Something has got to change...

[ChesterDrawers]

...but I don't know what.

I am sick of being on a diet, off a diet, on another diet, off that diet to, ad infinitum.

I desperately need to lose the two stone I put on while pregnant four years ago, but I can't seem to stick to anything. I am currently falling off the slimming world wagon, having previously tried most things out there - WW, low carb in various guises, hypno, cal counting...

Not sure what I hope to gain from posting this. I am just so fed up of it all and so fed up of being fat and needed somewhere to rant.

As you were.

I've just seen this and it sums up how I'm feeling at the moment. At one point I was planning on following slimming world, low carbing and adding in a couple of fast days! But I can't live like this nor do I want to. I just don't know how to eat properly anymore. I think I need to address my emotional eating.....when I'm bored, fed up, angry, sad, happy and celebrating...any reason apart from actual hunger!

So, I think I'm going to try no snacking between meals, sensible meals and portion sizes and start exercising again. I've got 3stone to lose and need to address it. I don't want to do the ice bucket challenge as I'm scared of people on fb seeing how fat I've got. This is no way to live

Have just realised I have no scales! So I will start tomorrow but will only be able to weigh in once I have got my scales again!

Regardless of which method of bringing your eating under control you choose, there are a couple of home truths that need to internalised to make it work ...

LOSING WEIGHT WITH A DIET

As an adult a person has a pattern of eating ( method z ) that results in them being overweight (at size a )
They go on a diet restricting calories all the time ( method y ) until they get down to "target weight" ( size b ) and then they come "off the diet" and rapidly return eating as per method z and hence size a

But actually "diet" just means "what you eat"
So you need to eat the right amount to stay stable at size b for ever ( method x ).
By chance, if you are starting from size a eating method x you will lose weight.
But because method x is nice : healthy meals, no excessive restriction, it becomes the new normal and you stay at size b for the rest of your life

If you see what I mean

Also, a rumbly tummy is nothing to be scared of.

Learn to have gaps between eating / drinking : ideally no snacks at all and closing the kitchen after supper.
You need to teach your body to burn up the 10,000 calories it has stored on the back of your hips and not replace them.

Chicaboo - I'm SO with you on the emotional eating front. Seriously need to break the cycle. Talkinpeace - so sensible.

I've just joined-up to MyFitnessPal to have a record of the calories I am / should be consuming. I started my "diet" today, and alarmed at how little food adds up the calories. No wonder I have over 2 stone to loose. I have been in denial for too long and this is just the kick-up-the-cellulite I need.

I'm 5ft 6 & weigh-in this morning at a horrifying 12 stone 12. There. Fessed up!

Myfitnesspal is great
set it to not lose weight at all .... just log what you are eating : every single morsel that you eat and drink
even that HUGE bar of chocolate at 11pm after a row

because the ONLY way to get a happy relationship with food is to understand what you are consuming
and then decide which bits of it you would be happier without

Talkinpeace thank you for your input, your approach is refreshing and you seem to be in a place I would love to be.

I feel that sensible meals and no snacks is a great way to go BUT after 'dieting' for so many years I genuinely don't know what healthy eating is. Is it low fat, low cal, low carb, or something else entirely??? That's where I get unstuck and if you read my OP I think that comes through.

And that's still where I am - I know I want/need to lose weight but I don't know HOW to do it.

Not sure what tomorrow will hold

Had a fairly good day today. Started 5:2 a week ago and had no loss (time of month though too!)

Today I'm 11.12 at 5ft 5

(Damn was 10.5 in 2010 after a baby!!)

I'm 100% on this with you all.

chesterdrawers
Eat whatever you want.
Ignore all the low this ~ reduced that ~ mix with the other stuff

Just log exactly what you eat on MFP : be ruthlessly honest with yourself
and when you finish a meal, see how long you can go on just drinking water or tea till the next one.
let your body realise that it has nothing to fear from a bit of hunger

then bit by bit you'll start to spot the foods and drinks that make you feel worse not better
and start cutting back on them

stop listening to the food industry and listen to your body - it wants to be healthy

Talk in peace - you speak a lot of sense. Like others here I seem to have lost sight of what is "healthy". I've never been a normal weight as an adult. I seemed to hit puberty and then just keep growing....outwards that is.

I just want to get to a healthy weight and stay there, rather than losing a couple of stone, getting to within a stone of my goal, "coming off the diet" and of course returning to my starting weight (and then some).

I wish I could turn the clock back and start again in many ways. I don't want this for DD so want to sort myself out now to teach her good habits and to have a healthy relationship with food.

I'm up for posting starting weights then if others are....eek.

I'm doing 5 2 and bizarrely my non fast days are very lean as my appetite has waned. I wonder if this is because I've cut lots of carbs. I'm. Amazed. Hoping to continue with 5 2 and low carbing although I have 3 days this week away or at family parties!

Definitely up for posting starting weights. Only because mn is anonymous though

See you all tomorrow! Eek!

Start weight is 11 stone 3 so not as bad as I thought it was going to be.

Low carb day planned, although I've not actually shopped as I couldn't get my he'd around what diet I wanted to do still can't. No snacking either and no sugar. Got kettle bells class later too so looking forward to a good start.

Will check in later. Have a good day everyone.

Morning! 5 foot 2 and 12s 1lb. Let's do this. Want to get below 12 next week. Good luck everyone.

Exactly Mint! There is so much conflicting advice, it's so difficult to get your head round it.

I'm not overly keen on fruit so don't mind missing out there, especially now berry season is over. I too am aiming for natural, unprocessed foods, good fats, but without potatoes, rice and pasta, can live without these.

Eggs for breakfast, then will see for the rest of the day.

Where are you btw, considering you've already had lunch?

Shit. 13st 11 and 5ft 4 here. Yikes. Heaviest I've been apart from pregnant and post partum.

I like the idea of clean eating too. I'm vegetarian - no meat, no fish - so need to figure out a way to get all my protein without ginormous amounts of nuts and cheese.

Right - need to think positive. In a few weeks I could be seeing the back of the 13's forever.

Have a great day everyone. Will check back in later.

I feel like a whale compared to you lot! I'm 14st 12lbs. 2 stone is my first target as it will mean I will no longer be obese and will be classed as overweight. Might go to the gym this morning. Am busy today so hopefully food during the day should be ok and I have dinner at home for later. Will also drink lots of water too.

Let's do this!

Weighed in at 11st10, I'm 5ft7.

11st4 is the upper end of my personal idea of my "safe zone" so that will be my 1st target. Also takes me into healthy BMI.

Drinking water at the mo, out for a run in the drizzle shortly.

Hi all! Can I join too. I just wrote down what I had to eat yesterday and I was : winegums, bag of greasy chips and glass of wine!

Wine and lack of exercise are my downfalls but don't have the money for a gym so need to find a cheap way to exercise.

And I need to cut down on drinking, especially late at night as I'm guessing those calories are more likely to stay on.

Can't weigh in as travelling but I think I'm 11 stone, with a BMI just about in the normal rage, but only just!

Sassy -ah yes water! I keep meaning to drink some

Well. 10st13lb. Lighter than I thought but at 4'11, still v v overweight!!

Let's do this!!

Well I've done my weigh in....12.10, and at 5ft 3inches that is far too much. My aim is 2 stone lost by Christmas.

Weigh in based on last known weight.... 14 st 6 lb so kayla you and I are the same as I know I have put some on over the last few weeks. I am 5ft 6 and in the obese category.

God it very sobering to write that down....

Thanks for your input Talkinpeace have you been throught this yourself?
I reckon you could be our drill sergeant!!

Well done all, that's the hard bit not really the hard bit is coming now!