New Mums still seeking new bodies - this time we'll do it.

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

So a new thread, a new more motivated state of mind.

We will be skinny. No more excuses.

Green that is an amazing weightloss, you must be thrilled! Congratulations. And sticking to the plan over the weekend may have been tough but now you know you can do it. Oh I'm so proud of your weightloss, it's fantastic. It must be so inspiring and motivating to see a new figure appear.

No Sainsburys here, I'd have to head up to Northern Ireland. I have M&S jeggings and they are lovely (they wash really well and have a high waist to disguise my c-sec tummy). Penneys are ace for cheap clothes, I'm literally buying pieces as older stuff falls apart / gets too big. Next on my list is underwear, the downside of losing weight has been my shrinking boobs. To be honest I'm not to sad about it as they were fairly big, but I DETEST ill fitting underwear (the bra I'm wearing today is being held at the front by a safety pin otherwise I would have no clevage, just boobs sitting in a bra that's too roomy). The things I do to myself.

I was supposed to be meeting my friend for breakfast but changed it to coffee, I don't want to stuff my face after having a night off on Saturday. It's a bank holiday here so DH is watching the kids while I make a break for it .

I've also started an online computer skills course (basic secretarial/office skills) to keep me occupied in the evenings and to stop me eating. I also wanted to start doing something that means I will be able to return to work once the kids are in school (DH is self employed so I will strong arm him in to hiring me for the hours the kids are in school). Is it wrong that I was really excited about work clothes wardrobe opportunities more than returning to paid employment? I wonder if I can convince DH to give me a clothing allowance as part of my job...?

Thank you Sol, it is motivating. DH said I looked much thinner last night and I just feel more cheerful. My waist is much more noticeable now my stomach is going down too. I hope I can keep it up until Christmas. It would be nice to be in the 13stone something category by then.

I think the thought of nice clothes is spurring me on. I keep putting old baggy stuff in a charity bag and gazing at my nice stuff is keeping me going.
I threw out loads of knickers on Saturday too. I don't need giant size 20's, nor do I need size 12 and 14 bikini bottoms (no idea why I have those anyway). I'm going to sort out my bra drawer too. I like properly fitted ones too. My boobs show no sign of shrinkage yet.
I have some of the M&S jeggings in a 16, so hopefully they will fit soon.

I'm thinking of doing an book keeping or SAGE course too. DH is a company director so I've got the same idea as you. You definitely need a clothing allowance. It's nice getting dressed up for work. Improves your self esteem and all that.

I've been reading India Knights diet book 'Pig to Twig' . It's about low carbing and I supposed a lot of the advice is nothing we don't already know, but the physiology and personal experience bits are ringing a bell for me and making a lot of sense. Worth a read if you can get hold of a copy.

Hope you've had a great time escaping the children. You deserve it after the weekend.

I better go feed my two now.

Hi, can I join? I've got 4 stone 3lbs to lose, target is 9 stone 7lbs. Seems impossible but I'm so unhappy with my size.

Can't exercise a lot as not very mobile - I have MS and walk with a stick. Also had c section 3 weeks ago, in 3 weeks time can start exercise and will do some floor based yoga. I do walk about 30 mins a day but it is slow!

Had a great time being out and about. I ended up having lunch (salad with goats cheese, walnuts and balsamic) as my friend was hungover to death and in desperate need of a fry up. I avoided the amazing looking wraps and didn't even look at the burger section.

I like that we plan to integrate ourselves in to our husband's places of work. DH isn't very keen, he is afraid that I "will have opinions about stuff and will constantly share them", but he will have to suck it up or pay for childcare (he really doesn't want the kids in a creche) and I figure I can do a lot of the boring paper work from home so that we won't have to share an office. He did a Sage course and said it was very good and straightforward.

Welcome Dizzy. Of course you can join. Have you a plan in mind you would like to follow? Did you have a baby girl or boy? 3 weeks is very soon, I hope you're being kind to yourself. I also hope you're enjoying those snuffily newborn cuddles, I have a 10 month old and holding him is akin to wrestling an alligator. 30 mins exercise per day is great, I was still shuffling around at 3 weeks post section.

