New Mums: Pre-diet we had pride, now we want new bodies!

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Here we go again!

Ok it's the magic thread where we find inspiration, motivation and actually see the results we want and manage to hold on to them once we get them.

No more excuses (unless they are hilarious or necessary).

Welcome all!

Well I did the only thing I could do - damage limitation. So fasted today but slightly over at 600 cals. Also went for a run and managed to walk (combined with run) 10k.

I am determined last fat holiday! Will pm, slightly paranoid am making myself too distinguishable ! Work colleagues know am always on diet and where going on holiday, just in case anyone else reads this...

Re hair : are you going for the tousled look?
I've got a few products from here:
www.livingproof.com/get-the-look/smooth-waves#gtla

I am feeling really hormonal (more so than usual) wondering if I could be peri menopausal ??

cross post with Sol holding hand back.

There must be something we can do to make dieting easier.

green I think its just the fact I keep dipping in and out of the diet and I cannot keep my hands off carbs :)

work is always full of food but I will be strong and I hope I will be to busy to snack :)

how does your body feel today? did you manage to do the exercise? did you manage to put up the ikea bits and sort out DC's bedrooms?

I have a babyliss big hair but for the life of me have no idea how to use it. I watch endless youtube videos but i still cannot do it.

beyond please do not apologies for you last post.....have you not read mine recently :) where are you going on holiday?

another day off diet. I need to focus and get back on track. My problem isnt exercise its my relationship with food.

hahaha also cross posted with sol and Beyond

sol I am with you with the cursing. I think I am always going to be fat.

We all seem to be the same ish.... We somehow need to get our heads rounds this.... I have been dieting on and off for more than 20 years and it just has to stop.

I couldn't get to grips with the big hair either Rachey I just use my straighteners and am stuck in a style rut.

I can feel new motivation coming out of our despondence

We all need some sort of group therapy! Maybe we should all join Overeaters anonymous! (I should also join AA).

I've swore loads today Sol. No children around, it was great! Sorry you are feeling down though.

Don't mention menopause Beyond. My mother keeps kindly mentioning that she started early

I would like the tousled hair look. I think I'm expecting too much really. I think I need to just get up earlier every morning and do my hair properly. I will look at the Living proof, thanks. I have so much hair stuff, that's why I'm going to go through it all again first.

I have a Big Hair. I think it's quite good, but not amazing. I'm quite good at blow drying my hair anyway, it's just curling it that I can't be bothered with.

I felt okay today Rachey. I was pretty busy. We got the IKEA stuff put up and everything sorted out. Plus I checked the IKEA website and I can get smaller stuff delivered for £7.50! (I need more boxes)

I'm not as stiff today. I'm going to try to exercise again tomorrow.

I did okay on food today until I started drinking wine. So I've ate some sweets I bought for party bags. I'm also going to be fat forever.

I'm trying to have a fast day, but. Now want of stuff my face. I'm stuck under a sleeping child at the moment.

Haven't done anymore exercise. Yesterday was a good diet day.

How are you all doing? Did you go back to work today Rachey? If so how was it?

Hello everyone,

Hope the weekend improved. I tried to fast today but have done about 600 cals. Weighed in this morning and have lost a further 2lbs.

Hope work went well Rachey
How are you Sol
Don't give up on your fast day now Green Also well done on your good diet Sunday :)

Hi. How did your fast day go Green?

Congratulations on your weightloss Beyond, you are doing so brilliantly. Yay!

I ordered some Exante bits today. I need to remove food from my mind at the moment. I have being doing some serious emotional eating of late and it has to stop - actually it has to not start! My plan is to eat Exante every other day and try to low-carb and keep my cals under 1500 per day on my days off. I feel very disheartened but I'm hoping that I can get down to the 12's and then figure out what the hell to do.

I was thinking that I would buy some new clothes but there's no point if I am so miserable at this size. So I will make-do until I am at least a size 14.

Sorry for the depressing post.

Good plan Sol I was thinking about our thread today and emotional eating. Seems we all have triggers :(

Could you buy a couple of things to give yourself a little boost. Might make you feel better about yourself? maybe a couple of tops, they wouldn't cost much.....

Lots of sales on at the mo: Oasis, new look, M and S....

Morning all,

Thought I'd sneak in a quick post before work :)

beyond congrats another loss :) that must be nearly half a stone in 3/4 weeks? Well done on a good fast day. Can u send some motivation my way I need it :)

green did you complete you fast day? I'm pretty sure dc help by sleeping in you. :) I love the sound of your hair, I used the hairdryer at the gym last night and it was amazing but I couldn't find the brand as it had rubbed off it was bright pink and a professional one. :( I think I should invest in a new hair dryer.

sol I agree with beyond buy a couple off tops nothing to extravagant just to make yourself feel better. Maybe a nice shirt?

Thanks all work was like i have never been away. Busy, crazy but at least I didn't snack :) but when I got home I had toast and 5 rice cakes as I had a bad headache. I then fed ds2 and headed to the gym, wasn't really feeling it but after the adrenaline kicked in I was fine.

