Calling all Motivational Mondayers!!

[TheOneWithTheHair]

And anyone else who wants to join in. The idea of this thread is a way to record weightloss, motivate each other, discuss which methods if any we are using to lose weight and give the occasional kick up the bum.

Right you lot. I was going to wait until new year to start this thread but I think that if I'm going to have my head in the right place to start, I need your help now. I haven't weighed yet I'll do that on the 1st but I think I probably have 2 1/2 stone to lose. Last time I had 3st to lose so I'm seeing that as a postitive.

So, are any of you still out there? Who'd like to join me?

Hair you are the voice of reason indeed...

Bah... Just been taken aside at nursery again.

DS had another tantrum today over some toy cars... please tell me this a bit normal for a 4yo and he's not the menace she paints?

It's only happened twice, they've lasted less than 5minutes and he's fine afterwards...

Oh, and he has a cold,

Yes, it';s normal. Bit at them telling you unless he bit or hit?

Oh spb his nursery teacher is um... a fucking nightmare a bit of a one. She's very insincere and DS has never really taken to her.

She's clearly not enjoying her job, in the nursery christmas show programme she wrote 'the children have worked hard and the teachers even harder!'

she told me yesterday she said 'now, I'm going to move you from this activity and you can paint a picture for your mummy' when he lashed out (but didn't hit) a boy who took a train off him, and he fell to the floor screaming. When I asked him he said 'Oh, Mrs X shouted PAINT PAINT!!'

He's super well-behaved at home, and I asked how he's been otherwise , 'oh fine yes' because I never get any sort of report of anything other than 'naughty days' that are never more than spilling water out the water play or spilling his milk...

Don't worry Kato. I had the same with ds2. They seemed to pull me on everything. It drove me mad tbh and I'm glad he's my third. If he was my first I'd have been in tears. He's in reception now and his teacher is brilliant. She also says he's fine.

Thank you hair you've no idea how much I needed to hear that! - I've spent the afternoon googling '4 year old tantrums' and finding articles about toddler depression FFS! I'm usually so rational, but as he's my first, I have quite a problem letting him off to this world I have no insight into other than his or her reports!!

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oh that is ridiculous. Naughty because he spilt his milk??
He goes to school in Sept doesn't he? So you probably don't want to move him but I bet his 'behaviour' magically and instantaneously improves once he has a teacher who is actually aware these are small children and not teens

Yes no reports is soo hard. When it only comes to you second hand it's hard to know what to believe. Is it a school nursery or private?

eighty I'm 5' 5" and 1/2 so pretty average really. I just felt a bit brave.

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Well, he squeezed his milk to make it shoot out the straw...

I'm not one of those mums, but honestly, he's awesome. polite, kind and clever. She told me one day he was cheeky to her because he said he 'didn't like the way she was speaking to him' I'm such a wuss I just said okay, but I should have asked what actually happened.

He also complained because she'd wrote 'warm toast' on the snack board menu and he told her it wasn't warm at ALL!'

Gosh, he sounds precocious but he really isn't I swear!

He had problems before because they were shown Snow White and it terrified him and he was too scared to go to the toilet and walk past a picture someone had coloured in of the queen... She told me he was 'at it'

God I'm getting angry now reading this back! I also caught her throwing a jackey at another child once.... she is queen of the eye-rolling too, I've caught her behind children's backs doing this.

Sorry for the total hijack! But at least I've not hit the custard creams!

what does "throwing a jackey" mean?
Can he read as well ("warm toast") - if so could he be a bit bored.
I am not very child friendly/tolerant at all, but at 4/5 aren't they all little literal know it alls? The "warm toast" thing is something they'd all do - if they can read.

