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Will be a size 12 by next summer!!

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ColdFeetWarmHeart · 17/07/2014 13:43

I have just tried to pick up some new summer clothes. Aside from my work clothes I seem to live in jeans and jogging bottoms etc, but its too hot for them though.

Popped into town thinking I'd pick up a maxi dress or two, and some linen trousers/shorts. Tried on a pair of size 20 trousers in Primark and they came nowhere near me!! Sad admittedly primark do come up soon (I am wearing size 18 trousers from George today and they are fine)

Would love to just be able to go into a normal shop, and buy something that fits, without having to walk to a special section. I had a look at the inspire range in New Look today, and its just full of really unflattering tops that all look the same!

Would also be nice to be a bit more comfortable next summer. Feel extra sticky and horrible!!

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ColdFeetWarmHeart · 27/09/2014 22:41

awww that's lovely to hear senatus

I am still here - but have fallen off the wagon somewhat. pizza for dinner, jam doughnut for afters. My excuse is I'm in the middle of a packing nightmare and need the sugar etc. I did have some salad with my pizza though, that's a start!!

Seriously though. I will get back on it when we have moved house and settled in. At the moment everything is up in the air.
People now starting to talk about us having a 2nd DC (not us - family/friends). We would like another one and don't want a massive age gap between the DC's (DD just turned 2), but I can't face falling pregnant when I weigh this much!! I'd hate to think how big I'd be at 9 months pregnant - I wouldn't be able to look after DD properly!!

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SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 28/09/2014 09:05

Moving houses is so stressful - last time we did it I needed the sugar too!

I was overweight at the beginning of my three pregnancies (morbidly obese for DC1) but I didn't put that much weight without really watching what I ate. I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight within a week of giving birth.

I did get SPD with DC2 and it was horrendous - I had to look after a toddler when I couldn't walk without crutches. I don't know if it was weight-related.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 28/09/2014 12:46

there just seems to be so much to do, so little time to do it in, and so little energy to get everything done! I would like nothing more than to spend the whole day sitting on the floor/sofa with DD doing drawings etc, and spending her nap time pampering myself/reading a book........however, if we do that we shall be behind our packing schedule!!

I was overweight when I fell pregnant with DD, but weighed 2st less than I do now. I didn't eat great when I was pregnant - I craved sugar the whole way through. I want to try and get my eating habits sorted out before I fall pregnant again as well.

Another thing I worry about senatus. I have slightly lax joints anyway and when I was pregnant I had a very dodgy hip!! Getting out of bed was really hard as I couldn't swing my leg without being in horrendous pain. And there was no way I could get in and out of the bath/shower without help. I'm sure weight doesn't help with things like that.

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Lioness82 · 30/09/2014 01:03

I'm still here! Overwhelming few weeks at work - I'm gathering co-ordinator roles and additional duties every time I turn around (no employment rights, aiming for full-time permanency, so "no thanks" isn't a particularly wise phrase to utter!). Least I don't have time to snack I suppose.

I'm so glad moving is going ahead coldfeet, no wonder you need sugar though! I hope it goes smoothly.

What a lovely compliment Senatus I hope it made you feel great. Well done on that loss, I can't wait to join you there (76kg drops me into the 'overweight' category instead of 'obese'.. Current bmi is 33.5, so I'm getting there!)

I've lost a bit of motivation recently (what I get for not checking in here I guess!), and was soo hungry last week. Not sure whether it was fending off the cold everyone else had or result of lots of carbs, but I'm back on the wagon this week either way. Colleagues want to do a 5k in December and in my madder moments I think, "definitely! I'm doing this!" Then I remember it's cold and dark and it means getting off my ass and actually running, in public and think, "you know what? I'll cheer from edges." We'll see. I mean, Who wouldn't want to run through the streets of Glasgow, during prime Christmas Shopping season, in a Santa suit?!

SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 30/09/2014 11:02

Hi Lioness82! I agree that running in Scotland in December doesn't sound very appealing.

Here is a before / after. The first photo was taken on July 31st, the second one today. (I swear the room had been tidied in between!)