Work sounds like a great distraction Rachey. I bet you burned off all of the toast and rice cakes at the gym. Fair play to you for heading to the gym after a full days work, you are so dedicated.

I had a look online at the clothes sales Beyond, but I think I might buy some clothes in a 14 to motivate my fat arse. I am a 16 at the moment but my clothes have been worn to death and if I'm honest I am kind of sick of wearing them. Exante helped me lose 20 lbs last year and I know I can do it again.

And as for triggers, God, I have so many. We are under a huge amount of stress at the moment, we've had births, marriages and a whole load of deaths in the last 12 months as well as financial woes. I know it's the same stuff everyone has to deal with but I deal with it by eating. In one way I'm glad it's eating as opposed to drink or drugs but I am definitely harming my health by not taking care of myself properly.

However, I feel more positive today and I'm having a fast day today and another on Thursday so at least I'm keeping going. That's one thing I have to say about this thread, the lack of judgement and unending support is really lovely. Thanks!

Here's to skinnier and more positive days ahead!

Oh dear my quick sneaky post before work is riddled with grammar errors

I second what sol says this thread is really helping with motivation, non judgment support and help. I know I joined the party late but it's really helped off loading to you guys. Oh doesn't understand as he is like "your fine as you are" and my rlf are all like "you don't need to lose anymore weight".

sol I really hope this is the year for you, where you can spend a bit of time on yourself.

To me weight is just a number it's how I feel within myself. Just dressing up for work is making me feel better, it's a shame when the clothes come off its a different story :)

Hope u all have a good day

Sol I honestly think you are doing so well even attempting to lose weight with all that stress. I'm going to continue to hold your hand and at some point we'll be skinny and just gorgeous {grin} I love what you said re holding hands, potentially in new thread title maybe? I agree, this thread is very friendly and supportive and I think it's been going 4 1/2 years... (I think I'm about the same weight ! Although here was a little bundle (DD) in-between.
Glad you feel more positive, I think the quick loss you'll get with exante will help get you back on track. Good luck on your fast day.

What clothes are you looking for, I'm going to have a google.

Rachey I am amazed and in awe that you went to the gym. That's real dedication. I've got an eta hairdryer which is quite good, but I am thinking of getting a parlux at some point, they have really good reviews.

Green is DD still asleep on you? When are you fasting this week? I doing Wed/Thurs (easier when at work).

I'm really going to try not to put loads of weight back on while on holiday. I hope to lose another 3lbs before we go, which would mean another stone to goal weight, but I know in reality, wine and cake will be consumed and I'll come back half a stone heavier. What I need to so is get straight back on the diet and not comfort eat. I feel quite hormonal at the mo, not sure if it's because we've not had a holiday for over a year or a mixture of work stress and tiredness. I hate feeling so negative and stressed though.
I've lost track of weight loss, it's started off really slowly, this morning I was 11 stone. Would really like to be in 10's ! However, all my weight is still on my stomach and I look pregnant and very wobbly (as DD tells me, wobbly while pointing at tummy!).

The child was put to bed and then I ate some cheese and crackers, so another fail.

11 stone is brilliant Beyond. You've done so well this year. Just enjoy your holiday, you seem to have a good routine going on now so you'll probably lose any weight quite quickly. I bet you look skinny, I'm very jealous.

I seem to manage a fast day okay on a Thursday, but Monday's are proving to be difficult. I might try a Tuesday in future (in fact today can be one now as I haven't ate yet).

I'm glad work was okay Rachey. I'm impressed that you went to the gym too. I bought the Body coach book yesterday, so I'm going to have a flick through later.

Get yourself a few nice things to wear Sol. I've done the whole 'I'll just make do till I'm not so fat' and it makes things worse. When I think about it, it seems like I was punishing myself for putting on weight.
You'll feel much better about yourself. Can you get to the shops to try things on? H&M is my favourite for tops, and you've mentioned Penny's/Primark?

I'm feeling very sorry for myself today. It will be too much of an essay to write about, so I'm going to tidy up (again) and try to convince myself to exercise.

beyond 11st is amazing you are doing such a great job.

Exercise isn't my problem, I quite enjoy it it's a shame it's 80% what we eat and 20% exercise as I would do well in a diet :)

Maybe allow yourself to relax while on holiday then get straight back on the diet? Sorry ur feeling some hormonal, maybe a holiday is just what you need?!?

green please don't beat yourself up. Write yesterday off. Did you manage a fast day? How was the tidying up did it take ur mind off everything?

sol how is ur day going/gone?

I'm heading home after a busy day at work. I'm slightly over whelmed by the list of projects that I have delegated.

I managed to resist the croissants and brownies in the meeting today and just ate blueberries. Lunch was brought in and I opted for the chicken and veg broth which was delish but I had a bread roll oh well I'm just proud that I didn't eat the very bad stuff :)

Salmon stir fry tonight with courgette noodles. Looking forward to getting in pjs.

