Paul McKenna Can Make Us Thin! Thread Number 14 ~ A Simple Title, for Simple Weight Loss and All amongst Friends!!

[Solo]

Welcome to thread 14 of the Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin weight loss system.

The Golden Rules that will aid you on your journey with our like minded friendly support system are:

1. Eat what you WANT
2. Eat when you are HUNGRY
3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY
4. STOP eating when you are satisfied and full

This weight loss system is about re-educating your body; learning to listen to it and in doing so losing weight and inches. After all, eating a meal is not a competition, it's about enjoying what you are putting into your mouth and body, but not feeling bloated and uncomfortable (or guilty) afterwards!
Many people have issues around food. Many of us have been brought up by the 'clear your plate' parents of yesteryear which leave us feeling guilty if we leave even the smallest morsel of food, but we are working through this guilt or any other hang up we may have, and we are learning to leave a bit on the plate; return to it another time if we really want to or even feed it to the dog or the bin!
So!! forget diets; they may work for a while, but they aren't permanent solutions. This is a new way of living for your brand new life!! Let's get lighter for those summer outfits!!

The Paul McKenna system really works and is easy to maintain.

I've C&P'd our previous threads links as they are helpful.

Here are the book choices on AMAZON which is all you need to get started! they aren't compulsory, but they do help! it's something to refer to and listening to the cd's can really focus you.

This is the tapping technique EXPLAINED - this can be useful to combat cravings.

You don't have to buy the book and CD, but we have found that they do help and somehow they keep you on track, so it would probably be a good investment and will cost you far less than a couple of trips to WW or SW meetings, so do consider having them in your life.

Please feel free to join us, whether it's 10lbs or 10 stones you want to lose.
We are friendly, supportive and successful, but we're not hungry and that is a great way to feel when you are dropping dress sizes at the same time!!! so come on in and start living your new life today and make 2014 your year to drop a dress size or several...if we can get those lbs off a few at a time, just think how we could look and feel for the sunny summer time!!!
Some of our thread members are also doing PMK's Virtual Gastric Band and although this thread is not about this avenue, we will still be supportive of our friends partaking of this, so don't think we won't be there for you. I'm pretty sure that the Golden Rules will be just as helpful in this process as the I Can Make You Thin process so get stuck in

Here is a link to Freedom From Emotional Eating which may give some insight into why we do this and help us beat it.

Also he may be going through the ravenously hungry stage. My son ate everything he could get his hands on. He's now six foot one I think and very slim.
The book I read years ago called " Overcoming Overeating" taught me the importance of making sure that you always have all the special food you want in abundance so that you never get stressed and overeat because your scared of someone eating it .

I used to do what your son's doing Solo and I remember my mum getting cross, but never taking the time to find out why I was doing it. It's not just teenage hunger because he wouldn't be sneaky about it, have you tried talking about why he does it? I'm sure he won't tell you but if he understands that you're not judging him and only want to help him, he may eventually confide in you. I know it must be hard being on your own, but do you ever get any quality time just the two of you?

I too used to sneak food as a teenager but for me it was because my Mother wouldn't let me eat when I was hungry. I could only eat what she gave me so I would sneak food . That led to me bingeing when alone with food and eating everything I could get my hands on when no one was around and a lifelong pattern of disordered eating. Think Im finally over it now in my fifties.

I definitely used to do it for comfort not hunger. My main memory of being a teenager is just feeling lonely and misunderstood (same as everyone else I imagine!) and finding solace in food, because that made me feel better when nothing/no one else did.

I guess it comforted me too because it made me feel warm and full and nourished. It was my friend. Parents were crap.

My Mother hated me being anything other than skinny and had me on a near starvation diet most of my childhood. No treats allowed in our house.

my mother would get very angry with me and punish me by telling me that I would get fat and not talk to me. Food was given this big " issue" rather than it just being food.

That's awful Blodyn

My issues started when I was 10, my mum went back to work full-time so my brother and I went from having a full time mum with loads of time for us, to being latchkey kids with a mum who was too busy to spend time with us. This coincided with me starting puberty, which at 10 I was too young to understand. I remember desperately wanting to be like all my friends and instead I was having to contend with massive boobs, acne and periods. I've never liked or trusted my body since, I've always felt it let me down.