Good grief kato what a woman! Sorry but the children worked hard and the teachers even harder!!!! . FWIW I know I'll be the same as you (as in nodding head and agreeing and being wussy) and I'm a teacher and it sounds like she's making an issue of perfectly normal 4 YO behaviour to me. And poor child being scared of snow white and the lack of sympathy from her, she's in the wrong job I feel. DD is nearly 3 so not the same age, but if she wanted to do something and anyone tried making her do something she didn't want to (like painting) she'd throw a strop too, and she's by al accounts pretty well behaved except when I look after her, she saves her best for me aren't I lucky

Yes stealth to warm toast. If DD was told she could have warm toast (she can't read yet) she would pick up if it wasn't warm. Not in a moan way, just in a factual it isn't what it said it should be way.

She sounds like a nightmare Kato. All, and I mean all of the behaviour things you've stated , most teachers wouldn't bat an eyelid. Infact pointing out the toast wasn't warm would probably get praise for observation.

Write it all down somewhere in case you do ever have to complain.

Thanks everyone, we're on the home stretch now, he starts p1 in August.

Sorry I saw her 'throw a jacket' at a kid, as in tossed it at him! She's also says things like 'he's a typical man! Doesn't do as he's told!' Eye rolling...

Yes he can read already, so rather than her being impressed she took the hump!

wow kato impressed he can read already! Do they do that at nursery with him or have you been doing bits? . Only ask as I've been doing some very basic phonics stuff with DD (as she really likes it not because I'm pushy) and my Mum is a bit and I'm doing letters with her already. Apparently in her day it wasn't done this early . I think she thinks I'm pushy Mum but DD genuinely loves looking at letters and wants to know what things say etc. Sorry, completely off on a tangent there.

In annoying news I think I'm getting DDs cold, hopefully not bad enough to put me off workouts as I'm all set to go for the week end.

He's been reading since before he was three. Not just memorising, actually sounding out words, we first discovered this when at Christmas 2012 he read 'dirty dave hid her naughty knickers in the Henry Hoover' from my mums trashy magazine!

The other time this caused a fuss at nursery was when he read 'every day's a learning day' from a govt poster then told his teacher he hadn't learned anything today!'

Even numbers etc I have a video of him at 20months.

He's never been taught anything, he just seems to see or be shown something once and it sticks.

I feel like a dreadful hijacker today! I do apologise!! Sincerely!

He's soooo cute!!!

To both of you I would say, if they're interested in it, then be lead by them. Go for it. reastie ignore what anyone else says, they don't know your dd as well as you do. Kato take comfort in the fact that you are right, your ds is fine and don't give the teacher any more thought. Believe me, if there is a real problem, they will arrange a proper appointment.

Another NSV for me today. I got wolfwhistled at twice today! I can not remember the last time that happened!

I also need some help. I have a small job on the radio once a month. It is over night and I find sugar and coffee are what keeps me going the next day. This is fine and I do compensate the day before and after.

The trouble is that they now want me in once a fortnight. Great news for me but not so great for my energy levels or food cravings. What can I do? I can't eat "on air" and I don't want to fill up at 4:30am which is home time. What can I do for extra energy and chocolate combat?

Wolf whistles?! Fantastic!

How exciting about the radio? Can you tell us more or are you a secret celebrity??

Don't quite understand your timescales,can you elaborate? I can brew you up an energy boosting smoothie recipe to take on the go?

hair it was me. I'd name changed for something else and forgot!

Oh Tobermory, I'm glad it's you. I thought I was losing it big time!

Kato I'm about as far from celebrity as you can get. I do a parenting phone-in on radio5live. It's in the early hours so no one really knows. It's been two years now and I love it. I get payed to tell people my opinion. How cool is that!?!

I need something for the next day as I get about 2hrs sleep before I have to do the school run etc. I'm usually at my wits end by about midday. It's then that I struggle and reach for the chocolate.

Hair I had a job when at uni on an overnight radio programme as holiday cover (was up from 12:30 - 6:30 am ) and I used to have a smoothie to help me through. OK, yes, it's high in sugar but maybe if you made it yourself and added oats and yoghurt to bulk it out a bit and keep you filled up (maybe even nuts too) you could quietly sip every now and again. I found when I worked on that show I had a desperate healthy craving for fruit which helped me feel better with being up at an ungodly hour so the smoothie really helped. Swit swoo at your wolf whistles.

Kato you have a genius child