New Mums: Pre-diet we had pride, now we want new bodies!

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Here we go again!

Ok it's the magic thread where we find inspiration, motivation and actually see the results we want and manage to hold on to them once we get them.

No more excuses (unless they are hilarious or necessary).

Welcome all!

evening all,

sol I didnt know either, he includes links to websites that show you how to do the lift/exercise. Glad mondays fast day went well. is tomorrow another fast day? how come ds1 was up all last night? must have been something in the water as ds2 was very unsettled and ended up in our bed at 3am as I was fed up with trying to feed him to sleep.

Down the high street which is a 5 min walk from home is a burger king, maccy d's, KFC, subway and greggs. its so hard walking down the street when im so hungry.

green Im with you on the instant results. I lose interest if I cannot see a change. did you manage to get rid of the dress? I have got rid of all my clothes that no longer fit, even if I still like them, which I found hard. You do so well to have all these big sort outs. My house is full of crap everywhere, It winds me up as I seem to just move stuff about rather than tidy up.

Your dream does sound awful. I look at his pictures also, you will never see any of me up there. I dont feel my results are nearly half as good as the ones on his site.

beyond how was your day with DD? You are doing so well with all your running. I cannot run to save my life. do you give all your books to charity? I got rid of a load before we brought our house. I dont really have time to read anymore which is a shame.

dc's are settling in well at nursery not many tears with ds1 and ds2 you would think has been there since he was born. my legs are really hurting today after my leg work out, im struggling to walk up and down stairs.

hope you all have a great evening.

Glad to hear your DS's are settling in to nursery well. Sorry to hear about the sore legs, I had to bump down the stairs on my bum after doing the shred.

Fast Day number 2 today. Feeling great and have a really busy day today so I'm hoping snacking will be avoided. Right, off to do the grocery shopping which might be a bad idea on a fast day.

Sore legs are easing up thanks sol I should have bumped down the stairs thou would have made life easier :)

glad your feeling great, whats on the menu for todays fast day? Im having a new boiler so the kitchen is out of bounds so I went to the gym and met my sister for lunch. Went to a turkish cafe and had chicken cooked with peppers, onions and tomatoes with rice it was delish and everything that I am allowed on the plan which is a bonus as I didnt feel guilty eating it.

How did your grocery shop go? I do a big online shop once a week and then buy fresh fruit and veg through the week I seem to spends so much money rather than one big shop but we run out of fruit and veg so quick. I think it costs more money to eat healthy.

There was nothing exciting on my fast menu today, I had quorn chilli for lunch and soup for dinner. Not at all interesting but I can struggle through and know that I can have something a bit more satisfying tomorrow.

Your lunch sounds gorgeous Rachey but that sounds annoying about your boiler. Well done for resisting a takeaway while your kitchen is out of service, I admire your will power.

The grocery shop was expensive but we have enough food for about 2 weeks apart from fresh fruit and veg. I generally do a top up a few times per week, oh and milk, I don't have room in the fridge for big milk cartons so we end up topping up with them. It definitely costs more to eat healthily, I've started eating quinoa chips and black bean chips instead of crisps but they are 3 euro's per bag! The kids LOVE them which means they trough them, which I don't want to give out to them about - but a bag of cheese puffs is 59 cent.

Well 3lb off yesterday. Which puts my WW running total back to 17lb. Only 1lb of Christmas weight left to lose. (Hopefully I've learnt a lesson about that, but I doubt it)

I probably have another 3 weeks worth of Exante left Sol. Although most of the shakes are out of date, but I've just had one for breakfast and it tasted fine. I'll just take some extra vitamins. I still haven't managed to do it 100%. At the moment it seems to be stopping me from obsessing about food, I've been eating chicken and veg alongside it. I feel that if I can manage till Easter I should be able to get another 7lb off. I'm just going to see how it goes. I have nothing interesting planned till then so I should manage to stay reasonably on track.

My house is full of crap too Rachey. I am such a collector of nice things and a hoarder. I need a kitchen twice the size just for my recent Denby addiction .
I seem to get rid of one lot of clothes and then another lot appears. Someone came this morning and took some children's clothes. Not many but it means I might get rid of the others. They wanted to look round my house and I was thinking 'Nooo, don't go into the kitchen!' (It's all open plan, so they weren't being nosey or anything)
I threw out some old slippers and sandals the other day. I have another pile of shoes ready to sort out.
I haven't thrown the dress away. Im actually wearing it as I was in a rush and it was to hand.
I am going to tackle my bedroom again after this post. My be if I can reach my wardrobe I'll feel more like wearing my nicer clothes instead of hunting through the clean washing pile! P,us if I can get back on track I'll feel more comfortable in most of the clothes anyway. I can't wait till it warms up, it's so cold here at the moment.