Hi :) I am loosely doing slimming world, in that I am using the recipes. Also using my fitness pal to monitor calories.

I had a boy, also have ds 1 who is 2 yrs 3mths. I know it is quite soon to start but ff now as I had to go into treatment for my ms so only fb a few days, and tbh I am so depressed looking at myself I have to do something! Do you weigh in on a certain day?

Congratulations! I have 2 boys too. I hope everything is ok re. your MS.

I know that it can be so mood changing to see your body post-childbirth, it's such a knock to your confidence. I started ww 2 weeks post c-sec, it was a very slow process though. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Look at it this way; you are doing something about it, it's a positive step you are taking. We all have separate weigh in days, whatever day suits you. Some weeks all the weigh in days get changed about if we are too afraid to step on the scales because we have fallen off the wagon and straight in to a cake.

Welcome Dizzy :) I will echo what Sol has said - be kind to yourself, 3 weeks is still so early. Could you focus on being really healthy for a couple of weeks and gently ease yourself into dieting? I am not trying to dissuade you, but 3 weeks post c sections, you must be tired and sore - really you need to be kind to your body :)

Green - fabulous news. Super well done. Also what a massive achievement to have a night away and stick to diet. Hmm not sure when I'll be giving up bf either.... I think I will try the 5:2, might do a fast day on Wednesday. I'm normally really busy at work, so it should't be too painful.
Sol well done on your salad. Hope you week has started off better (it sounds like it has). Your course sounds great, like yours and Greens plans for work. Unfortunately I think either I would murder DH if I had to work with him (completely different work styles - I am a OCD nutter with a clipboard and LOVE lists) in fact I am about to murder him now about his families Christmas presents (!)
I have those M&S jeggings, they are great, really versatile. Good news on being a size 15 :)
I had some chocolate today - feeling a bit unfocused, need to get back to being strict. It's going to be a tough week as out meeting friends with her DD tomorrow and out for lunch with another friend and her DS on Friday. SO hard to get healthy options at a - soft plat and b - a NT place because the cakes are yum!! I will try my hardest to be good...

I've tried to post twice and twice it disappeared! Grrr...

Green that's amazing weight loss! A stone in 2 weeks! Wow! Keep it going!

Your lunch sounds yum Sol. You have to allow some niceties to yourself now and again.

Welcome Dizzy and congrats on your DS2! Very of squishy newborn cuddles... Gosh I want another one...

It's still early days, your body just went through a major trauma, so be kind to yourself! Take time yo recover. You'll probably lose quite a bit of weight in the coming weeks naturally, mine seemed to fall off in little stages. I've never considered walking an exercise until I walked off most of my baby weight and then ate it all up again in cake, so even 30 mins count!

In my fast day I had scrambled egg with tomato for breakfast, soup for lunch and fresh veg salad for dinner. If you skip breakfast you can have more substantial lunch and dinner, and some people even only have just dinner, but I prefer 3 small meals at this stage.

Today I had weetabix with milk and blueberries, soup for lunch... And then I had a major coughing fit that made me throw up... I have this annoying cold that keeps coming back and then gets better but doesn't seem to go away completely. So when I came home I had some tea with lemon and honey and 2 flapjacks (in my defence they were homemade with no added sugar!).

I was going to have some scrambled eggs for dinner, so would have been out by about 200 cals today, but I didn't feel hungry. Do I've still made 500 cals. Just about. Wasn't intentional, and you're not supposed to fast while you're ill, but I just wasn't hungry. Just drinking lots of water now... Am already in bed so having very early night! I just hope DS wakes up a bit later than 4.45am tomorrow

How old is everyone's DCs btw? Does everyone have 2? My DS is 11 months and we're TTC number 2!