Will be a size 12 by next summer!!
Will be a size 12 by next summer!!
Lioness82 · 30/09/2014 19:38

That's a great difference Senatus! Well done, you're looking great.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 01/10/2014 00:06

oh senatus you look wonderful! How much have you lost in the 2 months? What have you been doing???!!!! I am hugely envious motivated by your weight loss so far!!!

hope you're not working too hard lioness

spoke to solicitor today - going to have a delay as one set of solicitors seems to find it impossible to answer the phone! I hope that we will have an idea of when we should be moving by the end of this week. In the meantime we plan to spend this weekend chilling out, instead of trying to pack up lots of stuff!! I'm starting to get a bit of a sore throat (always a sign that I am run down), so I reckon I could do with a weekend on the sofa!

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SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 01/10/2014 08:35

Thank you! I don't get any compliments at home, so it is nice to know that it makes a visible difference.

ColdFeet I have lost about 12kg (I think that's about 1st 12lbs), but my weight has been creeping up for a few days without any reason. Angry

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 01/10/2014 11:29

that's not nice Senatus....you really should. You have done so well!! I hope it's that visible when I (eventually) lose nearly 2 stone!!

Weight can go up and down quite inexplicably at times. Try not to get too disheartened, it will start to go back down again

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twobambinos · 02/10/2014 10:47

Sorry to hijack setantus the pics look great. Well done on the weight loss. Do u mind me asking did u get spd just with the second or again with the third? I had it on my second and dreading going again in case I get it.

SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 02/10/2014 13:19

Hi twobambinos
I didn't get SPD for DC3, despite being about the same weight as for DC2 before and during the pregnancy. I was walking several miles uphill when I was 10 days overdue.
It was by far my most enjoyable pregnancy once I had stopped throwing up

twobambinos · 02/10/2014 15:02

Thanks for the reply setantus that is so good to hear. Obviously I know there are no guarantees. I'm trying to get my body as strong as I can anyway and hopefully I wont get it. I don't think its weight related but I'm no expert I was a healthy bmi getting pregnant and I was heavier on my first than my second by about half a stone.

On a side note I cant believe u went 10 days over on no 3. Then again I cant believe I was more overdue on my second than my first. Everyone thought I was a freak ha ha.

twobambinos · 02/10/2014 15:05

And don't get me started on throwing up I had sickness for the whole time. But I would take that over spd. Hillwalking at 9 months pregnant fair play to you tho.

SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 02/10/2014 16:20

I went 12 days over the French limit which is 41 weeks. I refused the induction point blank since DC3 was perfectly healthy (good heart rate, plenty of amniotic fluid, placenta like new). The midwives and obstetricians thought I was unhinged.
I was not having another birth lying on my back with my feet in stirrups, strapped to a monitoring machine. (that's birth in many French hospitals)

twobambinos · 02/10/2014 17:15

So is that 41 plus 5 or 42 plus 5? As long as everything is fine that's the main thing. My mam maintains she was 3 weeks over due with my brother and the size of him he had all the signs of it. I had been given my date for induction I was very upset and two days before it I went myself thankfully I was never so happy to be in pain ??

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 02/10/2014 21:06

How are you getting on today Senatus? I really need to sort myself out. Tempted to say sod the housework/packing tonight and plan my food / diet for the next few days.

I felt awful earlier. DH and I took DD out to nearby farm attraction for the afternoon. Had a lovely time patting the horses, feeding the goats etc. Then we got to the outdoor play area and DH ran round it with her, while I took photos. I just don't have the energy to run round with her Blush. I don't get out of breath or anything, I just simply do not have the energy!!! So instead I sit on a picnic bench, feeling a massive failure as I'm too fat/unhealthy to play with my little girl Sad

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SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 03/10/2014 07:42

Aaargh! I am exactly the same weight I was 6 days ago! It is so annoying!
The positive note is that all my size 14 trousers fit perfectly now. So do all my pretty dresses, some of them in a size 12. It really doesn't matter if it takes months to lose the last 4kg, so I am not changing anything.

twobambinos it was 42+5 Smile

ColdFeet the lack of energy probably has as much to do with moving houses than with the extra weight. I am sure there are lots of other things your little girl loves doing with you until you can run around with her too.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 03/10/2014 22:13

At least it hasn't gone up senatus!!
if you are close to "normal" bmi then weight loss will slow down, but I'm sure you will get there!

