to have some with cream as a treat. I know in the low carb boot camp you're not allowed fruit for the first 2 weeks but I just really need something sweet!

I think the one thing I don't like about low carbing is that at the moment I can't really have anything sweet, even as a treat although I have definitely noticed my energy levels are up and I don't feel as sluggish and lethargic as I used to. That's a good feeling so I need to remember that when the going gets tough!

I'm hungry. That is all. :o

Well done letme, that's great determination.

That's a really good point fuzzpig, often I end up 'cheating' and making poor choices because I think 'fuck it, I've got so far to go it won't matter', then once I've cheated once it all goes out the window. I'm going to remember that - every good decision, every healthy meal, every exercise class is one step closer to where I want to be. And with that - DH and I have joined the gym today! Looking forward to getting cracking!

fuzz

We'll done letme very impressed with you resisting all the sugar. Seriously? You're not supposed to eat fruit when low carbing? That's rubbish. How can anyone deny a dieting woman a raspberry for gods sake!

Just back from the gym. Very happy. Even with my weekend of alcohol and carbinated drinks I managed to shift 4lbs. That puts me at 17st 9.

Have another big weekend this week for my mates birthday but after that I'm going to properly knuckle under and lay off the booze for a while.

Buffalo, I'm with you on the whole 'screw it, it's such a long road ahead, why am I even bothering?' at the first wobble. I'm also doing the 'one decision at a time' mantra. Every good decision is a step forward in my book. And well done on joining the gym.

Letme, impressive will power, go you!

Rum, yikes, another gym trip - that's just brilliant and a fantastic weight loss too. Go us!

I've had a tricky day - my eldest was rushed into A&E earlier, but thankfully is fine if bloodied and battered. He's fine, but I'm decidedly shaky having seen far more of the inside of his head than I expected to. Eurgh. And my back is giving me so much trouble I could cry. Still focussed on the diet though, carbs will not help my back!

Oh yikes Dreaming poor you and DS! Glad he's ok.

I've asked DH to help me come up with an exercise plan - it will be gentle and gradually increasing in amount. He's also suggested that I ask the GP for a gym referral as apparently I may be able to get some free personal training because it's for health reasons.

In other news, my homemade chili was soooo worth the wait. YUM.

Well, I managed 10,000 steps. And garmin informs me that I have stayed within 1200 calories.

Am going to weatherspoons for lunch tomorrow though, which is a bit . Any suggestions?

We are staying with Mum at the moment. Today she fed me porridge for breakfast, pancakes for lunch (with tuna and lemon juice) and macaroni cheese for tea.

Beige food sucks cock big time, if I'm dieting I need flavour! Give me some spices woman, please!

Ah, I love Wetherspoons. I tend to think if I'm going out for a meal, I may as well have something I really love and not worry about it. Maybe that's a mistake though! I do seem to remember they have some low-calorie menu options anyway.

Food for today

• One kiwi
• Chocolate croissant
• Small handful of crisps
• Two thirds of a can of Dr Pepper
• Small bowl of leek and potato soup
• Can of Dr Pepper
• Two chocolate mini muffins
• Satsuma
• Scone with clotted cream and raspberry spread
• Chili con carne with rice and broccoli
• Chocolate ice cream
• 500ml water

That's an awful lot of snacks... and that's less than normal. At least the meals were both home made and decent. And there were many, many times when I automatically headed for the kitchen for food, but didn't.

I also need to start drinking water earlier in the day tomorrow. My specialist told me to aim for 3 litres a day! It's because I caved and bought that pesky Dr Pepper. I do actually really like drinking water (especially from the filter bottle) but if there's anything more interesting around I'll glug the lot.

Thank you rum, buffalo and dreaming yeah if you follow BIWI's low carb boot camp they're banned for the first two weeks! But after that you can introduce the lower carb fruits (I found a list online and saved it to my phone for future reference )

I definitely need to give up all obvious sugar (sweets, chocolate, puddings) because I can never get a small bar or have a few pieces. It's a huge bar because i make it into an occasion. If I'm out with DD I get sweets and chocolate by the boatload and as soon as she's down for a nap I scoff it because its my "down time"

Rum well done on the 4lbs loss, that's fab! I'm jealous of your will power to exercise!

Buffalo I'm the same. If I cheat I think "screw it I'll start again tomorrow" and then I don't start again. And then I gain everything I've lost plus a little more. In the past year I've probably put on 2 and a half stone doing that.

Dreaming I hope your son gets better soon! And well done on not giving in to carbs. They're so convenient to turn to for a quick burst of energy, grabbing something healthy is such a faff at times!

Morning! Another day to enjoy :-) I'm off to have lunch with my sister, so will definitely get 10,000 steps in as I have to walk to the station, then to her office and the return journey, about 4 miles in total I guess. With three children who are overexcited to see their aunt!