Beyond you are doing so well, so proud of you for getting to 11 stone. You must be absolutely delighted. I agree with taking some time off during your holiday, even try and make healthy choices when you want but try not to put yourself under pressure.

Well done for avoiding the junk food Rachey - you should be proud of yourself. I know what you mean about it being nice to dress up for work, I love wearing "grown up" clothes when I go to work.

Feel free to vent Green, I'm sorry you're feeling a bit shit, but I really understand. It is incredibly hard to stay motivated, how did you manage with your fast day? I think I will take your advice and buy some cheap tops from Penneys, a few shirts and plain tops to wear to work. I have been bundled up all Winter but I need to look professional.

My day was a write off as I succumbed to mac and cheese for dinner and I've just had a bag of crisps. I had a full on day but I'm counting down the days until my Exante gets here. I'm feeling really inspired by your stories Rachey and Beyond, you're both doing so well.

I was also reading the Kim Kardashian thread and they were talking about the fat transfers they do, they take fat from one place and add it to another - so from belly to arse. And I had a brilliant idea that will make us all rich. We eat like piggies, the Kardashians pay us for our fat, suck it out and add it to their backsides. We would be getting paid to be fat while remaining thin, how cool would that be? We will be millionaires!!!!

2lb on . Right I need to get my act together, although I better start tomorrow as I have a Birthday tea to go to tonight. Off to the hairdressers soon and we have a parents evening too, so hopefully there won't be too much opportunity to stuff my face.

Hope you are all having a good day.

Are you getting your hair chopped tonight Green? I cut mine on Sunday and graduated the fringe at the front and it looks really nice. I hope you have a nice night at your birthday tea.

My day was fairly hectic, it was the last day of term so lots to do and with St. Patrick's Day tomorrow the kids had to be dolled up in green for a ceili in school (I can't figure out how to fada's on my laptop). I'm glad the kids have 2 and a half weeks off so we can just all chill out for a bit and I can organise the house and we can work on the garden.

I got it cut this afternoon Sol. I wish I was brave enough to cut it myself. Yours sounds really nice. Which dye do you use? Mine is quite greasy at the moment and the hairdresser said a semi permanent will help. I normally use Castings or L'oreal. Just wondering if you have any advice. She used the GHD curl wand. I want one now.

Birthday tea was nice. Parents evening was good, DD is making good progress.

St Patrick's day sounds like fun. It's some sort of sports relief on Friday, but no one knows quite what's going on. (They can dress as a sports person. But we don't really have sporty things)
Our school breaks up next Wednesday. I like it when there is no school.
I hope you have a nice break. Are you off work too?
I need to think about gardening and painting the house.

Yes, I'm off work for the next few weeks. I am really looking forward to it. There's so much stuff that needs to be done around here, I think the Spring brings out some sort of home do-er upper monster in me once the sun starts shining.

I'm not sure what sort of dye I use - to be honest I usually choose a colour I like and buy it. I'm not at all brand loyal so it's all about the colour, I allergy test every time though.

That's great that your daughter is doing so well in school. You must be delighted, it's always good to hear that your kids are doing so well.

Hope you had a good St Patrick day sol? You hair sounds nice, did you used to be a hairdresser? Or just v good at cutting hair?

green glad dd parents evening went well. Are u pleased with ur hair cut?

beyond how are you getting on?

I weighed myself and I have gone back up to 10st 11lbs :( I need to focus and stop snacking while cooking

What are you snacking on Rachey? I pick at the kids food constantly and then eat all of my own, so while I can offer no advice I know where you are coming from. How is your exercise going?

No I was never a hairdresser, I just feel brave some days and I just chop lots of bits and pieces off and work it into a style. Hairdressers always make a mess of my hair because it curls as it dries and they never pay attention and it ends up way shorter than I wanted it. It needs to be cut when it's dry so I can see exactly how short it will be. The front pieces of my hair are to my jaw and then I pin the bits at the back so it's like a faux graduated bob. I plan on getting an actual graduated bob when I get skinny.

Had a very chilled out Paddy's Day. Visited some family and then home to do some gardening - very unlike my pre-children Patrick's Day.

sol I bet........I've celebrated a fair few paddy days with some Irish and wow do they know how to celebrate

I wish I had your confidence with hair and styling, before I had my hair cut I was stuck in a rut. I'm glad I chopped it all off, I have had lots of positive compliments which I'm surprised as I thought most would think it was too drastic. And with clothes.......I've been wearing the same style for years. I keep telling myself when I'm skinny I will change but I never get skinny :)

I'm with you on the eating dc's food I make them a cheese spread sandwich and nibble the left overs I also eat dinner left overs...........I hate waste I'm like a bin.

Exercise is going well I see more muscle definition on arms, legs, chest and back but my tummy is very out of proportion I look pregnant. (But not the nice way)

Do u have any nice plans for the holidays apart from all the sorting out?