I think my energy problems are mostly due to mental exhaustion! felt much better today, and got loads done. not sure what was different!

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SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 04/10/2014 08:22

I am glad you were feeling better yesterday ColdFeet

I am getting close to a BMI of 25, but TBH I would like to lose a bit more ultimately. I will switch to maintenance mode once I reach 70kg though - I don't want to go back to binge eating mode overnight one more time.
If I manage to maintain at 70kg for a few months, then I will try to lose another 10-15lbs.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 05/10/2014 01:33

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this week my solicitors confirm our moving date - wouldbe nice to know when this nightmare will be over and life can get back to normal! I'm hoping to have more good days than bad then.

I think that's a good plan. maintain the weight loss for a while before trying to shift the last few pounds. would hopefully end the binging cycles etc x

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ColdFeetWarmHeart · 14/10/2014 11:33

Just checking in, though it seems that everyone has disappeared/started to check in elsewhere!

I seem to be mainlining calories at the moment as my way of handling stress. I need to find another way to deal with things really. I went into Aldi yesterday and bought all sorts of biscuits and chocolate......oops!!

Not really on track in terms of weight loss/dress size reduction. I am hoping that once we move house I will have the time to implement some better habits etc

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SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 17/10/2014 11:41

I am still here ColdFeet! Food is an effective way to cope with stress, isn't it?

In the past few days I have been following exactly the same pattern as in my previous diets : I start to graze during the day, but don't take it into account "because it's only 20/40kcal". Except that 40 calories 20 times a day is 800 calories.

If I don't stop now it is going to escalate until I eat non-stop and find myself back into another binge-eating phase.

I don't understand how or why it happens. 3 weeks ago I had an iron will and didn't eat between meals. Now my self-control has disappeared. I cannot stop.

I have decided to up my calories to maintenance mode and hope that it will nip the binges in the bud.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 17/10/2014 14:16

I'm not sure its the best way to deal with stress, to constantly eat! lol Looking at the size of my bottom I'd say there was a better way....

At least you are recognising the pattern and what road you are heading down. You cant turn back if you're in denial.

Good luck with getting back on track x

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Lioness82 · 27/10/2014 01:30

I've been hiding for a few weeks, but ready to get serious again! As of today, I've lost 34.5lb total (after weeks of no change, scale jumped down 1.5lb this morning, which has spurred me on - via the biscuit tin - but still!)

Still trying to get couch to 5k into routine, been presented with yet more work, and challenge of darkness (maybe best to run under cover of darkness?!) I'll get there.

That's where I've been recently senatus "one treat is fine!" except a "chocolate cake and cream" treat every other day is well... A lot of calories I don't need, and scales that freeze.

On another note, I'm glad I found you ladies again - I was feeling really lonely (no good reason for this - dog is at my side, DP is downstairs) was about to find some chocolate but the urge has gone, I feel calmer now. Thank you both for keeping the thread going, and being out there.

ColdFeetWarmHeart · 29/10/2014 22:17

hi lioness, glad to see you back again. just try and take it one day at a time. Wanted chocolate but resisting is a major step!!! well done!!

I must admit, I haven't weighed myself or logged my food for a while. Mentally I am not quite "in the zone" to diet. Thankfully, my body is making changes for me. I don't think I am eating/binging as much as I am just not enjoying it. The taste of many foods just isn't as good/appealing, so I am not attracted to the biscuit tin etc. I have still had rubbish, don't get me wrong, but its more like the odd large cookie from the supermarket rather than a whole packet of custard creams! I plan to get back on it more when we finally move house and I can be more organised again.

I am also trying to spend my evenings reading instead of watching rubbish on TV (like many, I find myself snacking whilst watching evening tv). Seem to be evaluating my life at the moment, and trying to get rid of stuff that doesn't really bring much joy to my life (obviously necessary things like work and housework have had to stay!).

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