I need to go to the supermarket this afternoon. We spend a fortune on food, I really need to run the freezer and cupboards down. I'm just trying to buy fresh stuff this month. It does cost a lot. DD2 is obsessed with fruit, which is great. But she could eat a full punnet of berries at once. If she knows I have them she goes on and on until I give in. DD1 just likes apples and bananas so she is cheaper to feed!

The Turkish lunch sounds so nice. I love that sort of thing. Nothing that exotic around here I'm afraid. Just Italians and Frankie and Bennys and so many Greggs! Unless you venture into the city! (Which I avoid)

Congratulations on the 3 lb loss Green, it sounds like your eating plan is working well. Do you think you could stick with it for 3 weeks? I'll join you with being under 13 stone by May. You sound like you are making progress with clearing out your house, there's no need to do it all at once little and often is the way to do it. I like to chuck out stuff all the time, though I have a huge bag to go to the charity shop but the thoughts of lugging out to the car gives me a headache.

It was a dress up day for DS1 in school as it's world book day, so he went as Harry Potter. It was a very home made look but he was delighted. Having a bit of a shit day as DH went to work with my car keys and I am stuck home until he drops them back. I am fit to murder him. I needed to go to the shop to get some things to start toilet training with DS2 and I can't do it now. Rage rage rage!

I think I have PMT and my mood is not the best. It's a non fast day here so I plan on having some chocolate and a big glass of wine later. I'm going to do another fast day tomorrow and try to make Mon, Weds and Fri fast days part of my routine. I was reading the inspiration thread in the 5:2 section and a woman on it was saying she had to do 3 fast days per week for 6 months as she had a lot of weight to lose and then felt comfortable dropping down to 2. I think that might be the case with me because realistically I have to lose 4 stone. But I find eating this way suits my lifestyle so fingers crossed that in 6 months I will be at least 2 stone down.

Thanks Sol. I hope I can manage for the next few weeks. I've got stuff ready to make some low carb meals at the weekend. If I fancy something sweet I'll have an Exante shake or pudding. I just have to keep away from wine

I got the bedroom partly sorted out and DH has actually spent an hour sorting his stuff out. It really is a tip, everything gets dumped in it. I sorted more shoes to take to the charity shop too. I know what you mean about taking it in and out of the car. So you not get collection bags through the door? We often do, just never when you are ready for one!

Harry Potter sounds fab. I sent 2 princesses off to school and toddlers. Not very imaginative but not worth the argument!

I read some similar stories about fasting. Your routine is sensible, I suppose like any diet it's about planning and prepping? If it suits you it's the way to go. I think that's the hardest part of dieting. I do like Weight Watchers, but at the moment it's too slow. I'll keep going as I have membership till the end of the month.
I feel very confused about dieting etc at the moment.

It would be fab to be 2stone lighter by Autumn.

Congrats on your 3lbs Green Really good progress. Also you are making great progress with your decluttering.

Well done on all your fasting Sol The 3 day fast plan sounds really sensible and I will aim to do it as well. Hope your pmt has eased off.

Glad nursery is going ok rachey your meal out sounded delicious. I'm not a natural runner either, I am finding it really hard work but do feel good afterwards. I do charity shop my books, I have plans to tackle the study and also my clothes and shoes and the DC toys.
I was wondering if we'd like a decluttering aspect to the thread and also a grooming plan to spur us on?

Decluttering: room by room and encouragement to charity shop clothes and shoes (especially the unflattering ones....)
Re Grooming: Maybe simple things like:
2litres water a day
10000 steps
Once a week file nails/ face pack etc

I fasted on Monday and my aim was to fast yesterday but I felt awful with sore throat and head cold. I ended up around 1000 cals. Today I feel even worse and have a fever now, so I've just had some peanut butter on toast for energy.
If I feel better, I will try and fast tomorrow. It's so annoying, I was planning to have a run later.