Hi All

Just catching up, by going through the thread. Well, I've had a mad couple of weeks, and been eating mindlessly. Hopefully, all is settled now, and I can get back into this properly.

All of my books are lying around unread, so need to pick them up again, and listen to the cd.

I have tried to eat conciously at times, but my mind has been whirring, so I haven't been able to concentrate on my food. One good thing, is that I've eaten what I wanted, and throw tasteless food away. I also leave food on my plate.

Even getting fed up of choc and biscuits now. The tins are full, and they seem tasteless.

So something is working. :)

NoGood not having your Mum around in your teenage years and indeed your earlier formative years is hard isn't it. I was a latchkey kid and an only child from the age of 6. I used to be left alone in the morning to get myself ready and then come home with my key round my neck and let myself in and be alone until my parents came home a couple of hours later. I remember my Mother would put my hair in pigtails before she left each morning and one morning one pigtail fell out. I tried and tried to get it back but it just didn't look the same and I got myself into such a state and was so upset that my hair wasn't like my Mum did it. Luckily my Dad came home for some reason, saw my distress and took me to my Mums place of work and she fixed it. My day was ok after that.

Jelly....Hi, sorry you have had a bad few weeks. Just reboot and it will be ok. Do you think you could always try and do the 4 rules each and every day rather than let it all go tits up and eat mindlessly? Even if you don't succeed every meal you will at least be consciously aware of what you are doing rather than just avoiding mindful eating completely. To me this method has to be done permanently even if I don't always get it right.

Well, I can't fit all my kitchen stuff into the cupboards, so there's no chance of us each having a cupboard.
I think Ds is growing, but this food thing has been going on for years! He's 6'6" tall! but skinny. I just don't know what I can do. If he comes downstairs and I'm in the lounge, I almost pounce on him with 'what are you doing?' or 'what have you got?' it's a nightmare. My kids eat well. Tonight, they had pork loin steak, mashed potato, carrots and (leftover) peas and sweetcorn with lovely gravy.
Last night they had a small portion of homemade beef and veg pie and a small portion of roast chicken (all leftovers), mash and peas and sweetcorn.
Night before roast chicken dinner/fresh veg. Night before, homemade pie, veg etc. It's all good stuff, never any rubbish or processed foods ('cept sausages!!!)

I was a latchkey kid too, but we were never hungry. We were overfed actually. That's awful too :(

Jelly! :) how's things?

I was thinking you could have tupperwear containers each. Why are you bothered about how much he eats though Solo......out of curiosity? He wouldn't eat if he wasn't hungry for it, I don't think.

I'm not working Rose and don't know when I will be again. Not on benefits either, so have to watch the money to a point. But that isn't really it so much. I think it's more to do with me going to get something ~ perhaps for the Dc's packed lunches and it's gone! or the fact that I'll buy all of us a treat and he eats/drinks them all. He gets pocket money and spends the lot on food and drink...waffles, ice tea x 2 big cartons, big bag of crisps or pringles type thing, chocolate bars, squirty cream. This is usually on a Sunday afternoon and before he goes to bed that night, I can almost guarantee it will all be gone. He doesn't make things last. I think it's pure greed.

I understand. It can be very frustrating when you go to get something from the kitchen and its gone. Especially if you need it for packed lunches. Still think you could do with a little tuck box of your own for your private stash though

Mmmm...shouldn't need it though. Poor Dd doesn't get pocket money and so just gets the odd treat here and there provided Ds doesn't get to it first! Those piggy sweets...I've had three packs disappear now. He denies all of them, but I know it wasn't me or Dd.
Think I'll have to have another chat.

Yes, occasionally, he and I go out together, but he'd much rather be with his friends than his Mum (

Feeling crap today, have just found (and eaten) half a bag of those wispy bites things . Trying to tell myself this doesn't mean the day is ruined, and I may as well keep scoffing. But am very programmed to think that way! It is very interesting (and sad) to hear your back stories about how attitudes to food have developed over time. I need to think more about this..

solo do you think there's an element of seeing if he can get away with it?