Thanks for giving me some ideas for meals Toes.
I was thinking of having soup for lunch and maybe stir fry for dinner. Yogurt for breakfast. How many calories have you been aiming for on your non fast days? Hope your cough is better soon.
Dizzy - you are probably still holding a lot of fluid too. Keep walking and healthy eating I say and see how that goes for a couple of weeks? I'd love another too but I am too old and have complicated pregnancies.
I have DS who is 3 1/2 and DD who is 15 months (both c sections, both breech and also had GD with DS).
Toes - I can't remember how much you want to lose?

You should aim at eating enough to maintain your weight. If you eat much less your body will go into starving mode and slow down metabolism. However if you eat 100-200 cals less I don't think it would affect things that much.

To be honest I hate calorie counting and just counted once on NFD to just see how much I eat. Despite some chocolate sweets and other rubbish I was within limits though.

I wanted to lose 1.5st. 5 lbs gone, so 16 to go... About 6 or 7 lbs will take me to my pre pg weight.

I feel a bit guilty talking about my weight loss goals on here tbh. I feel like one of those mums on sleep forum who complain about baby waking up 2-3 times a night when everyone is dealing with hourly wake ups IYSWIM...

That's a lovely gap Beyond. I definitely want another one as DS needs a sibling. I don't know how many more after that though. I have 3 in my head for some reason! Oh well, we'll see.

3 in total that is, not 3 after another one!

I would have loved 3 but I am 42 now.
Don't feel guilty - it's ok for us all to have different goals. I have 24lbs to lose but I am nearing my sticking point where I STS, must try and push through this...

Thank you for your comments. I gave just been eating do unhealthily and feeling like s**t, today I ate really healthily and I feel so much better for it. I will be eating what I want at weekends though!

Hi Dizzy. Welcome and congratulations on your new baby. Like the others have said, take care of yourself and make sure you're eating plenty. You're doing great with the walks though, having a section and two children to look after is really tiring.

Sol good choice for lunch! sounded lovely. Your work plan makes a lot of sense, childcare is very expensive. I don't have a clue about DH's work so I won't be too annoying.

Thanks Beyond, I just hope I don't wobble. I gave a feeling the weight will pile back on if I have something naughty to eat.
You're allowed chocolate, the fast day will probably help too. It is difficult to balance a social life with dieting.
I tried to have soup on fast days (tinned or homemade if you can be bothered to work out cals and portion up). Eggs, in any form. I prefer omelettes. Mushrooms on toasts are low calorie and filling. Or go to M&S and get ready meal things from the lunch section! I skipped breakfast, it made me more hungry. Stir fry was good too.

Thanks Toes, hope you're feeling better soon.

I have 2 girls. DD1 is almost 3 1/2 and DD2 is 15months. Both c sections. Not sure about a third. DH says no, so does my vanity. I'm probably too lazy.

Diet fail at lunch. Going to fast tomorrow to hopefully make up for it..
How's everyone else doing?

Okay, just realised I'd have nothing all day so I've just had Exante porridge. What did you have for lunch? Hope it was something lovely.

Green and Beyond, your children are the same ages! Did you meet on pregnancy/antenatal boards?

What did you have for lunch Beyond? I hope you enjoyed it!

Ive done ok today, stayed within calorie allowance as long as I behave the rest of the day! Have allowed for a small glass of wine, so looking forwArd to that :)

Well done Dizzy Enjoy your wine, well deserved.

No we met on this thread Toes But you are right - spooky. I also have amazing similarities with Sol. Mist be diet destiny :)

I shared with the DC, fish and chips and a slice of victoria sponge (huge though). So I guess it could have been worse. We were at a garden centre with soft play and there weren't really any healthy options, although of course I should have just left the cake they didn't eat....
I am planning to have tomorrow:
Yogurt & sprinkling of granola - 250 cals
Skinny soup - 200 cals
Stir fry and prawns - 200 cals.
An apple if I am desperate. so around 700 calls but really don't think I can 500!

That's not too bad Beyond. Thought you'd had a 3 course meal with wine!
I think it's a rule that you must consume baked goods in garden centres anyway. Good luck for your fast day.