Wednesday I had some child free hours and went for a run and then shopping. I had such a busy day, according to my fitbit, I burned 2900 cals. I did eat around 1600 though. I am overall having a deficit of around 800-1000 cals per day so you think they weight would be falling off, unfortunately it isn't.

I am definitely taking the M&S coat back, I ended up getting one from joules.

www.joules.com/Women/Jackets-Coats/Olivia/Single-Breasted-Herringbone-Jersey-Blazer/Navy?id=U_OLIVIA|NAVY

it looks good with skinny jeans and think will be much more versatile. I tried on with just a plain T shirt top and jeans and it felt quite smart.
i feel a bit guilty about this next purchase so might take it back. it's quite a lot of money for what is essentially a knitted square....
www.jigsaw-online.com/product/knitted-panel-poncho/J28800_GY002

I also ordered this boden top but it's not arrived yet www.bodenimages.com/productimages/productLarge/16WSUM_WA708_CHM.jpg

DD is watching Bing, I might rally myself to do some colouring with her.
Hope everyone has a good day.

Thanks Beyond. Fingers crossed that I don't go crazy over the weekend.

If you're feeling ill maybe you could take it easy? Peanut butter and toast is a good idea. Have you got some soup or something nice for the rest of the day? It might take afew days for your body to catch up with all the diet and exercise? The only way I see fast results is with low carb starvation!
I hope you feel better soon, try to rest.

I love talking about grooming and de cluttering, so I'm up for that!

I had a big clearout of my beauty stuff last week. I've been terrible for buying products since I had DD2 (I thought it might make me feel better about being fat!). I had lots of items that were gifts with purchases and lipsticks that I'd bought to cheer myself up and I'd not worn them. So I sold them on a beauty forum I go on (I do it every so often, but I was ruthless this time). So that's cheered me up. Ive also sold a pair of shoes that I never wore, but wasn't sure about getting rid of.
I will tackle my clothes at Easter when I have more time.

My DM has offered to babysit next Saturday so I will tackle the DC bedrooms. May as well get rid of some toys before they have Birthdays and get more things!

I love the Joules jacket, I was looking at that one too. I bought a Tommy Hilfiger one the other week. It's slightly tight, but I'm hoping it will fit better soon.

The poncho is really nice. Keep it. Boden top is lovely too.

I can't remember if I actually mentioned that H&M had some jackets similar to the M&S one. They were about £20. They'll probably fall to bits as H&M does, but might be worth looking at if you still like the style. I'll try to link them.

We are watching CBeebies too. I was planning on a walk, but it's horrendous outside. We'll have to get the playdough out.

Tommy jacket www.veryexclusive.co.uk/tommy-hilfiger-okalani-blazer-red/1460165147.prd

H&M www2.hm.com/en_gb/ladies/shop-by-product/jackets-and-coats.html?product-type=ladies_jacketscoats&sort=stock&offset=0&page-size=90

I like your Jacket Green. My jacket is a bit tight too, I think only half a stone tight though which should be manageable. Also thanks for the tip re Flexitol, I bought some and think my arms do look a bit better. That's such a good idea to sell beauty items, I started having a sort out last week and I have some unused clinique lip glosses and chanel lipsticks, maybe I should sell them too. I'm going to tackle my clothes after Easter, We are away in 3 weeks time, (for 2/12 weeks). I am really going to try not to gain loads of weight though).

DD is watching Stuart little, parenting fail here today, we've also just had some goldfish crackers and strawberries so definitely a non diet day. Will have some soup later. I'm feeling bit better, might try and do a mini pedicure, although am sure DD will want to join in.

congrats on the 3lb loss green Im loving the new jacket, its a great length. I have been looking for a new blazer, saw a fab one in John Lewis I think it was reiss but it was so expensive I couldnt bring myself to buy it.

when are you doing the exante? could you do the 5:2, if ww is too slow. Or maybe atkins?

beyond Im very jealous of your and green shopping. I have brought a few items for work but I would never wear them items out. TBH im still in baggy tshirts and jeans due to breastfeeding but once DS2 has stopped I cannot wait to start wearing dress ect.

Are you feeling any better? wednesday sounds like a great day. i hope you feel better for tomorrow's fast day. I love the joules jacket, I agree will look amazing with skinny jeans. The poncho is very nice also.

sol did you manage to get out and buy the potty training gear? did you enjoy the wine and chocolate? I now have a craving for red wine and green and blacks. Has the PMT lifted?