Still feeling positive here! I have put question marks on the fridge and food cupboards to make myself question if I am physically or emotionally hungry. So far, so good it's only been a couple of hours. I had to cancel my counselling this afternoon as I couldn't get hold of my dad to babysit. I had a sense of relief really. It's horrible weather and we're having a lovely time playing in the living room instead! solo it's for loss and adjustment. To be honest I was referred when I was massively sleep deprived and all my issues got on top of me (the fire, losing Mum/not having her here for Faithlet). I actually feel ok so I'm debating stopping the counselling. Might do one more session.

iggi it's fine. We all do it. Just chose to restart from now :)

Love the idea of question marks on fridge!!
Another one I read was
" What am I hungry for"
then you look in the fridge or cupboard and if there is nothing there that you really really want then your possibly emotionally hungry or physically tired.

HI everyone.

Lots of activity on the thread the past few days!
I'm doing ok at the moment, have got the FFEE book but have been too busy to look at it yet, just been following the 4 golden rules.

I'm the same as Solo at the moment, have to watch the pennies which can be quite hard on this woe as sometimes feels like there's not much money leftover for yummy extras and have to make things stretch.

Not doing too badly though :) I definitely feel like I'm thinking about food a lot less which I'm pleased with - my whole day doesn't revolve around food nowadays.

Iggi the whole day is definitely not ruined! You've had one blip, don't travel backwards, keep going down the path towards the new you! I know how hard it is though as I am very much an all or nothing kind of person but trying to break that cycle!

Hope you're all doing ok on this gloomy day! :)

Interesting reading everyone's back stories with food. I'm absolutely convinced that my mum was the biggest influence on my relationship with food. I was put on a diet at about 13 and have been on the cycle ever since :(

One thing I found interesting this week, I do my weekly food shop with my mum who is doing SW. She was complaining that she has to hide lots of the fruit from my brothers and stepdad as otherwise they eat it and there's not much left for her. Her theory was 'well they can eat anything they want, I can't'. Just thought it wasn't right

Obviously I love her loads but I do partly blame her for how bad my relationship with food has become.

Hi Bonnie you sound like your doing good!!
My Mother was definitely to blame for my disordered eating. She dieted her whole life always eating the lowest calorie things she could. Diet Tab, diet everything . We didn't have bread or potatoes, cakes, sweets, chocolate etc in our house. We even had that horrible diet low fat spread. She had serious food issues and called told me I looked fat if I gained weight.
When I had my daughter I was determined that she would not have any food issues. So I always made sure there was lots of varied food in the house and a "chocolate" drawer that I kept full and still do. I didn't buy expensive food though as I was a stay at home Mum on a budget but had lots of fruit, salad and veg etc.
Anyway my daughter is no 23 and has no food issues at all which makes me happy. She loves food and eats whenever she is hungry and eats whatever she wants. Brilliant!. Im so jealous as she is a size 6 to 8 and just doesn't gain weight. Sometimes I wonder if I had been brought up differently around food if I would have been slimmer and no problem around food.

Bonnie I'm much the same. My Mum was a fat teenager so started restricting my food from about 9 years old to try and prevent that. It resulted in me binging on 'naughty' food when it was in the house. I also yo-yoyed weight wise from that age right through til now. I know she meant well but it's screwed up food for me!

Interesting observation though. I recently bought GF Nature's path. It is yummy yummy yummy! I had it with natural yoghurt. Gorgeous. Then I bought small pots of yoghurt as I thought it should be easier for work. Sadly I bought fat free yoghurt. It tasted vile! I do think my days of choosing 'low fat' crap is behind me!

(I have been trying to post that for hours!).

Well the question mark worked again! I went to the cupboard thinking I was peckish but the question mark made me get a glass of water instead.

That's brilliant Faith

Thanks Blodyn (by the way once in our student house we looked after a kitten called Blodyn!). I feel very positive :)