Well done Dizzy

If only Green
I'll be such a lightweight (if only again) when I do have a wine.

Hi.

Oh Beyond that's not so bad. I had a bit of a shit day too diet wise, we can go and sit in the bold dieters corner together. Are you doing 5:2? Your fast day sounds good, are you planning to low carb on your regular food days?

Dizzy I love a diet plan with room for wine. They are the only ones that work.

Toes I have 2 boys, 3.5 years and 10 months. They are so much fun. I always thought I would have 3 kids but pregnancy was horrific both times, I really don't think my body could take another pregnancy. We've decided no more babies and I'm happy with that, we had champagne to toast our decision.

Green, you got to 16.45 without eating today? Were you not starving?

I had a crap diet day. Made lentil slop (which is very polite, it was super foul) and couldn't eat it. Had chickpea tagine, it was gorgeous. Had 2 bourbon biscuits and a finger of a mini twix, a few bits of the kids pasta and two pieces of garlic bread . My children were up very early, TinySol was up at 4.45am and DS1 was up at 5.30am. Tiny fell back asleep and I put him back in his bed at 6am, as I went to get in to my bed DS1 shot out from under the covers and yelled "SURPRISE", I nearly went through the feckin roof. He roared laughing (as did his Dad!) so I left them having a snuggle and I got in to his bed, I managed to sleep until 7.30 when DH woke me.

I bought some melon in the shop today so I plan to have that tomorrow, but really I just need to get back on track. Oh, I forgot to say, yesterday evening I had some sweets. My friend gave me some of her box of retro candy, so I had refresher bars and powder pops - yum! But it's a downward spiral, all these little bits here and there.

I think you've done really well Sol (and you Beyond). It's so difficult to find energy when you're so tired. Left overs are really tempting too. I always forget I ate them. I ate some left over cheese yesterday.
Your story about DS1 made me laugh though. We had both children in our bed in the early hours too, so I didn't have a great night. My DD1 is too grumpy to make any jokes on a morning (like her mam really).
Are you still planning on doing your JD diet next week?

I'm not sure how I didn't eat. I wasn't hungry, but I'd drank lots. We were at a Halloween craft party this morning. Then at my parents, I'd said I'd make them a Christmas cake and got roped into that over lunch time. Then I had to get DD2 to sleep and when she was asleep I had to go to the shops.
I'm just fixating on new clothes and my unflattering holiday snaps to keep me going. I'm glad I don't have any friends to spoil my diet this week.

Yes Green, I get left-over amnesia too, it's as if I'm blindly picking up stuff to eat.

We kept the kids up late last night hoping to re-set their time clocks, it worked with DS1 but Tiny was up at 5.45am. Am currently typing these while sipping an enormous coffee.

I think you are doing so well Green, it's so inspiring. You really seem to have changed all your habits. I am going to do the JD diet next week, but I'm substituting melon for grapefruit, my poor teeth can't handle the acidity of grapefruit. I haven't weighed myself this week, but I will when I remember.

Weighed myself, I've put on 1.5lbs since my lowest on JD. I think that is more to do with my over-indulgence over the last few days. So, I'm upping my protein all day, having almonds for a snack and melon for lunch with chickpea curry / salad for dinner. I have a busy afternoon so I don't know if I'll have time to make the curry.

Green, you do have friends, they are us. But we are super-supportive diet buddies (sounds like the crappest superheroes in the world). To be fair to my friend, the sweets were for my son but there was no way he would be getting them, I'd be peeling him off the ceiling. I don't mind DS1 having some chocolate but I think sweets are just pure sugar - so I eat them! Ah the lies I tell myself to justify eating junk food.

I made bright green Hallowe'en buns with DS1 so I'm going to have to avoid eating them. I have a weird thing about wooden kitchen utensils (I'm always certain I can taste fairy liquid/cleaning products off them)so I made the buns with them so I know I won't eat them. There's quite the insight in to my crazy brain.