I think we should include decluttering and grooming. I am very bad at grooming. I get waxed every 4 weeks and eyebrows threaded every 2/3 but thats it. I need to spend time on skin care ect.

DS1 is having a bad few days. He has started holding his poo in again and when he does poo it little rabbit droppings that are making his bottom very sore. its heartbreaking and frustrating at the same time. We wanted to start potty training soon but this has really set us back.

Im so over dieting at the moment, I just have to focus and stopping picking at food.

hope you all have a great mothers day. I have my parents and in-laws coming over for afternoon tea.

i have a confession.......
the day started well, healthy breakfast and an apple for a snack then I waited too longer for lunch as I was running about I ended up snacking. thought I would redeem myself with a healthy dinner........I end up spending all afternoon in the kitchen baking brownies, cupcakes and granola. Gets to dinner time I cant be arsed with cooking so we got a takeaway

I doubt tomorrow will fare any better. Hope you guys have a great evening.

It's just a body diet fooling day rachey don't worry about it, you re doing brilliantly.

Sorry to hear re DS1. Do you go to a constipation clinic? I know it's a fairly common problem in paediatrics. Very stressful and upsetting for you, I hope you are getting support from GP?

I feel almost back to normal, did a run today in the sleet, it was hard work. Also managed a fast day even though picked at a few mini eggs. I am so fed up re lack of weight loss. Maybe I am underestimating my calories?

The Boden top was very shoddily made, so it's been posted straight back. I did get an absolute bargain dress today in Laura Ashley (popped in to look at paint!)
What clothes are you eyeing up for when you stop BF?

Hope you are having good weekends Green and Sol

Hope everyone had a nice mothers day. I was lucky to receive books and 2 homemade cards :)

Just done my face pack and face scrub (while DC were in the bath).
Defuzzed legs this morning
Have filed nails and painted with a sheer pink.
Almost at 2 litres of water
and 11,000 steps walked.
No decluttering managed though.

I am going to try harder on diet this week, I wonder if the little nibbles of things (i.e. odd cashew nut/chocolate button) are sabotaging my weight loss.

Went for a run this morning, not finding week 4 any easier, need to push self at some point an move up to week 5 though.

Thanks beyond
The gp was very casual and said "well his tummy isnt hard" and told me to give him a powder to pit in his drink. He isnt stupid and is now refusing to drink fruitshoots and chocolate milk which is what we hid it in (its quite strong tasting) (these drinks were just a treat)

yesterday we gave him prunes and califig then last night he was hysterical and within 10 mins he did the biggest poo. poor little man, took ages to calm him down. Im just going to keep trying the califig and prunes.

Well done for going on a run two days in a row. nibbling, that is my downfall. How are you tracking your cal intake?

I have had a bad day diet wise. I went to the gym and got back and ate an apple. then inlaws and parents came round for afternoon tea where I stuffed my face......actually Im still stuffing my face. I think i need to go to bed to stop this madness.

rachey asked to be referred to a general paediatrician. It's a very common problem with children and there are clinics which are attended by play specialists, dieticians and nursing and medical teams and who can provide a lot of support and advice.

Well done on going to the gym. I love afternoon tea.
I tried on loads of clothes this morning - still fat !

Hi all,

I hope everyone had a lovely Mother's Day. It was a quiet one here but lovely all the same. We went to the playground for the morning and then settled down in front of the fire and watched movies and ate delicious food from M&S. Not a bad way to spend a Sunday. I haven't dared step on the scales, I'm hoping my fast days will undo any damage - 3 this week and weigh in on Friday. Going to try and stick to 1200 cals on non fast days as the weightloss is painfully slow.

I hope your DS is feeling better Rachey, is there anything in his diet causing his constipation? DS2 can't have bananas because they constipate him very badly (MIL gave him 2 huge ones on Friday and he hasn't pooed since, he's in a lot of pain with wind and needing to poo. I could kill her). I would push for an appointment with a specialist if it's a long term problem.

Very jealous of all your lovely clothes Beyond. I've vowed not to buy anything until the weather warms up, I'll need new work clothes. And you are doing amazingly with your running. Do you feel your fitness has improved? Where are you off to on holiday?