Weatherspoons - I've had a look at the menu online and there seems to be a fair bit on the under 500 calories section, but I think I'm going to go for something that is about 750 as I will be walking a lot.

I have decided to treat each day as a new diet, instead of thinking of myself as being on a continuous diet, which I always fail at... So today I have planned muesli with fruit, noodles for lunch. Probably sausages for tea with the kids and then drinks with both my sisters.

Hope you all have a good day and the rain isn't too bad...

Oh, and I got my MFP user name wrong upthread. I'm mysk_girl if anyone wants to add me :-)

Hello, can I join please!

Just come back from holiday on Saturday and put on an astronomical weight amount.... in just one week.

I am 5'4 and weigh 13stone 10lbs.
Size 18.
I have put on about 3 stone in the last couple of years

I go away abroad with just my partner in October and really want to look and feel sexy comfortable. xx

Hi all, I'd like to join! It's my ds's birthday today and we are going away on holiday tomorrow, so marking my place. I lost about 2 stone on a weight loss thread on mn a few years ago, it was successful sharing with each other, and the support really helped. Although I've put it back on and another stone. I am 5.5" and 14 stone, my BMI says 10 stone 10 for the top weight withint my range, but 11.5 stone would be good.

I am doing Jillian Michael's 30 day shred. Anyone do this? I'm planning on having a very healthy diet and plenty of exercise. I find it so difficult to stick to a plan.

warednessofthenorth I'd agree with you about BMI, my dd, only 10, got on the wifit and it said she is at risk of overweight I'd like to throw the thing out, she is a gymnast, netballer, always on the go. A slim girl with a lot of muscle!

Morning all, and welcome to Jess and Crumb (how I love your name!),

Well, I weighed in and I've lost 4lbs, which I'm a little disappointed about as I'd hoped for more, especially as the scales showed 6lbs off a couple of days ago, but hey, the scales are moving downwards which I'll take for now.

My son's doing well, thanks all. Bruised and battered but in one piece thankfully. My back is dreadful so it's preventing me hitting the gym (please note - 'hitting the gym' can be loosely interpreted as going to the gym, walking for a bit on the treadmill 'til I get rather warm, then cycling until it hurts my backside, and then swimming like a nanna in the pool for half an hour) which is frustrating as I know it'll help speed things up.

Hope everyone's doing well today and still super focussed? Letme, you and I could be the same person with our attitude to sweets and how we deserve them during our 'downtime' (though sadly, downtime is something I'm always desperately searching for), but interestingly, I've not craved anything sweet until this morning. I've promised myself I can have lots of sweet things when I'm happier with the numbers on the scales and so far that rationale is working...

Socks, have a fab time with your sister, and bravo for the walk. Enjoy your well-earnt lunch!

Reading what you wrote about sweets was like it came from my own head letme.

Socks I like the idea of every day being a new diet day, rather than one hard slog. Someone mentioned the 'no S' diet upthread and I've been keeping that in mind too.

Feeling very positive today, like this time is going to be the one that works! We get married next year and would like to TTC soon after we're married so I'm definitely with you on wanting to lose weight before pregnancy again fuzz, you never know, if we do well here we could graduate from the weight loss thread to an antenatal thread together

DD is napping, prime snacking time for me so I downed a glass of water and made a cup of tea. Today is going to be a winning day.

Salacious that's why I don't like BMI. My niece is a gymnast and she once got on the scales and deemed herself fat. She has the most incredible six pack and amazing upper body strength but she just saw the numbers on the scale and looked up what was normal. Her friends weigh less than her but it's because she has muscle. It's so sad and I wish she would understand.

Stayed within a reasonable calorie range even with a takeaway again. Filling up on eggs and tuna works well at the moment.

I'm off to the supermarket soon to stock up on lots of protein. I dreamt about vanilla crown pastries last night and giant blocks of chocolate. It's like a weird little daydream thing I do where I think of all the good I would eat if I had a day where calories didn't exist. I think I may have deep rooted problems!

Have a great day everyone.

Just found this thread, is it OK if I get on board please? I am 58 years old, 5ft 4ins and weigh 13st 2lb according to the nurse who weighed me when I had my hospital appointment last week. So fed up of feeling uncomfortable and looking vile. Lots of not very nice stuff going on in my life right now with my own and DH health, so losing some weight might help there and if nothing else I might feel a bit happier if I felt in control of at least one thing in my life. I have a fitbit so will get back to using that, find it hard to add foods and watch the calories on it tho as I cook from scratch so no easy way to work out the calorie intake of a helping.

I seem to remember that when I used my fitbit before (over a year ago now) there was a better web site that made it easier to add food intake to than the fitbit site or fitbit app and which would sync withthe fitbit stats. Wish I could remember what it was.

gbuk, could it be my fitness pal?