How goes Exante Green, did you take Mother's Day off? You sound like you're on a clear-out mission, it gets addictive doesn't it. You'll get so much done if you don't have the kids hanging around "helping", I like to put on loud music and bop around while I'm cleaning, it makes it tolerable if I get to sing along badly (it's not tolerable for anyone else though

I didn't have a great weekend food-wise. I had the TOTM from hell and generally felt under the weather. I'm finding it hard that I work part time and still seem to responsible for absolutely everything to do with the house and the kids. I never get a second to myself and I'm always on the go, I think it just got me down because I had dreadful cramps and sickness but was expected to soldier on. DH had man-flu over the weekend and tried to slink off to bed on Saturday afternoon, to say he was promptly murdered would be an understatement. I also got home from work on Friday and MIL had fed DS2 stuff he can't eat and had let the kids eat lunch upstairs, so I've been picking yoghurt and mushed sandwiches out of the bedroom carpets all weekend. She didn't do it to annoy me or anything, but it was just the topping on the shit cake that was Friday.

Sorry for the self indulgent rant. I'll try to be more positive!

Really struggled today. Came in at about 900-1000 cals. I spent a while this afternoon wondering if I should just give in and be fat. But I thought that actually I will regret wasting my 30's in baggy clothes and being over weight, so I will try harder for the rest of the week.

Sol I have that conversation with myself loads, but the truth is I like being thinner, wearing nicer clothes and I want to be healthy for DC. 1000 cals is great anyway. Hope the TOTM ails are easing. I completely understand the rant - lots of sympathy from me.
Is there any way at all you could find a couple of hours for you?

You are right Beyond, I will be happier thinner. I was thinner last summer and I need to get back to that. I was catching up on my celebrity telly and was watching Keeping up with the Kardashians and Kourtney Kardashian looks amazing - I want my body to look like hers and realistically that's not going to happen just by watching her show, sadly.

I was awake a lot last night with DS2 and I was thinking of re-starting The Shred, but will I be setting myself up to fail? Should I start with an easier dvd? There's no time for me at the moment but next week the kids are on holidays from school so although I won't be alone at all, my schedule will definitely be less hectic. How do you balance work and home life Beyond? I seem to be mismanaging it somehow.

morning all,

sol Rant away. Please dont be so hard on yourself, you are doing a great job. Glad you had a good mothers day, I love M&S food. I hope the PMT has lifted? Naughty MIL. I hate people eating in bedrooms ect. I hate it when ds1 brings his snacks into the kids play room as he is soooo messy. Hope ds2 is feeling better and has pooed.

900/1000 cals is amazing its so hard to reduce cals intake. are you using MFP to track? Kourtney Kardsahian has all the money and help in the world to look that great, thats why we have totally unrealistic expectations of ourselves after having babies.

beyond How are you getting on? I called the GP and I need to call on the day to get an appointment......so frustrating.

green how are you getting on?

WARNING DEPRESSING POST

I am really struggling at present, I dont think it helps that my top half (chest and up) and bottom half (breast and below) do not match. I look like two different people. I have collar bones ect now and my cheek bones are very visible now and if it were just my top half I would be very happy. But my boobs are so saggy and my tummy is like something out of a horror movie. its bulging and wrinkly where I have no muscle tone. It makes me so sad to get naked.

I weighed myself before is stuffed my pie hole on sunday and was 10st 10lb which I wont be now after the 2x scones and clotted cream and endless white bread and sandwich fillings. Oh and two cupcakes on sunday. I have zero self control.

this is my last week before I go back to work after mat leave. Ds1 and 2 are in nursery so I have the day to myself. I am about to head into town to look for the vest top things you were talking about sol and I need veg. I think ds2 is teething very unsettled 2 nights and he has slept with us. We have a kingsize and we still managed to sleep on the edge of the bed while ds2 was diagonal. DS1 was up at 4am and Oh got up with him as I was up 4 times with ds2. Im very lucky that oh is very hands on.

hope you all have a nice (cold) day :)

Hi everyone,

I gave in Saturday night and ordered a curry. Then I stuffed my face on Sunday at a Birthday party. I tried to get back onto the Exante yesterday, but I'm not feeling much love for it! Back to food again tomorrow.

I've just signed up to 'getfitwithdavina.com' . It is free for a 4 weeks. It has three workouts on everyday (7min each). I plan to start them on Thursday.
Not sure about dieting. Kind of want to give WW a proper try again, but I also want to try 5:2.

I better go and start feeding the children. I'll try to come back later tonight.

Grr - just wrote massive post and won't let me post!